After going through all kinds of threads, there are many that have mentioned about deaths and the thoughts of committing suicide. And not only here on Dollars there are still a ton of others (including me) that have always been surrounded by all these dark thoughts.

Even though I have been having these dying ideas for so long now I never committed one because I...Fight over it. I have friends and family who care about me, plus I fear death myself. Just thinking how depressed they will be after I die, with the fact that I don't have the courage myself to actually cut my wrist or whatever, and the idea that if I die here then I lose to the pressures that I'm enduring, I prevent myself from being lured to Death.

The thing is these thoughts still circle around my mind, actually, people's minds. All kinds of people. There are, of course, those who think dying is just stupid or overdramatic, get over it, etc, but sometimes the matters or problems people're going through just pressure them enough to have these kinds of dark ideas such as committing suicide, with the fact on how people have different mental strengths with their situations. Yet, there are people who are struggling to fight off these death ideas too. They want to die but they don't want to die at the same time. In the end, they just want to avoid these suicide ideas and thoughts, to distract themselves, or whatever.
The thing is, how? It almost seems impossible to avoid these thoughts once they entered your minds.
Is there any ways to avoid it?

>>1 they're just dark thoughts that, like you said, everyone gets. The way everyone deals with them differs. There are many ways and it really depends on circumstance and mental strength.
When my dark thoughts get too much to handle and my conscience starts yelling, my head just gets so loud... I listen to loud music, usually Alexisonfire or My Chemical Romance.
Other dark thoughts I put on paper in my drawing and my writing, and sometimes I practice singing a song that speaks my feelings.
Another way is to find people that make you laugh and make you happy or even treat yourself to your favourite snack. Just find happiness to overpower those dark thoughts.
I hope this helps answer your question ^^

I've thought about suicide many times as well. It's true that to avoid these kind of thoughts you probably have to get distracted but doesn't that mean that we will never be content with our lives as they are? A while ago when I was in my depressed, deep thinking stage I came to the conclusion that, made clearer now, was pretty much that being happy is to be distracted or unaware of what's going on and our position. I should probably point out that I'm Agnostic so I believe that we probably won't find out the truth about why we are here and what happens after death. Now I don't believe it because I think that it's possible for people to understand there position in life and their existence and still be content and happy with it. In other words it's best to be completely left in the dark or understand as much as you can so people find confusion when trapped in the middle.

As far as suicide goes I don't kill myself because the future is unknown so we don't know how much it will change and for better or worse. So if our life seems completely purposeless and we are completely alone with no close relationships then it could change in the future. This just prevents me from actually killing myself but I consider it sometimes. Recently I haven't though so maybe I'm content with how life works. I could just be distracted though XD

I have to point out one thing too though. Having family and friends is good an all but make sure that it's pure. I did a thread awhile ago about not having real friends because with my friends we have fun and all but we don't connect any deeper. We don't share secrets or talk about deep topics or openly, simply because we can't. It's just not that kind of relationship. So I consider myself to not have any friends and family (because I have family too but that's even more shallow a relationship). Sorry if I ranted on there but my point is pretty much that having really close friends/family I think could help make you content with the way life is...in theory. I also forgot to mention that another part maybe even more important is our purpose and meaning for life. If we have a really strong goal to achieve or reason to stay alive then we probably won't have those kind of thoughts.

I'm not sure how relevant this is but I was wondering if if you have to fight against something doesn't that mean that it's unnatural? It's been on my mind recently and sounds write because maybe that's how life was meant to be, doing things that are natural to us instead of having to fight hard and unnaturally do things that we weren't meant to. I won't talk too much about it (and might actually make a thread on it) but it's just something to think about.

Anyway, I hope this helped clear some things up for you or at least let you know that you're not the only one who is wondering about these things.

Having dark thoughts happen to everyone.

Now deciding to kill yourself for this is, by far the worst idea to have: as you said, you have friends, family,... And even yourself you wouldn't like to not be with them.

I have dark thoughts sometimes as well.... But thinking how death feels like makes me shitting myself, and I'd rather live as long as I can.

Wen dark thoughts kick in, I like to push the thinking as far as I can, and see if it's me, or is it a pressure from outside. It doesn't have to be only because of you, and thinking ending up all the bad things around you by killing yourself is not the best way to resolve those "problems" , or bad thinking.

Just to conclude: you're not alone. And it's always good to discuss about it, suicide is never the best option :)

Having dark thoughts happen to everyone.

Now deciding to kill yourself for this is, by far the worst idea to have: as you said, you have friends, family,... And even yourself you wouldn't like to not be with them.

I have dark thoughts sometimes as well.... But thinking how death feels like makes me shitting myself, and I'd rather live as long as I can.

Wen dark thoughts kick in, I like to push the thinking as far as I can, and see if it's me, or is it a pressure from outside. It doesn't have to be only because of you, and thinking ending up all the bad things around you by killing yourself is not the best way to resolve those "problems" , or bad thinking.

Just to conclude: you're not alone. And it's always good to discuss about it, suicide is never the best option :)

That's some really good advice thank you! ^o^

I know one method that helps ease dark thoughts, and i actually learned it off the mission boards. It's called the "Butterfly Project" where whenever you have suicidal urges you draw a butterfly on your wrist with marker or whatever, name it as somebody you dont want to hurt and/or hold precious to you, and you can't cut it no matter what. You don't have to follow it word for word, but i really think it helps.

I know one method that helps ease dark thoughts, and i actually learned it off the mission boards. It's called the "Butterfly Project" where whenever you have suicidal urges you draw a butterfly on your wrist with marker or whatever, name it as somebody you dont want to hurt and/or hold precious to you, and you can't cut it no matter what. You don't have to follow it word for word, but i really think it helps.