Hello my fellow Dollars ^_^ I havent been on here in forever XD Beside the point I wanted to...I dunno vent I guess but its more like seeking advice.

I'm still in high school and in my freshman year I thought I found myself a best friend. We both liked anime and such and she was nice, funny, smart a good singer and really cute (I am perfectly straight by the way). So I guess I put myself in this bubble where I thought she would always be my best friend and I always looked out for her, defended her, made sure she was happy and I bought her gifts too. (Usually they weren't for a specific occasion they were gifts just cuz) I never thought ill of her. I slowly realized around sophomore year that she would usually never txt me unless she needed something or if it was something about herself. I would always wait for her when class was over and we would walk out together but she never did the same for me. And whenever I would tell her you know "Txt me first" she would...but it wouldn't even last a month before she just went back to how she was before...and she also finds time to hang out with other people and go to their parties and such but she truly never took out the time to hang out with me. She would say "Hey we should do such and such." I would say yeah sure and do most of the planning...I honestly just felt like she didn't care the way I did...One day my family and I were going to an anime convention a town over and she was there. I didn't feel happy or glad to see her...I pretty much said "Dammit." In my head when I saw her. She was with her brother and we kinda just hung out. I didn't really know what to say so I just walked and she did most of the talking. We then stumbled upon my ex and we said hi and we played this board game (It delt with first person shooters and I don't like first person shooters, but everyone else wanted to so yeah I just played)I then felt a really tight gripping in my chest and I thought I was gonna break down and cry. the atmosphere was killing me especially since a friend of my exes came(My ex mentioned a special someone in his that cared for him and what not and then this girl comes and sits next to him since they knew each other and she seemed nice, and pretty and I kinda felt intimidated by her since I wondered of she was that girl...Basically I felt outdone in every way) so I got up and said I didn't want to play anymore (I had to make a strategic withdrawal) and they said bye and I left...when I got home I realized that A.) She didn't bother asking me if I was alright and she didn't come after me & B.) I had to leave a bit early and I told her I was leaving and she said "Aww okay bye." and that was the last I heard from her that day. She didn't tell me how everything went or anything...she just abandoned me...after that day I knew I couldn't continue on like this because she would just keep ripping me in two...I'm not friends with her now but I can't help but wonder how she's doing from time to time...I doubt she cares anymore but still...I wanna just yell at her and tell her about all the pain she caused me and other people (She blindly hurt other people and I would tell her how to be better but yeah...) I know nothing would go right if I did...Her not caring is pissing me off and...I dunno...*sigh* I just wanted to get that off my chest. I'm open to anything you want to say

>>1 a relationship requires effort from both parties to work, if she doesn't want to put in the effort then there really isn't anything you can do. You could tell her off but that just might hurt you more, in some cases getting that off your chest may help you but I don't think so in this case, your obviously mature about it all and probably don't need anymore of her to deal with. Friends drift apart, it happens, the two of you change and become two different people than you were before. You need to move on with your life and from her as well, make new friends and do the things you love and focus on school. It may be painful and raw right now but with time it'll get better, I hope that I've helped ^^

she might just be really busy and have friends that she feels closer too. talk to her about it and tell her how your feeling,if she really dosen't wan tto be friends then fine leave it be. if she is just super busy,then accept that.

>>2 >>3 Thank you both so much, that helped a lot ^_^ I though this was gonna be one of those forgotten threads XD I appreciate your advice and I will keep it into mind and heart.

>>3 is right try to speak with her write us how is it was :)

hmm im kinda like that (not you but your friend) have this one friend thats really passionate about friendships and im a really independent person so you remind of my friend. so maybe your friend is just very independent but still likes to hang out with people, i bet she loves your friendship but she probably doesnt even know that she was hurting you or even doing those things (i sometimes do that to people and i feel SOOO bad after someone tells me what ive done)so yea i think you should just speak to her very calmly so not to drive her away and i bet it will all work out :3 everybody is just different and shows things in different ways is all. good luck hope it all works out for you!!!

Don't expect too much. People will easily disappoint. Also, change is hard for others but maybe she'll come around. Don't worry. You're only a freshman in high school. You have a shit ton more drama coming your way (maybe)but you'll be able to find the right friends soon. Good Luck!

>>6 >>3 I could try, I do tell her these things but she doesn't make a conscious effort to change how she is since she always reverts back to how she was and it would be as if I never said a word to her...plus she says how she's not good with friendships and stuff and I just wanna tell her to stop complaining about it and actually do something. Make a conscious effort to change how you are cuz if you don't I have no room to feel sorry for you...
>>7 You have a point, and I'm a junior now XD lol I gots one more year before I can finally get out

Your friend might not have realized that she was hurting you, but, friendship is a two-way thing, and if she's hurting you, or making you feel sad or unwanted, then it's best to just step away and find someone who'll be able to give back to you as much as you put in. I know it's hard not to, but try not to feel guilt-tripped into doing things for her because 'we're friends', because you're only friends if both of you consider each other that.
So even if it's hard, it might be better to try and move on and find someone who actually cares about you, try and find someone else that shares you interests, and talk to them.

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