I'm a 17 Y/O male and I'm bi. I don't have a problem accepting that here because of anonymity. And for the past four years I've had a great friend, he's been really supportive. And this year I realised that I have feelings for him. He's pretty open minded in most matters but I don't know how he'll react to this one. So how do I let him know that I'm bi, I like him. All this without deteriorating our current relationship.

All help is appreciated. :)

There is no way to let him know you have feelings for him without changing your relationship. Your relationship will inevitably change when you reveal this to him.

So, it's a risk. If you tell him and he doesn't feel the same, you might not have the same friendship as before, depending on how much he would care about something like that. It depends on how you think he would react.

Some people wouldn't really care. They'd be able to continue being friends with someone they know has stronger feelings for them. Other people would not be able to, they would find it too awkward or they wouldn't be able to look at you the same. Basically, you could still be friends, but it likely wouldn't be the same sort of relationship you have now.

If you really think he'd feel the same about you, then go for it. If you really value your relationship now, and don't think he'd feel the same, then it might not be worth it. I'm not sure if you even know his sexual orientation or not, so that may be something else to consider. If he doesn't like guys, it might not be a good idea to tell him if you think he'd feel weirded out being friends with someone he knows has feelings for him.

Halcyon,

It should be alright to let him know that you're bi, knowing that he's an open-minded, supportive friend. But don't assume he'll immediately return the feelings. It can go sideways if you tell him how you feel out of the blue. Give it some time after he knows you're bi. And knowing his sexual orientation would also be a good idea. If you find out he's not gay or bi, don't force it on him because you might lose something quite important and no one wants that. But if he is, then play it cool. Again, give it some time, develop a stronger bond, a good foundation, reinforce those feelings and allow them to reciprocate. And there you have a new beginning of something amazing. Just keep your head up if things don't work out the you want it too. It'll work it self out and be okay.

- YITMAS

I say play it safe b/c Inuhakka got a point but if anything try to see what he likes. Magazines or by people to know if he's straight or bi or any sexual interest. If you ask him straight forward don't look disappointed or show a sign you were interest so the friendship could still stay strong. It was just b/c you weren't sure and you just wanted to ask. If he figures it out you were bi just tell him you saw him as a good friend but if he ever wants to go out with you let him know he's not a bad guy and you would consider it. Then it'll show you don't denied that you would have interest anyway b/c he's a good person. GL buddy!

Just kiss him.