Normally I don't put my personal problems online, but I honestly don't know how to ignore this. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two months. I've known him since August. When I first met him I fell hard, then I found out that he started seeing this girl, (I know for a fact that the reason he asked her out was out of pity. So I didn't say anything about my feelings.) The entire time they were together she would come to me for help and I tried to help her the best I could. Then about a month before he and I started dating he broke up with her partially because of an issue that happened at his home and had him sent off to a mental hospital and her sent to jail, and partially because she had constantly talked about wanting to leave him/cheat on him. When she found out he and I were dating she spammed his cell phone with voice mails threatening me and calling me all sorts of names. Her mother even called and threatened me. I'm just lucky that she had lost my number before all that started. She has posted on her facebook my FULL NAME.....I had to completely change my information on that site and I did block her. Now she is expecting us to take care of her dog, for 7 months. So far she hasn't tried to contact us since July 2nd, but only because her phone isn't working.

The thing is....I'm also dealing with an ex who has been verbally attacking me every chance he has. Usually he is quite and doesn't bother me, it's why I never blocked him on any website or block his number. But the other day he sent me a spam of messages calling me all kinds of names and cussing me like I'm scum.

Normally I wouldn't go to anyone for help and just ignore it, but I can't handle all this drama at once.

(P.S. my boyfriends ex-girlfriend still has a lot of his clothes ((she stole when she moved back to her mother's and father's)) so the only reason we're in contact with anyone who knows her is to try and get his things back since he has basically nothing to wear now.)

sorry for all the talking... ^^;;;;

If it's gone to messages, calls, and such, Then just take legal action, it's illegal over the internet in some states and countries, and you can get a full restraining order on him.

Aria-chan,

Let me get this straight.. Your situation is a little jumbled.
You fell in love with a guy, dated for two months, although he was already in a relationship(no 'partially' either they are or aren't). But before y'all were dating.. He went to the hospital, she went to jail due to something involving her wanting to leave him. If she's in jail how can she go on fb? Unless that was her mom, would make more sense. After all that, she is expecting you and your bf to take care her dog? Where the hell is the mother..? And you said her phone isn't working although she's in jail..? Confusing, a bit. And you're also dealing with an ex threatening you, not your current bf.

Correct me if I'm wrong with these series of events. If not, then here is what I'm gonna tell you.

You do not need to be taking all this shit from insignificant people. If she ain't your friend, screw her! You're not responsible for anything on her behalf. Fuck her mother too for being a bitch. What kind of mom raises their kid like that and threatens other kids(if you are a kid)? Ain't none of her damn business. Don't worry about fb, just block and you'll be fine. To be clear, does your boyfriend love you and only you? 'Cause he needs to decide. If he's only helping her out of pity. He needs to drop her. No one should be forcing him to do anything. If they bother you again, take matters into your own hands and go to higher ups. As for the ex, no one should be going through an abuse like that. You block this asshole. He contacts you again and talks more shit, take it straight up to the authorities and see his ass go bye-bye. Honestly don't know why the ex is bothering you, but could care less. You shall never feel inferior to anyone. When you file a report just make sure to have some sort of evidence and you'll be okay. You and your boy should live and love peacefully, those who intrude; cut 'em out of your lives. That's all I can say for now. Goodluck and take care.

- YITMAS

Well 1st your bf was wrong to temporary dating that girl b/c she didn't know about your feelings and if you have a nice guy in your life you don't want to lose them so you guys probably messed her up mentally and emotionally. You guys seem like good people to her but you lied and lying can hurt. At the same time the messages you received you have no choice but to report "harassment" b/c you don't want action go into play.

