>>4>>3 Yeah I've always kind of slacked off as much as possible and done things at the last moment, but it's always worked out for me. Once I got going I got it done. Unfortunately now I can't seem to get going and when I do instead of immersing myself in it as I usually did I get distracted by all the mistakes I could be making/have made and things like that :/. Thanks for the encouragement anyway I really appreciate it!!
>>5 Ahh I try to motivate myself with the feeling of accomplishment too, because oh man it's been a while since I actually accomplished something, something worthwhile. But I seem to somehow end up skipping the actual work part while thinking about what it'd feel like getting it done. While my mind is in the future I leave what I have to do for the future too...which is very unproductive.
But since you mentioned your pencil case, I have post-its with messages for myself like 'you can do it' 'don't give up' 'breathe' or whatever posted around my desk. Sometimes they work I guess, since there's nobody else to tell me those things.
Cleaning is actually another way to procrastinate for me unfortunately, though I get where you're coming from. Sometimes in situations like these you get weird habits that somehow help you. I don't think I have one of those, maybe I should get one.
I think my bad habits mostly involve trying to distract myself however possible online when I'm feeling upset, but I really lost whatever little discipline I ever used to have and keep slipping. It's more of a mental habit I have to get out of. A lot of mental habits actually.
I've barely ever done my work early my whole life oh man I'm not sure I even know how that feels. And I can't give up my morning coffee don't be insane :P And I really get that with not being able to take your own advice. It's the worst. When you're aware of what you're doing wrong but keep on doing it :/
>>6 High five fellow (formerly) burnt-out (former) honor student.
Yeah, the fact that I have gotten to the point where I dislike the system I'm part of almost with a passion is definitely a big part of the problem. Other than graduation and the fact that I would get this whole headache over with I don't feel like I would be getting much else from the work that I'm supposed to put in.
I've always been good at almost anything I put my mind to but never really passionate about anything either. Pretty aimless overall, but until collage things were always laid out for me and I just followed the path from A to B. getting more freedom of decision has just made my indecision and lack of motivation so much worse.
But even though I'm overall at a loss about my 'adult life' or whatever this is a punctual thing I have to get done. Maybe, like you said, I'll get clarity at some point, but it doesn't feel like it'll be anytime soon. And from every direction I'm told I can't afford not to graduate, no matter how unready I am. And I was supposed to last year, and dragging it out until now just makes me feel terrible. Even though I know that objectively I have the skills, too much of what's going on in my head is weighing me down.
And I'm stuck I guess between trying to figure out the bigger picture and trying to get over one specific hurdle. And while worrying about both I get neither done.
Maybe if I could get spite to motivate me more, that used to work. I rarely did things out of positive emotions. But now I can't even muster that, I'm just a blob.
And being alone means I don't have anyone in direct proximity to compare myself to. At least before and in high school if I was late with something I usually had a friend in the same situation and we told each other that 'hey this can be done!'. Sigh.
Thank you for responding!