My mom, sister and stepdad were supposed to go to a restaurant next thurday to celebrate my sister's graduation since she and I are going with our dad in another state to work. I figured that since we were going to stay here till thursday to leave that I could make a fast online purchase that would come around this week.

As we are about to get ready for bed on thursday, our dad calls us out of the blue to tell us to come THIS weekend to the other state because he already scheduled us to work in the first week!

Not only can I not receive my package, now we won't be able to eat with our other family for the summer. We are going to eat with our family tomorrow to celebrate our stepfather's work in the restaurant since he does work alot of hours and summer time is less busy there. But now we won't be able to celebrate my sister's graduation here.

We tried to celebrate her graduation but she didn't get enough credits to walk so she was very upset because it was mostly American School Program that didn't sent her test back to see if she needs redos on tests. She had to do ALL THE TEST over again to get a good score substituting the plan to have a graduation party that MY DAD AND SORT OF STEP MOM PLANNED THAT DAY!

Even if we didn't tell our father that we were going to have plans this week. I'm would think you would ask you daughters if when your planning on scheduling to work so they could explain if anything else was planned that week. Especially since all this week til thursday I had to take finals and my sister had to drive me since neither of us knew our bus stop time and it wasn't on our school website any more. I felt sorry because she has to wake up early and she had the freedom to sleep in since for her school was over.

I can probably guess he's going to be mad us for making a bad impression on him since he works at the same company we go to in the summer or that we should've told him or say it's our faults. That's usually how things work. It happened last time as I was running late on turning in a piece of paper work since i'm a minor so everyone was calling my dad for me and he got really pissed. And that was the only time I was late for in my entire working process.

Is my father right for making me work so quickly because I can start work ahead and get to that certain state faster, or was he not thinking at all?

Your father seems like a workaholic; perhaps he was thinking it was less important to do this diner with you rather than getting your future lives set up right away? Your heart seem to be in the right place and right now is a difficult time for you since you and your sister are running out of time to get on the path you need to go. So lets think of it this way; if you miss the appointed time he wanted you to show up at the meeting then that sucks for him, but your still be able to take care of yourself and thats the important thing. Your father wants to set you up for success but if you don't like the way he's handling it then don't feel bad to tell him; it's your life after all. If he doesn't understand than so be it; you'll still be good, and I doubt there's little you can do to cause any trouble at your father's work place by doing something as small as "not showing up".