I've been afraid of boys since long time ago. I didn't like to play with them and I cried even though they did nothing to me. Now it's not that severe anymore, and I have some guy friends. Although sometimes I still get nervous whenever I talk to them.

But when I meet someone who have a feeling for me, I get scared. I try so hard not to meet them. One of them even think that I'm a cold hearted girl just because of that. No. It's just I'm scared. But how can I tell them.

What should I do?

What you need is a friend to turn to for advice, preferably one of your female friends who is very friendly with guy. If you dont have one a male will have to do. You can also start by saying "hello" and small talk, baby steps basicaly. As for guys who are comeing on to you just give them a smile and dont promise anything to them, get them around your fingers ya know? It actualy feels very impowering, but if thats not your way I dont recomend it.

I think you should start with group outting with a bunch of friends and at least one close girl friend. I think it'd be more relaxing to chat with boys in a group as well as with people you're comfortable with. As for by scared when meeting boys that have feelings for you it's natural I think. You can't run from that forever though, if you don't have those same feelings just so and be mature about it. They might be bummed out but if they honestly feel anything real for you then they won't disappear.

I hope that helps any :3

There are shy and asocial boys, too. Speaking with them would make it easier to get used to talk with boys. Don't forget there are many people like you both in girls and boys. I was also not very good at social situations, but seeing similar people encouraged me. I am very sociable now, because I know every human has problems and fears. Don't let them bring you down. Good luck :)

I really don't know how to answer your question, but what I can say is that there are always gonna be people that you're gonna have difficulty speaking with, like I'm REALLY, REALLY awkward around lots of girls, but there are still those who I can speak to 'cuz we somehow have SOMETHING in common.

Thanks all, i'm glad that you're willing to read this post and give me some advices. :'D *hugs* Well, recently I don't really have a problem to talk to my male friends in the class, although sometimes I still get nervous, but it's not really a big deal for me now. My main problem now is that I still get scared when I meet someone who have a feeling for me. T-T

>>2 Yeah, it really helps. I have female friends who is very friendly with guy. She is my best friend. And thank to her I can get along with some guys in my class. :)
>>3 That's the problem. There's someone who likes me since 3 years ago and yeah, I don't have the same feeling. He never literally confess to me though, because I always give an excuse not to meet him. But it seems that he hasn't given up yet, and it scares me. T-T
>>4 Wow, it's good that you have changed, I want to change too. Thanks for your advice. :D
>>5 Yea, I also have a male friend who shares the same interest, and we have many things in common. It's indeed really fun to talk to him. :D