Alright guys... I hope you all don't go blaming on me for this but there's a situation with my best friend, let's call her A. So A and her boyfriend just broke up. And the story behind it is that he's 7 years older than us. Also to put in mind that we're still minors so it's counted as pedophile. And last of it, they've dated for a year without her parents' knowing.

Now, here's my story. So A told me about how they met and started dated three days later. Yes, I know, pretty surprising. And so I thought it was gossip at first. Here's the part that might get all of you thrown off. I'm very close to my mom so she's my best friend. And I tell her everything I know and all the things that had happened when I'm out of home. Secret-free with my mom. I told her that A was going out with a guy that is 7 years older than us. And so, my mom just ignored at first. Months pasted and A always told me stories about him and her. I got very confused on the conversation they talked. They talked about having children, a house, sex and so on. Teens our age wouldn't be talking about that now. The more A talked about him, my mind grew clouded. I've told my mom the things they talked about and how he spoiled her by buying items online and sending it to her. Now remember, it was just gossip. I didn't go up to my mom so I can taddle on her. Normal conversation. Then my mom started to make a move. She said it was dangerous for A so she's going to tell my friend's parents to let them know about their relationship. She gave me a deadline on when she's going to tell the parents. When the deadline was getting closer, I grew more gloomy and wanted to distance from A. Two days before the deadline, A came over. I said I wanted to tell her something but I couldn't. Then she started guessing what I wanted to tell her. She guessed it and we both started exploding in tears. A due from losing her boyfriend from parents and me from losing her. On that day, her boyfriend called when we were still together to talk about the situation. A was crying so hard through the phone and all he said was nothing. Nothing to support her from crying. Not even a word saying things will be alright. A then asked him if he's willing to talk to her parents with her about the relationship, and he said, "doesn't matter". She asked again and he said "sure". I know not all men can be a perfect guy but I got so thrown off as soon as he said those words. I told A to tell her parents before my mom if they wanted to stay together. Then the boyfriend started going about how I butted in the relationship and that's it's none of my business and so on. The next day.. A told me that they broke up. I didn't feel happy, satisfied, or any of it. I felt sad that I had let this happened to her. A told me that she understood my shoes and that's it's not my fault. She said our relationship is still together. But I felt so guilty on what happened between them.

Now it's almost been a month since the breakup. I still feel devastated. Lately, A have been ignoring me. We used to go swimming together, not anymore. When we meet from time to time, she doesn't seem to have any conversation with me anymore. I think I lost her trust. Just a few days ago, when we pasted each other, she looked the other direction and ignored me. She said it was okay, and that it wasn't my fault but I'm receiving this from her. I'm being ignored and put to the side. Right now I'm at the bottom of her friend's list. My other friends knows about the situation too. I asked my other friend, let's call her B, about how she feels about me now that what happened with A and her boyfriend. B said it was dumb of me to tell my mom. But she understood how I was just merely protecting A. Also that she'll still respect me and talk to me whatever happens. My other friend, C, said that she doesn't care and won't judge because she wasn't part of it. C also still feel the same with me. I'm glad everyone still respects me after what happened. But I don't understand why A is giving me this treatment. What do you all think about this situation? I'm sorry, it must be long. I didn't put in all the details, but thanks for you to be taking your time to read this.

I think you did the right thing. I don't know how your friend met this guy, but an age difference of 7 years at your age is in most cases a cause of concern(I'm guessing that you're young teens for the record). Your friend realizes what you did was right in your position I'm sure, but it sounds like she's not happy about it (and that's completely normal). She probably does feel like you betrayed her trust. If the boyfriend really did have no bad intentions, then talking to her parents about it should be no problem right? All I can say for the moment.

>>2 They met on internet in a game. Which I think is very common for everyone nowadays. When I warned them about my mom, he just simply gave up and wanted to break up with A. I was very disappointed. When she asked about talking it out with her parents, I expected a yes. But instead it was a "sure". I started crashing and said "what if he got his dream job as an offer?! Would you say sure? What if you won a billion dollars? Would you say sure?" If he truly loved her then he would say yes! I can expect a lot from a guy but I bet that if you really did love someone you would say yes. My mom said what I did was right and that it wasn't my fault. I kept that going in my mind but every time I see A, I would crash down because of her face giving me the look and the treatment. I thought it was very unfair of her to say that she understood and now she's doing this to me. I thought that if I gathered more opinions about the situation, my shoulders would be less stiff. Even though you said you thought what I did was right, is still good. Thanks a lot. I appreciate your time with my situation.

>>1 >>3 you did the right thing. But think about how she feels for a minute, she probably loved him and he just quit on her when it got tough, her heart must be broken, especially after all that talk about their future together. Her treatment of your is understandable, she'd probably still upset, not directly at you, but at the entire situation. She probably doesn't want to talk about it either. You did the right thing and I'm sure you've helped her in the long run as well, don't be discouraged and give her her space if she needs it.

>>1>>3 I'm a lot like you, my mom and I are very close, and I tell her a lot of what goes on in my life, since I know that she can give advice or encouragement when and where it's needed. However, I think that the key thing in a relationship such as this is discretion. Sure, tell her the situation your friends are in, tell her what's going on, but NEVER give a name. I learned that the hard way and now so have you. Ultimately, parents are there to protect us, and most wouldn't think twice about protecting another child from a potentially toxic relationship such as this.

In regards to A, of course she's gonna be mad, what'd you expect? She'd be happy that she had to break up with her boyfriend because of you? There is no logic in that reasoning. I'll be brutally honest with you, it wasn't your business, and it wasn't your information to share so openly, you are a large part of their break up, and you must accept the fact that she may never trust you the same way again. Her reaction is more than justified, given the circumstances. Did you do the right thing for her? The way I see it, and the way most others will see it: yes, yes you did. You saved her from a relationship that could easily have turned toxic. But the way she sees it is something completely different: you've forced her to break up with someone she cared for and had dreams to be with.

>>4 Thank you very much. I understand that she is sad about it. And if I help or do anything more it will be worst. When there's time when we are together alone, I never brought the situation up because I didn't want her to crash down and burn. I appreciate your time. Thank you again.

>>5 Many people have told me that it wasn't my business also. I would have never expect this situation to happen. I don't even know what I was doing anymore when the situation ended. A says she's not mad, however the way she acts towards me says she is. I clearly understand why she won't trust me as before. My mom was the only person I've told, but that's not an excuse for me to say. I've gone through the hard way and now I know what I should do next time when I encounter the same situation. Thank you very much. I appreciate your time. Also, I'll rather have you be brutal and tell the truth than be gentle.

Oops. Excuse the posts deleted. I accidentally posted too much of the same comment because of my phone.