Hey, so I'll try to keep this brief, but basically, it boils down to I've loved someone in a deteriorating relationship for about half a year now. They had just started dating when I met the girl--I'll call her Alison--and we hit it off immediately. We're attached at the hip and while we tend to be hugely platonic, we've both admitted romantic and sexual feelings for each other and Alison has come to me several times with relationship problems. I've been holding my tongue in terms off telling her what she should do, especially since breaking things off seems upsetting to her, but this relationship is really not good for Alison and if I'm being honest, I'm sure I could be better to her.

What should I do? I don't think I've ever felt so strongly about another person before.

Any help is greatly appreciated.

Like I was saying earlier, girls tend to love the (idea) of what the guy (could) be as to what he really is. She won't quit unless he dumps her, or he does something she can't tolerate anymore. Get a feel for what's going on in her relationship, and move in when the opportunity arises, It probably won't be a big opening, so move in ever so slightly. You should think things through(never a abad idea) logically weigh the pros and cons of making a move. Try not to upset her, buy as the saying goes..the truth hurts.. Good luck.

>>1 you're a great guy, and it's obvious that you truly care for her. You're there for her without letting your feelings take advantage of you. Just keep being there for her as best as you can but if her relationship is seemly hurting her and is beyond any repair then I suggest telling her that she doesn't have to suffer through it anymore and that you're there for her and always will be and would never hurt her like that. Don't be too forceful, a heartbroken girl can be weak and it's easy to take advantage of, so don't be that kind of guy. Just love her and be there for her even if it hurts, she's lucky to have a guy like you. And at times like that, all a girl really needs is a comforting friend's shoulder to cry on, so don't be discouraged if she "friendzones" you, she's probably just not emotionally ready for another relationship. So if that does happen then just be patient but don't forget to confess your feelings! I wish you guys the best! Good luck~! ^.^

Thanks, all! I don't mind if she friendzones me, I guess, I just genuinely want her to be in a place where she isn't crying herself to sleep every night. She's been a bit emotionally frazzled the last few months and so I guess I always worry that she's using me as a replacement for what she can't get, but at the end of the day, if that makes her feel better, maybe it isn't a bad thing?

In any case, she clearly needs a friend, so I'll continue to be that unless anything drastic happens.

Thanks again. :)