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Lost in love. (5)

1 Name: Akero Karga : 2014-08-09 07:12 ID:zEwLZLGM [Del]

Where do I begin with this whirlwind... I am heading off to college in 14 days, and I am ready for everything except one; I am in love with a girl in my town. We can spend hours getting lost into conversations and we understand eachother more than anyone else. This past week I confessed to her that I truly cared for her and how I wanted to know where we stood before I left. The thing is, she was raised as an LDS ( Mormon) Church member and they are very strict about this kind of thing, shes turning sixteen and im 17 but she said thinks she isn't old enough to feel in a way that she can reciprocate them, but I know she likes me since we talked about this a few months ago and we have only grown closer since then. Could it be her parents? No clue.
I guess in the end I have no idea what to do, I haven't talked to her since then and I feel like theres a pit in my chest. So I am asking my fellow dollars for some advice or words of wisdom.

2 Name: Blinking!!VVr++Kk/ : 2014-08-09 07:24 ID:A31C4H4P [Del]

If she doesn't want to pursue a relationship with you at the moment, you should accept that. You need to wait until she feels comfortable before you start anything. And hey, it's not like you can't enjoy her company in the meantime.

3 Name: ikkalokka : 2014-08-09 07:33 ID:MFdkKHfj [Del]

Let her think, take some distance.
Most of the time people realize what they have when they lose it.
So give her some time and space to let her think about what she wants to do with your relationship.

4 Name: Akero Karga : 2014-08-09 13:01 ID:zEwLZLGM [Del]

>>3 But how long do I wait, what if she is uncomfortable and doesn't want to be the one to bring itup? (If you ant tell I am awful with this sort of stuff.

5 Name: BarabiSama !!C8QPa1Mt : 2014-08-09 17:59 ID:o7YaVxEo [Del]

>>4 You wait until she tells you yes, if that's the answer you want.

But realistically, that will probably never happen. She'll meet hundreds of other people in the years between now and when she feels 'ready', including people who are better for her than you and others whose affection outshine yours. It's up to you whether you want to wait for her or move on with your life. If she's not someone dedicated enough to tell you how she feels despite you not waiting for her, then she wouldn't have been someone worth waiting for in the first place.

Stay friends with her for now. Push any romantic shit you have to the side. Give her a few months out of respect, then just start looking at other girls. Move on with your life. The last thing you want is to be the kid holding onto the skirt of someone who never looks back at them. Don't waste your time waiting, both for your sake and hers.