>>1 that sounds like harassment and if it's gotten to the point in which it's affecting your daily life then I suggest you contacting the police. They may even help get his stuff back too. Best of luck! :3

Okay well I should have clarified that when She started all of the threats she was out of jail, her mother bonded her out. And She didn't go to jail for wanting to leave him. She went to jail for beating up his little sister. I know that none of you know me so you don't know how I am personally. But I don't think to highly of myself and have been in the situation of being friends with a guy I've liked and him not knowing and then dating another girl. I don't think I have a chance and don't say anything. I did the same to this, and I had helped them with a lot of problems they've had (her not communicating her feelings to him, and he worked night shift at a factory job so he slept all day). But back in February she started talking about guys that she wanted to leave him for, and I had told her that it wasn't right to talk like that if she 'loved him'. And I tried to keep out of that because I didn't want to be accused of being the one to break them up. The next month she kinda started acting like she was done with all the guys she was talking about until she met his friend....I'll call him 'Rick'. And then she got in a fight with his sister. My boyfriend, who was her boyfriend at the time and one of my best friends, had asked me to go to a comic book store to help him fine her comic books she wanted. (He was going to buy them for her.) And on the way there he asked what he should do about the relationship, because he felt like she was pushing him away. And I told him that they needed to sit down and talk about why he felt that way. Because she basically felt the same at times. Then the next thing I know, in the middle of my math class (studying for the end of course exams), I get a text from her. She's complaining about how he doesn't listen or care about her. I told her to talk to him about it and that I was in class. Then she starts spamming me about how he ruined her life and that she went to jail because of him. I replied telling her that she didn't go to jail because of him, he wasn't the one fighting with his sister. She was and that she's the reason she went to jail. I think my exact words were 'you went to jail because your dumbass got in a fight with his little sister.' And she started cussing me telling me that I'm not a friend. That a friend wouldn't say that and saying that he was cheating on her with me. I had a boyfriend at the time and was fairly happy with him. (We broke up because he never made time for me, but made time for his friends all the time.)So because I was tired of her saying all this I went to the bathroom called 'her boyfriend' (at the time) and told him what she was doing and saying, then turned off my phone. when I got home I assumed she was over her temper-tantrum and turned my phone back on. I had spam messages and I started crying because of what she was saying to me. My mother attempted to talk to her telling her that I was being a true friend when I called her out on her lie. Because where I'm from, if you don't tell the truth to a friend you aren't really friend. It's how I was raised, call out a friend when they're wrong because if you don't someone else will and they'll get hurt. Then he broke up with her soon after that because she started controlling everything he did, and she was pissed when his mom gave him his car back. And we started dating about a month after they broke up. (Me and my boyfriend at the time broke up before they did.((just for the record)) And the voice mails started when we told a mutual friend of all 3 of us (my boyfriend(her ex)and I have known him for years, she had just met him) that we were taking my sister to the mall, he asked if he could come and we said sure. The next thing we knew we were getting spam calls from his ex cussing both of us, cussing me and threatening me, telling me that I'm going to hell, and so on. Then on the way to the mall with my sister, his ex's mother calls and leaves a voice mail saying "you better answer this phone boy, and tell that little bitch girlfriend of yours that when I get there her ass is mine." We quickly got what we went to get for my sister then went to my mom's and let her listen to it. An officer had come down to handle something for my mother so she asked him about the things she was threatening (because in one message they threatened to call their lawyer if he didn't answer the phone) and he said that they can't do anything because all of the events happened in our state and they can't do anything with a lawyer. And that if the harrassment continued for more than a few weeks then to report it. For a long time we hadn't heard anything from her and because she had left a few things at his mothers we had kindly put them together and currently have them in a box. She was supposed to bring the clothes she had taken from him when she came up for her court date and didn't. We didn't know she had come up until she had left, only calling to ask if we could watch her dog for 7 months. We were kind enough to say a month because if we had said no then he would have been put down, because the animal shelters are full around this area. I've kept him from throwing away her things because I know she'd start even more drama if she decided she wanted them back and we didn't have them. Even though her mother and her mother's boyfriend burned a few of his clothes. (She had sent texts saying that they were starting to burn his things when she had gotten home from work one day and she put them in his car((this is before she found out we were dating). So I have gone out of my way to keep all of her things for her and to try and help her. I don't know if you'll believe me because you really don't have any proof unless you want me to post the messages she sent me blurring out the number and my name. But I'm not the type of person who would purposefully try and screw up someone's relationship.

And about my ex, I have him blocked on everything. But I still have the messages he sent me calling me all those name and things. I can't block his number on my phone because I don't know how to on the app I use to text (to save minutes). so if I get messages from him again I will take it to the authorities.