I feel a bit silly for posting something like this.. Especially hear, but there isn’t anyone I know whom I can really talk about this with and so I’ll give this a try.

For some time now, I’ve been feeling that I need to do something about this if I don’t want to end up alone (no kids, family). I’m already 22 and I still haven’t fallen in love. I always thought that there was no need to rush it, it’ll happen someday so why worry about it, but now.. I’m starting to lose hope.
I’m worried.. and a bit sad/depressed, feeling like I have to give up this dream of having kids and finding someone to share my life with etc.
And I wouldn’t say it’s got anything to do with me being picky or something like that. It’s just, I don’t really know any guys/boys. I hardly ever speak to or meet any, and when I do, I’m frustratingly shy in their company. It’s so silly I know..
I just hope this won’t be me forever.

Isn't the "personal"-section meant for personal stuff like feelings, fears, hopes etc.? :)

I know how you feel, I am turning 19 soon (I know, still quite young) but I kind of share your fear of ending alone. In my case it is probably because I am picky. And shy. Darn it.
My number one rule about this is still to not force it. Love should be born naturally and not be artificcially made.

Basically you have a few options: try to train yourself in presence of the other gender to make more out of the "encounters" or try to meet more new people or to try and learn more about people you already know.
Just don't be desperate about it and please don't panic or loose hope so soon. If you really wish for it, I think you will get your chance to create a family.

>>2 no this fits here, she's asking for help.
>>1 I can understand where you're coming from, finding that special someone is tough, and in the dating scene it can be a whole game of trial and error. I don't umm date, well I just haven't ever actually dated anyone so I can understand the pressure, dating kinda terrifies me... However what i think that you should focus on is not on finding someone to date but finding someone who compliments you, is your friend, someone that you can get along with and shares your interests. Try going out to various activities and hobbies, just go out and do things that interest you and that you love, you can possibly find someone who feels the same there as well.
You could always try online dating as well.
Just remember that you shouldn't change yourself, like your shyness for instance, to get guys to like you. Shyness can be adorable and I'm sure there is someone out there for you, just don't lose hope! I hope that this helps :3 good luck~!

>>2 & >>3
Thank you very much for your kind answers :)
I'll do my best and try not to loose hope!

>>2 "For people seeking personal help, life advice, or counseling."
Top of the page.

it was a rhetorical question... of course this belongs here....

>>2 I think they just misunderstand you. :)
>>1 Well, I'm 20 and kinda shy, and I haven't ever dated anyone. I think I know how you feel. ._. But it's not like I haven't been in love, it's just... My crush is dating someone right now. ,_, But really, being in love is a grateful thing. Even if you can't be with the one you love, sometimes, just talking random things with them can make you happy. And someday, I wish to find someone whom I can share my life with.

And just like >>3 said, what you should focus on is not finding someone to date, try to find someone who shares the same interest. I do that too. I'm shy, but I'll be more talkative when I chat with someone who shares the same interest. At first, I don't really close to him, but then when I knew that he interested in the same things as me, I felt more comfortable to chat with him, and yeah, the love develops over time.

Sorry for my poor English. ,_,

What's more important to you though? Having a family with kids, or being with the perfect person? This may end up being a trick question if the 'perfect' person for you is someone who will have kids and normal family life with you... Well, it doesn't have to be either or, but knowing one's values on anything is significantly important so I believe!

>>6 Not sure I'm picking up what you are putting down here.

>>7 Thank you :)
Must be though on you, being in love with someone you can't have. Evens so, your still happy to be in love.. I find that amazing :) Good luck!

>>8 I in no way expect that person to be perfect xD or anyone for that matter.
But If we are talking values, being kind and caring is something I feel is important. Though maybe that's more like personality traits :S
Above the two alternatives you gave, I really can't say what I will value more.. having kids or having a person I love (and who hopefully loves me back). I'm more inclined to choose children (since I'll obviously love them, probably more than anything in the world) but if possible, I'd selfishly choose them both.

Eica...i also like you before this..loner,shy person but love is mystery...in high school people see me as a freak person but after graduating i got a part time job...and there everything change..i fall in love with one girl...we only know each other for 3 month..when i confront her and tell her how i feel...she ask me if i can wait for her...that's when our story begin...so the thing i want to said is..no need to rush,enjoy your life...love will come to you...it's a matter of time actually...

>>11 Thank you for sharing such a nice storie :) I'm so happy for you!

>>9 Sometimes I wonder if it just me, or all of you... I think the OP got it though, points for that I guess ;)

Pardon me Eica, I feel obligated to explain my thought processes from time to time!

