Ehh my problem is a bit unusual, I'm pretty normal in real life & I might even be an excellent conversationalist, but the thing is whenever I'm online, whenever I feel like getting into a chatroom or something similar, I freeze, if the stereotype is people who don't know how to start a conversation in real life are the most talkative online, I'm the complete opposite.

I'm 17 years old, I think of countless responses to say, but I get extremely uncomfortable when I have to pick one, and I ended up bailing. Just now I entered a DRRR! chatroom before I panicked for some reason and made a swift exit.. How could this be? I've grown more self-conscious & I've a bit of an identity crisis but theoretically when you're fine in real life it should be easier online, behind the anonymity mask and all.. What should I do?

is perhaps the fear of rejection of your ideas and comments, see, people usually afraid of being rejected in normal life, in the flesh, that is because much people appreciate the life they have right there. if it happens to you in reverse, because the online life is more important to you than the "normal" life.... is just my comment, do not pay much attention, spend a nice day!

>>1 I'm the opposite, I get anxious at portraying my thoughts in person aloud but I'm comfortable with chatting and I can get my thoughts across quickly. Speaking in person or online is a skill and like all skills, it needs practice and maybe a little risk. Risk being embarrassed and give it a shot, be sure to stay safe as well. Ease into it also. I hope that this helps :3

>>2
you make a valid point.
Just be yourself. People will like you for who you are. Start off by saying a simple "hey" then go from there, depending on the topic. Just relax and you will slowly lose your social anxiety.

for those who struggle to talk to people, either live or online, only I have a tip, a little one.
Practice the conversation once a day minimum an hour with some friends, a good one! I'm not good at helping people, but I'm trying here. has its risks but everything in life has it, even walking and breathing. ♪

Hoshi,

Yes, there are those who are loud and obnoxious, can converse with ease outside as well as online. But you know what else? There are timid, gentle people who are also quite fearful when it comes to chat-rooms and like you said; shy, quiet ones who talk nonstop on just about everything on the internet; and in your case, folks with great people skills irl but not so much here, more or less.

We all exist. It's normal. We're human. Each, unique in its own way. And yeah, we all have masks, disguises, armor, shields, and/or walls we put up. How we use it; how it's displayed, is the key difference.

For you, perhaps, that cover is actually applied when you are talking with others in person(which I can be way off, of course). You know what/what not to say, and when to say. It's something you're used to, or, quite frankly, programmed to. Once you come here, enter a chat; the conversation's already rolling, all anonymous, and BAM. You freeze. You've just walked into a foreign nature, so to speak. Compared to say the public street, you stroll your way in with a group of strangers whom are exchanging words among one another, chit-chatting, etc. What would you say? How would you even say it? Sort of like that, yes? Just so you know, that goes for many of us here.

Here's the thing, don't worry about who you are, or what defines you. Since a 'definition' doesn't exactly leave room for change. And we, as human beings, will always change; adapt. But look, you've already taken a step to write and make a thread. Can't be so hard to say hi in chat-room, right? You're free to comment, question, add, state, and do w/e. We don't judge(usually). Don't think so hard on what to respond with, be you.

Honestly, there are some pretty cool peeps here and there. So don't be afraid, and stay long enough..you might be able seek them out too.

- YITMAS

Just be who you are. Online or Offline, just tell others what you want to say. If you accidentally said something mean, apologize from the bottom of your heart. If you want to support someone, give them advice that you think might work. Just be who you are.

I been alone for many years and talked to people here and there, idk actually. So far I know I got a strong tough personality that doesn't quit so people like me being around them even if I don't do much but sit there look pretty and eat a lot. They find me funny to depending on the heat of the moment. I'm very shy online and to talk with people at 1st but when it comes to attraction (In person only) I'm a bit of a go getter for some reason. I mean if I like someone I'll blankly say it... I don't often feel that way for people, but when I do I don't miss the chance. People usually tell me I'm not clear or expressional but the things I say seems about right at some points. (in person/texting) so idk if there's much a difference sometimes but besides maybe the internet make it so much easier for a person to just do over in person.