Hey everyone...so I'm hating my school life with a passion...I'm getting to the point where I just want to drop out because of all the bulling and drama. I'm in our school's band, and I thought it was fun at the beginning of the year. Now, I'm scared to even go near the band room because almost all of the people in there hate me. I have a couple friends in there, sure. I got played by a guy in band, and he told everyone. THat's mainly why everyone hates me. Even my band driector doesn't like me. I was going to stay in there because my best friend is graduating this year, so I wanted to play at his graduation. Sometimes I think that I might be in love with him, but I can't be sure. His ex girlfriend is in band and is always yelling at me for "flirting" with him.
I wanna quit band, but he wants me to stay. WHat should I do?

Quit it. i know it might seems cowardly but it's best if you avoid problems, you don't have to put yourself through unnecessary drama. well, that's what i normally do. anyway,
if people don't want you there then don't be, it is unhealthy to stay in a hostile environment. just think of a viable excuse.
if he's really your best friend then it wouldn't matter if you're in a band or not. you can still play a solo for him, i mean it doesn't really have to be in front of everyone else or during the graduation, right?

I'm not so sure what I can say that could help the situation where that prick spread the word about you, but I have suggestions about the teacher and your friend's ex, and they both involve coming straight up and talking to them.
I'm speculating that when you said your band director doesn't like you, s/he did some nasty things to you, which may involve mainly passive things like isolating/ignoring/giving you "the look". If s/he isn't doing anything and you just have a gut feeling s/he doesn't like you, I dunno what I can say about that. But if they're doing things to you, you should come up to them and say something. I don't know how displeasing the rumour is, but I don't believe that's a reason for them to detest you since it's not really any of their business. If you did something bad to them personally it should be understandable, but adult teachers or directors shouldn't be acting so immature to join in the bullying WITH HIGH SCHOOL CHILDREN. Tell them what I've said so far:
* ask him/her if the reason how s/he has been treating you is because of the rumour.
* if the first point is true, then tell him/her how you feel…
- you're already having a really tough time dealing with other students' bullying, and this attitude from them is putting even more stress on you.
- you understand that the rumour was bad, but that's not really a reason for him to detest you since it's not really any of his/her business.
- ask them to please (say "please") stop mistreating you and you will keep try your best in the band (even if they doubt you, just you saying it will give them the tiniest bit improvement on their impression on you, and if you actually do your best, they'll improve even more).
Now your friend's ex seems like a bit of a delicate matter since she seems like your typical still-obsessed-with-exbf bitch. She may still be in love with him, but they've broken up and if they're not coming back together, SHE NEEDS TO MOVE THE FUCK ON. Why should she worry about someone flirting with their EX-BOYFRIEND? Her FORMER boyfriend. A person who is NO LONGER HER BOYFRIEND. I suspect she's doing so because she still cares about her ex, heard about your rumour, and thinks you're going to hurt her ex. I understand that if that's the case, but she doesn't need to fucking bag you out about it like a bitch. She should talk to you about it like a normal person, jeebus christ.
I also suggest you talk to your friend about this, then ask him to come with you to her because it's most likely to get dangerous if you go alone. Tell your friend the issue with his ex bullying you and how it's making you feel. Ask him to come with you to talk to her, but don't let him do all the talking because that will make the bitch feel like you're making him turn against her (I'm just gonna call her bitch from now, hope you don't mind). Instead, just ask him to be back-up support incase the bitch starts to spit on you. But you have to be the brave one and talk, not him.
When judgement day comes, tell the bitch this:
* If she thinks you brought your friend to turn against her, PLEASE REMEMBER to reassure her that you aren't and you're the one doing the talking. You just wanted to bring him so that the issue can be rested between not just you and her, but him as well.
* Ask her why she hates you so much and wants you to avoid being with him…
- If it's because of the rumour, tell her it was because you were the one that was played with, and you wouldn't do anything bad like that to your friend.
* Reassure her you're not flirting with him, and you two are just really good friends. Even if you were flirting with him, it shouldn't really matter if you're a former lover. Maybe she still cares about him, but he should be smart and mature enough to make his own decisions and know right from wrong about people. She needs to move on.
* Tell her how you feel about her mistreatment…
- You're already dealing with a lot of bullshit from other students, and you're stressed out enough.
- If she really did feel uncomfortable about you and your friend, she should come up to you and talk about it calmly instead of yelling at you, and you two could work out a way to settle the issue.
- You don't want to break the friendship between you and your friend. You're not trying to flirt with him and you're just being good friends.
* Apologise to her about the misunderstanding, but ask her to please refrain her bullying from now on.

The key point to settling feuds between people is DON'T POINT THE FINGER AT THEM. Point the finger at yourself.
What I mean is not to spit out all the things they did wrong at them, but open yourself up to them. When people get yelled at for their wrongdoing, it builds a defence system in their mind to yell back at them their their own aspects. If you talk about things calmly and tell them how you feel, they will listen more and understand.

Unfortunately I don't have much to say about the mass bullying that started from the small-dick to toyed with you, but get lots of support from your friends and family. Talk to your friends about your feelings and ask for their support if a student tries to bite you during school or even on cyber bullying. You may feel uncomfortable talking to your family about the shitface who spread the rumours since they might think differently about you, but like I said before; just talk about your feelings and they will feel for you. Besides, if your family really does love you, they should still support you and understand what you're going through and what you did was just a teenage phase and it's actually the asshole's fault. Also talk about this with teachers who like you or you like them, or school psychologist, or even the principle.

Bullying in high school never ends. Even if every single thing I said here works, it will never truly end because school if full of immature shitheads. School sucks, I know. But that's part of life.
However, don't give up hope. You are not alone. You're never alone, there are more good people around you than you there are. You have friends and family, and I'm sure they will support you. Even strangers will support you. Heck, look me - I've written a whole novel here in one reply, and I have no idea who in the Heavens you are. Even strangers on the internet will help you. People here in the Dollars will help you.
And when you get out fucking high school, your life will get so much better when you get into university. The world is so much bigger outside of high school, but there are also bigger shits to deal with outside of high school. Everyone has to deal with them, and they keep on moving because they're going to make it better by getting their fatasses out of their seat and doing something about it.

I hope the best for you. :)

>>1 what >>2 said was a great suggestion, play a solo for your bestfriend, it's more personal and you don't have to go through the pain of being in that awful band setting.
You should quit the band, don't stick around places like that, it's only hurting you and you shouldn't be forcing yourself through it. Talk to your bestfriend before you quit too.
You should never quit school because of other people, that is utterly unfair to you, why should you sacrifice your future and a better life just because they're obnoxious and rude? Distance yourself from those in the band and focus on your studies. Your strong and you can make it to graduation.
Don't let his ex girlfriend stop you from loving him, she's probably just bitchy and jealous and it's none of her business if you two flirt or not. If you think that you like him then make sure you tell him your feelings before he graduates so you'll never regret not telling him. Good luck with everything ^^

hey, definitely agree with what most of everyone else is saying! it's time to quit; you don't seem like you're enjoying it and if everyone is being hostile, it won't do you any good to stay there. a solo would be cuter and who knows--maybe you can make a big show out of it and make invitations for him.

if he's your best friend, he will understand if you leave band. also, don't mind his ex. she's a bitch. she doesn't control him (or you for that matter!) just keep rolling. good luck!