I've got a problem and no matter what I can't solve it myself. Sorry if this seems pathetic, asking for help with my own issues, but this is serious and involves peoples lives.
One of my friends has been acting up a bit recently. A couple weeks back he smoked weed for the first time, he's been fucking around with the 'wrong sorts' and generally has had a complete personality reversal from nerdy gamer to shoplifting druggy, and we've kinda grown apart lately.
Now, about a year back he dated this girl, and I've been friends with her for four or five years, and they had a serious break up that ended very nasty and my friend almost lost all his buddies. If she hadn't made it right I doubt anyone would still want to be his friend.
So the girl is dating another guy now and he's friends with me, my best mate and my druggy friend. They've been dating for over 8 months now, and they're pretty serious. But now, for some private reason, my friend has a grudge against her.
But this is the real issue: whenever the boyfriend goes with his gf to see me and my friends then my druggy friend just says "she's back, lets leave" and everyone except me and my best friend up and leave, leaving her completely shaken and in tears. She's really sensitive and cries at the drop of a pin, and she's been saying stuff about wanting to hurt the druggy guy and his gf and there's a lot of pent up emotion there and I get the feeling that she's gonna try something and everything's gonna go to shit.
Me and my best friend know this so we're sticking by her and her bf, but that's caused the two of us to grow apart from the rest of the guys and it's really fucking cruel.
I couldn't just go up to the druggy friend and tell him to stop being such a dick, cause he'll probably call me out for siding with the 'enemy' and poof goes the last three years I've been friends with him. When I look at the whole situation everything tells me to step up and tell the guy to cut it out, but I just can't. As soon as I cut ties with him I cut ties with my whole group, including my best friend.
What the heck can I do about it? I need some help here, is there any way to stop it going to hell, or at least prevent the worst case scenario? I'm not a social kind of guy and I'm not used to dealing with other people's emotions... I have no Idea where to go with this, so if anyone out there is kind enough to offer some advice, it would be seriously appreciated. Thanks for reading this.

Honestly...if your gut is telling you to stand up to this guy then you probably should. Usually those kinds of feelings are pretty dead on. And in regards to your best friend: I think you should have a little more faith in him. I doubt he would cut ties with you for standing up to someone being a total dick. Also you never know what all the others in your group of friends may be thinking. Its possible that they all feel the same way you do and just can't rack up the guts to say anything. The results of making the first move might just surprise you. Not sure if that was helpful or not but its the best I've got. Good luck.

Thanks, I guess I'll have to give it a try sooner or later.

>>1 he's being a dick, call him out on it, you have every right so don't feel guilty! Friends drift apart sometimes, it happens, so don't stress yourself over it, if you're going towards different paths then sometimes there's no helping it but telling him off about all his newly found "hobbies" is the best way for him to possibly start acting normally and if he doesn't then he doesn't want help and you can't really do anything about it.
And when someone threatens to do something bad to someone else in front of you then tell them off too! It's not right to say things like that all the time especially if it bothers you.
I hope this helps ^^ good luck~!

I agree with most of the sentiments displayed here. If the guy's a douche, call him out on it. Your friends should stick with you, and if they don't, they're not worth your time. Trust me (personal experience) no friends is better than friends willing to ditch you at the drop of a hat.

just take him aside privetly and ask what the issue is,tell him that you don't like the path he is taking(not him personally) and just offer to help him get over his funk ,the breakup is mmost likey the main cause and he obviously needs a friend to be there for him

I can kinda relate, as a similar thing has happened to one of my friends. If you are staying friends with him only because you've pent so much time with him, it's not worth it. You are only going to end up getting hurt yourself. It's hard, I know, and it sucks at first, but if you can rely on other friend you have, you'll make off for the better, and less harm done overall. Don't think of it as you are leaving him just because he's in a tough spot, he has made his decisions, and you can either follow him, or you can brave it and choose your own path. Good Luck with whatever you choose