"For some time now, I’ve been feeling that I need to do something about this if I don’t want to end up alone (no kids, family). I’m already 22 and I still haven’t fallen in love. "

From the beginning, the OP is talking about 2 different ...experiences I'll call them. I think they're talking more about the experience of family life, but then they mention falling in love. The thing is, to me, these 2 things do not inherently coincide. The previous responders spoke more about falling in love and 'finding the right person', but I didn't clearly see what it was that the op was after. And perhaps, the OP wasn't sure themselves. Thus I posed the question, 'which is of more value 'family life' or 'falling in love' ?'. In example, you may have a wonderfully happy family life with someone that you never 'fell in love' with. Or you may have someone that you have unquestionably fallen for, but who isn't interested in having traditional family life. You may find someone with whom you will share both experiences, but as the OP is concerned about waiting it seems, some consideration of values was warranted I feel. Waiting is always a gamble after all.

Some discussion about falling in love might be need further, but I think this present explanation is sufficient!

some times love is right infront of you.it just takes a little while to figure it out.

Well you if its a family you're after, more specifically children, then you can always adopt a child! But as with love I'll give the same answer everyone else gave: don't rush it, and let it come to you. I'm sure it will happen sooner than you can possibly imagine.

I turn 20 in a month and I'm still single.
I'm the popular type of girl who talks to everyone
My friends say that I'm easy to make a conversation with, I'm nice and smart and caring.

Being in 2 universities I don't have time to date. I tried once and he felt ignored. Well, excuse me if school got in the way. School is more important for me than he was. And he said he can't date someone smarter than him.
It really hurt to hear that, but yes, I am smarter than he is. I didn't care about that. He was smart enough already and I was only a bit smarter than him. Only then I realized that I'm different that most girl my age.

I'm still waiting for someone to fall in love with. Someone who is smart, caring, kind, funny, able to make me feel better when I'm down, gently, responsible, best friend with me. Someone who I can count on.

I know single guys, but since forever I was dense. And even if I knew they had a crush on me, I still acted like nothing was said. I just befriended them XD

Honestly, dating someone scares me. But if I'm dating someone who is what I said earlier, then I will not be as scared. I think.

Don't try to sound desperate to find love. Love will came when it is its time. Until then, I can't say anything else.

Way to go, single ladies :D

If you have a sibling that you can relate to and trust, you really should bring this up with him/her. I always carried the burden of being the oldest child in the family, (and it's harder on Asians,) and since I studied in another country as compared to my younger siblings, for all my 19 years, I never knew I could cry to one of them until I talked to her about it after we yelled our heads off at each other in a fight, when I visited them for the first time in years. I'm just saying; sometimes, you'd be surprised with what you believed wouldn't work.

I'm 20 in October, and to tell the truth, despite all the dating experiences I had, I can say for certain that maybe I've never truly fallen in love. But that doesn't bother me so much, because I have friends. I'm afraid of being alone, after being a target of ostracism since I left my hometown (language barrier).

Maybe because my bone marrow's made of tsun, I learned to adopt the "I don't need to depend on anyone's company to feel happy" mindset from the moment I attended secondary/high school. You know? I eventually found my own company pleasant. And people saw that I could have fun with just doing something that makes me happy (for my case, drawing and reading, as well as writing occasionally). They wanted to be a part of that fun and approached me.

Of course, it takes two to tango. When someone wants to befriend me, I keep an open mind and give them a chance. If things still don't work out - since we're not programmed to get along with every personality, I'm sure - then things don't work out. There's no reason to force it. It's like trying to wear shoes that are two sizes too small for you. Sure, maybe it'll barely pass looking OK, but it's uncomfortable. Why go through such pains just so you don't look bare?

I'd recommend you to take the initiative in making small talk with people when you greet them sometimes. "Hello. How has your weekend been?" can be a magical cure to someone's Monday blues - it's just instantly a +1 to my mood when someone offers a smile during the first school day of the week, even if I had a crappy break before that.

Once you're comfortable with interacting with people (or at least, not a bundle of nervous wreck), you can hint at a friend you confide in that you're single. I'm sure they'd take the hint and try to hook you up with someone fitting that they know of. There's really no rush; worrying so much only contributes to making you look neurotic and not to mention, think about the wrinkles, girl/dude!

Sorry for being a bit late on the replies
>>15 True, I'll really give it some thought if I'm still alone at 25+
>>16 Off-topic but wow, 2 uni's! How do you manage that? I get burned out just by the studies I do in one alone xD
Anyway, Thank you for sharing your thoughts! For some reason It made me feel a lot better about my situation :) Thankyou!
>>17 I do have a little sister, I love her to bits but we aren't close at all :( Being the oldest and the responsible one has made it so that I just can't show my weakness to her or my family. I'dont really see any of them often anyway.
Thank you for your tips :) Mabye it's just a feeling I have for now, but I'm not really worried about falling and finding love anymore. I look forward to the day I do, so thank you everyone for all your kind words!

Hey Erica i would like to talk you and my chatroom always has the same name (Please Join (or)Anyone Join) i would love to have someone to talk to