I couldn't be more content with myself, I like myself, my appearance, my personality, I don't wanna change. I also love my parents. By the title I mean the things that follows, for example, I have no pride in my country/nationality, the traditions in which I should probably follow, how in supposed to tell everyone where I'm from, I'd like to delete that part of my life. I could even be ashamed of it. As you might've guessed I'm from a country you probably never heard of. I also hate my name. My first name, my middle name, my last name, all of it. Everything that ties me into this culture which "defines who I am," which is just bullshit to my eyes. I feel held down by those things, I also feel like they're a waste of time, and they're doing nothing but making me upset, that's why I could never accept those things even though I'm tied down to them. If I could get rid of them now, I wouldn't think twice about it.

I'm just venting, this probably doesn't even warrant a response, but please tolerate it, I felt like posting it somewhere.

You can change your name and pretend to be someone else..But you can never change where you come from. To me, acceptance is the best answer. Just know youre never alone.

I never / will never lie about where I'm from, just that if possible I don't want to talk about it, ever.. When it comes down to it I can't pretend to be from someplace else. I can't change it, but I don't want to bring it up. Having been told 'this is the place where you belong' when you're completely detached from it is worse than not knowing where you belong. You try to deceive yourself, then start to question your identity, & finally realize that there's nothing you could do.

my name, is a very regional name, a name is supposed to be your title as a human being, but my name and I couldn't be more further apart, that's why I hate it. I just feel like it doesn't define me the way it's supposed to. Like it belongs to a total stranger. & not me.

I just wish the world worked on names and nationalities less than it does, then maybe I'd be less upset.

I dislike my name as well but theres nothing I can do. On the other hand I like it because its what my parents gave me. You dont decide what name you get unless you change it..but that's only when you really cant stand it. As for your nationality, I cant relate..Im proud of mine..despite all of the casualties we've had these past few years, Its where I come from..Theres always some good in the bad. Youre not alone though, theres other people who dislike where they come from.

No matter where we come from, we are all the same..human beings. The Dollars alone are made up of different people from around the world..Things such as nationality, race, etc, dont divide us. Sorry for the long speech..just felt the need to say it.

Not at all. I'm happy that you took the time to write it. Thank you. :-)

Youre very welcome.

>>1 I seem to see it the same way as you but I suppose I take it a bit further when it comes to parents. I don't like my name and I suppose I don't mind where I come from but I'm not patriotic. I come from Australia which is really multicultural so I think it works well because I don't really feel like I fit into a category of that race as much. But I don't like factors that I don't have control over which is why my race and name that was already decided for me doesn't mean much. But when you think of it our biological family was also decided for us so in the same way I don't think of them as family. If we get along then I would think of them as friends but if we don't then to me theyy would think of them as just other people who I happen to live with. I'll just leave it at that for now.
And I'm not sure if you want to go in this direction but I see religion in a similar way because it's often based on your parents. If your parents believe something it's expected of you to believe it too.
But I will say that you're not alone in seeing things that way and in my opinion it's better to. I also think it applies to a lot more than you'd think.
Well, that's it for me ^^

>>8

I'd love to come from a multicultural country.. Here, it doesn't fit as well.. I always viewed those diverse countries as my ideal place to live.

About parents, what you say is definitely true, it's harsh but realistic, but I'm comforted by how even if our parents weren't our choice, we were their choice. That's why I could think of them as my parents, and they've done enough for me to appreciate having them in my life.. But you're right in the sense that if they were horrible parents I would consider them strangers. It's true with religion too.

It's not great for all of us but it's great that I'm / we're not alone.. I hope we'll make it through. :-) thank you

It's a part of you, and your family. It's the country who give life to your family, and to you. You can't change it.

You don't have to like it, or to hate it. Just accept it.

