Slowly I'm losing something dear to me. some says I'm a type of person that would keep everything for myself. But now i guess i'm at my limit. I don't know who to talk to. Lately, my mother and I are not in good terms. I'm feeling like I'm just a free loader in this house. Not a daughter anymore. I can't pretend everything is fine now. She treats me like I'm less than my brother. He's the favorite one. My mother never praised me whenever i do things she wants me to. (i know this is nothing from what the other guys posted here, but i don't know where i could express myself) Little by little I'm able to calmed down in our situation. The thing I'm losing is love. little by little I'm starting to hate my mother. I know this isn't healthy, but i can't help myself out. I'm in college and I'm thinking that i'll just have to bear 3 more years so that i can ran away from here. Am i bad daughter? could you blame me for this? Just please... anyone?.. help me..

"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle"-Plato. Don't underestimate yourself. I won't be able to fully understand your position but I do think that your pain is as big as others. It's easy to say that I wouldn't do what you do but I'm not in your position. I think I would probably be the same as you in your position so I don't think your a bad person. You are merely in a situation that makes it look like you are. It's bad luck, not you. As you saw you probably know that I'm having a lot of trouble with life as well. If you want someone to talk to then feel free to email me at toforeversigh@gmail.com

i really appreciate this. it relieves the pain somehow. At least someone listened.. :)

I'm not someone to give advice nor to understand, but why don't you tell her what you feel?

>>4 from my experience thats not a good idea but thats just me at least you are talking about it its never good to keep it inside

thanks angel.. :)

I'm not sure if you should really listen to me (I'm not really one to go for the high route) but maybe this could be your safety plan or something. Not knowing something won't hurt you but you still shouldn't be scared of saying what you want to say. At the same time there are things you're better off not hearing or at least pretending doesn't exist. If others won't love you, love yourself. Find others that will love you. You're not a bad daughter you're just simply drifting away from your parents as you should be. If you're in college this just means you're growing up. If you're mother won't praise you praise yourself. If you know you did well say "I did well!" and be happy you did.

Tell her about it. 'You realize one's worth after you have lost it.' So tell hwr about your worries before things get ugly. She won't get mad or toss you away, she is your mother after all, she is there to listen to you. ;)

>>1 you're not a bad daughter. All relationships require effort from both sides, and if she doesn't put in the effort them there isn't much that you can do. You could try talking to her about how you feel. And I know how you feel, it feels as though my mom doesn't love me and she continuously says she's proud of my sister but not me. It's hard but you're not a bad daughter or a bad person, just focus on your own life and moving out. Good luck ^^

i appreciate everything, everyone. :) thanks for being there.. I'll do my best. Take care.. ^^ I'm really happy and blessed to hear your opinions.

>>1 I understand how you feel. Same goes with my mom, but I don't let it bother me. So I think it is easier for me. She tells me mean stuff and I'm just supposed to listen to her.
I tried to tell my mom to put herself in my situation and she just ignored me.

I don't think talking to her will help. I advice you to just ignore her. There are people in this world waiting to be friend with you. Why would you bother that your mother doesn't praise you?

I already lost that thing you are saying about. Love. And I actually feel better. I expect nothing and I give nothing. It is much simpler than actually being heartbroken.

I'm sorry if my post makes you feel bad, but I say to go with the flow and see what happens next. Don't think to much of it. Focus your attention on something you like and is worth it. I think your mom is a bad person. She probably had a bad past, but that gives her no reason to be like this to you.

Actually, most in my family tell me mean stuff. But since I don't care it doesn't bother me anymore. One fact they hate me for is that I'm not a guy. But I couldn't care less.

I accepted myself. You should do too. Be yourself. Don't worry about your mom's love/hate. Every time you look in the mirror, smile and say "I'm good. I'm the best. I'm awesome!"

Good luck, sweetie!

it doesn't make me feel bad. This helps me realize something. "I'm good, I'm the best. I'm awesome" Thanks. :) I'll do my best to be myself every time. ^^

if you want it take it from behind

I don't know if this would help you out but nevertheless i want to try my best to help someone. Okay, so basically you and your mother ain't in good terms and other than that you said that she wasn't treating you right am i correct? so the question here is why? why does she treat you badly? its a question that only you can answer and to get that answer you have to question yourself "what did i do to be treated like this?". Well i guess i said to much but let me make it simple for ya, ask yourself, ask the people around you. Well thats how i do things and you could say that i helped my self in the past so i believe that this might work. Just one more thing, Good Luck and i know you'll find the answer soon enough. ^.^

i'll do my best!