Hello Dollars, I have a really personal problem. I have a girlfriend, neither of us are 18, and we're both girls. We see each other every weekend, and I'm actually going to sleep over at her house this weekend. We've been together for over a year. We've done a lot of personal things together, and discussed a lot of personal topics, but we haven't actually DONE anything TO EACH OTHER. The truth is, the both of us are ready to go down on the other, but neither of us has the courage. And, a little unfortunately, I'm kind of the "in charge" one. She's a very timid girl, really shy, and so beautiful. I love her more than anything. We end all of our conversations with "I love you"s, and we've openly admitted to the other that we're both ready to do something more intimate. Now, seeing as how I'm the "Ring Leader" she's ALWAYS taking cues from me. I'm usually the one who starts our kisses, and when she finally musters up her courage, she'll take control of it. Like i said, she's really shy, but she's so wonderful when she's courageous enough to take control of a situation. Anyway, it's clearly MY JOB to start any intimacy or personal moments, and I'm terrified. I see all her cues and hints, but when the crucial "Turn back" or "Continue" moment arrives, I'm usually to nervous to continue. And she can see that too. We both know the other is really nervous when it comes to actually doing anything, and she's so understanding, but we're SOOO ready to take this further. We've hit that crucial moment so many times, and never gone past it, and I'm ready, and she's ready. One more thing, I have an anxiety disorder that I've taken meds for, but they never help. I gave up on meds months ago, and it feels so much better without them. I'm less depressed and and I'm less lethargic. My girlfriend has noticed too, and she says she glad I'm off them because i seem so much happier. So, my point here is, i need tips. Not meds. Not anxiety.

How do I get past that crucial moment, how do I take it further? Because I'm certainly not the only one who's been really nervous about this. There's gotta be some way to get past this and finally be intimate with my girlfriend. Does anybody have any tips, has anybody else gone through this? Can anybody give me any "Cautions" or tell me things I should watch our for and how to get past them? Does anybody else here have anxiety that seems to control your life? Please, feel free to share if your first experience with somebody was this terrifying or if it was absolutely wonderful and why.

~Thx dollars!

sounds like OP is on a slop-ery sloop. ;D

Sticky situation.
lol

I don't really get what you mean.
She's ready.
You're ready.
You both understand each others' anxiety.
The problem should solve itself pretty rapidly...
Start, keep going and if there's no problem, continue :T

Come on, you guys. It's not this easy, if it was, she wouldn't have been asking.

Okay. First of all, you girls are really sweet and seem like a beautiful couple. I kinda understand the situation, what with both of you being anxious. It's new and it's maybe even awkward, and you want it to be perfect so you're actually to nervous to continue.
I think, and that's only my opinion, you should ask your girlfriend to help you out a bit. Tell her straight; "I love you, but I'm nervous, so I need you to help me a bit.", so when you are to nervous to keep going, she will reassure you.
Good luck, I hope I managed to help!

>>1 you two sound so adorable! Okay I'm a bi girl and I'm extremely shy so I can somewhat relate to your girlfriend. She gives you hints and you need to take control and continue, sounds simple but I can understand how incredibly hard that actually is. I also have anxiety problems that I don't take meds for. What I think the two of you should do is set the situation to be one that makes the two of you comfortable and not nervous. Make sure you're comfortable first, you love her and want to be intimate win her, take a deep breath and go for it. If you're comfortable with the situation then it'll be easier for you to get her to be comfortable too, if that makes sense. If she's too shy to take control then tell her what to do, be a little bossy ;3
I hope that this helps! :3

Tell her what you feel, how you're nervous.
You should tell her that because communication is crucial in a relationship and you don't want her to get the wrong idea. Make sure where you do it is a suitable place and that you two will be alone and have a lot of time to do your thing c;
Just do it if the moment is right, and remember confidence is key. You love her, she loves you. There's nothing to lose.
Woman up and get some courage, the results of your bravery will be great. Don't worry too much and just let it happen.
I wish you two the best of luck.