>>9 Well, I suppose we might look at this differently since our parent are different. Our parents might have chosen to have a kid but I don't see how they would have chosen us specifically. But one thing that really frustrates me is how we come into this world relying on others. I mean, it's good and all that our parents support us and stuff but really, what choice do we have? It's not like e can survive on our own when we're young. I guess to me it's not enough to just feed me and clothe me because any parent would do that so it just doesn't seem special. I think I'm thinking too much about this and it's giving me a headache so I'll just leave it at that XD.
I guess our perceptions on life seem to differ a fair bit because even though I have a family and all, I would still say that I'm alone. In a crowd but still alone :P

I understand how you feel. I'm Hmong and basically hate my race. There are a handful of people that are my race that I can stand, but only because they came up to me and actually wanted to become friends with me. I guess the root of my hate is just the fact that they treat me like shit. \(-3-)/

Also, you wanna know what my Hmong name means? Daughter. Literally I'm called daughter LOLZ

And so, in response to your post, I say just live with it. Once your born into something like ethnicity or family, it's hard to break free from those bonds. It's the beliefs and morals that we choose to believe or not believe. You don't have to accept it, but you do have to acknowledge it in the very least.

Sorry... I know your post was a rant, but yeah...

>>12

I would've felt bad if no one posted anything, thank you for taking the time to do it. :-)

Interesting. I also went the same thing. But I tried not to take everything seriously, and it works. Now I can say "I love this city and this country!" with a big smile while it's actually a big lie. I hate my country. And its culture. But just get along with it, what you feel doesn't have to be what you do. Use them. Use them to improve your skills, and then leave someday. If you success and become famous, you can have another name which everyone will use to call you.
But "easier said than done" I guess. Good luck.

Sorry if what I said is hard to understand. ><

>>14

Lovely advice. Thanks for posting. I'll try my best to do what you just told me.

well this is what I think. everything depends on you whether you want to completely discard those things or if you force yourself to keep looking on them. Remember you are you just don't worry about where you come from or what culture or tradition you have. if anything try to be proud.

I'm American, but I don't love my country. I have nothing against it and think it is a nice to place to live, but I don't see America as the greatest country in the world.

All countries have their flaws.

Also, I am normally against U.S. intervention as I see that as the reason why many people dislike the United States and George Washington said to maintain neutrality.

I support war in self- defense, otherwise the U.S. should stay out of other countries' conflicts. I support the war in the Middle East because of 9/11 and we should have not pulled out of Afghanistan. Since we left Afghanistan, our troops have died for nothing.
Except for that, I am against American involvement in the Middle East. The U.S. should sit back and let it self- destruct from its own violence.

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Why do you think you should "probably" follow your country's traditions?

>>21

Because of society and all, but my parents don't really care, they themselves were brought up outside my country, so I'm free on that aspect, only when there's a family getup I have to temporarily get into an alternative persona, and that's it.

But you'll always run into those people who question you why are you doing this and why are you doing that, I always let them that I don't care in the most polite way, but it pisses me off.

Somehow I doubt you're willing to say, but if you don't mind, what exactly are your origins and what about them makes you feel so ashamed?

>>22
I'd say you have a perfectly good reason to be angry. Societies certainly don't give individuals considerations over themselves. But I'd like to know something, who is your persona?

>>23

I'm Arabic.

>>24

My persona is a mirror. It mirrors the behavior and antics of everyone around me. I do it on because it saves me a lot of unwanted attention. I'm used to it, but I don't love it.

>>25
It's a good adaption to say the least. Where does your conviction stem from, the condemnation of these unsatisfactory life elements?

>>25 Are you Muslim?

>>26

Distance, mostly. I couldn't bring myself to be happy about things that make others happy, I couldn't bring myself to dislike people who do things they 'should be ashamed of.' All those special things happening I can't care less about, I've been using my own standards, values & ideals, and it contradicts so much with that of my society's. It got to the point where I hated associating myself with them because they can be so illogical and nosy.

>>27

Yeah, I started to question my religion too because it's always associated with my race, but after I've done my research, I probably would've been Muslim even if I wasn't Arabic, so I don't mind that. My own interpretation of Islam is quite different from those around me though.