hi guys,i have posted threads before and it's helped so i will do this hopefully for the last time. in first grade i met a girl and we became good friends. we both are artists and have a lot in common and we really understand each other. she's pretty much one of the few people i really feel i can e myself around. anyway now that we''re in high school i have realized that i may have romantic feelings for this girl and the problem is i'm a girl. though i think of myself more as a dude. i mean i never really fit society's image of what a girl should be. i kinda,almost want to ask her out. i kinda want us to be a couple. i know my mum would be fine with it and i doubt her parents would mind very much. but she isn't gay and i'm not entirely sure i am. my ex boyfriend kinda wnats to get back togeather and i realized that i may share the sam efeeling fo rhim that he has for me and even though we're different as night and day . so who should i choose? what should i do?

>>1 none of us can choose for you, make the choice that you'll least regret.
Does she act romantic around you? Is there a possibility that she might have feelings for you? It's okay to be curious and you could be bi. If you think it's worth risking your friendship, and if she's a true friend then that shouldn't matter, then confess but remember to say that if she doesn't feel the same way it's okay, tell her that you just wanted her to know.
Make sure that this ex boyfriend actually wants a relationship before you accept. He could be just using you so be careful!

okay :) i think this helps,i'm a little nervous about telling my frined about my feelings for her cause i don't wan tto distroy our friendship

If you have a really strong bond with her then isn't that enough? The idea of love always seems to get in the way. The way I pictured "true love" is when you have a strong bond with them that isn't based on physical attraction or anything like that but now I can't see the difference between that and a true best friend. If you and her are really close then wouldn't you two be the kinds of people that can talk to each other about anything without having to worry about getting judged or hurting feelings or anything? To be honest I don't even care about "love" anymore and what I really want is a really strong bond with someone who understands me and I can talk to about anything. What you have is a really good thing there. I honestly don't see the need for love there but that's just me.

Another way that I see it is that who you love is a really big thing and you have to make sure that it's the perfect person. Be as picky as possible so if you have any doubts then it's probably not the right person. In theory, you will know without a doubt, when you meet the right person for you. It could be neither of them. Make sure that you aren't choosing them because you are looking for love because you might involuntarily bias your perception.

These are just my opinions. I hope it helped XD