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My problem; my mother and father decided to divorce and my father cheated on mom and now he is back. Everything is great.

BUT;

Im so sad saying this as a person who loves her mother more than anything else;
My mother doesnt care about me.

Only around my father she smiles and listens to me. But when we are alone she treats me like a piece of shit.

I am not exaggerating the situations; even my friends say that.
"Why is she so mean to you?"
Is what all my friends say.

My mother also has a habit of complaining; she complains like 30 minutes; stops for 20 minutes, and then conplains another 30 minutes.

I was fine with it however; the main problem started a few days ago;

I asked daily things or told her what happened in the school excitedly.

She only said; "hmm... really?" Or "you dont know what i am going through!! Life must be really nice to you! Heh, no problems at all!!"

However I really know well what she is going through.

If my husband cheated on me with the same woman twice i would be depressed as well however she doesnt care about what I AM going through!!

My father cheats on my mother, i hear them having sex, also my moher acts like a total b*tch towards me!

Fuck this!!

I hate it!!

Also TODAY; we were in the gym and she was walking and I ONLY asked where my father was and she said;
"LEAVE ME ALONE WHEN IM WALKING! I HATE YOU! THX TO YOU MY SPORT AND MY DAY IS LIKE SHIT!!"

I feel like crying! I mean why is she so mean to me?! What have I done?!

WHY DOES SHE TREAT ME LIKE A FAILED ABORTION?!!!

GODDAMN IT!

SHE IS THE ONE WHO HAS NO FUCKIG IDEA WHAT IM GOING THROUGH!!!

SHE LOVES MY FATHER MORE THAN SHE LOVES ME! THATS BECAUSE MY FATHER CAME BACK BECAUSE HE ONLY LOVES ME!!

SHE DOESNT CARE WHATI SAY UNLESS IM WITH FATHER!!

She even says nooooooo you know thats not true sweetie! Or so!!! GAH!

THEN IF THATS TRUE, WHEN I GET HOME INSTEAD OF SHOUTING AT ME WELCOME ME LIKE YOU WELCOME FATHER!!

SHE KISSES HIM BUT WHEN I GET HOME SHE ONLY COMPLAINS!! SHE BLAMES ME FOR THINGS I HAVENT DONE!!

GOD I WANT MY PARENTS TO BE MORE MATURE DAMN IT!!!

Now she acts so sweetly towards me! Guess what? MY FATHER IS HERE!!

And no!i cant say anything to father cause;
1)We will grow more distant with mom
2) she will complain more
3) father cant shut his mouth
4) she wont talk to me
5) they will divorce and i will have to live with her

Please help dollars!!! :(

I think it's a phase she is going through and she may be blaming the break up on you or she maybe taking it out on you because her husband has only come back temporally because he cares about you and she's is jealous. Have you any other close family you could talk to about it? Someone who could guide your mother into getting help?

>>1 my mom acts like this. What you need to do is just ignore it, don't talk to her. Don't get angry at her, just leave her and her marriage alone, it's her problems and there really isn't anything that you can do. You need to focus on school and work so that when you are of age you can comfortably leave home and make a better life for yourself. I hope this helps ^^

>>3 my aunt knows but she has been mean towards us cause my cousin and my brother had a fight etc. So no one.

>>4 thats what I do. I ignore her but this is making me mad! Like you said its their problem! I mean I broke up with my bf and cant even get depressed cause my mother is like you deserved it etc.
Can someone help?
:(

Did you try calling your mother and father in the same room and tell this story to them? And then you all talk about it. I hope this would help. (smiles kindly)

>>1 All I can say is that you need to just get through this.
Find someone you can tell this to, someone who will just listen and try to comfort you. They will really help you in these kinds of situations because this may or may not continue for a long time.
Just find someone or somewhere you can just relieve your stress and pent up emotions, (Dollars isn't a bad place to do this as you may have noticed) though I do recommend you to find a person as they will have an instant response and will be more familiar with your point of view.
Overall, just try to find someone you can tell and trust in.
They will support you through these hard times.
Good Luck.

I used to just leave the room if my mum acted aggressively towards me. I would never say a word in response just get up and leave. I figured she would start to cop what was happening and hopefully realise being angry at me for no reason would just drive me away. So my advice would be to be civil with her if she is being polite but if she gives out to you don't respond and leave. If you respond it will just open the door to an argument. Even if she doesn't stop being aggressive at least by doing this you will minimize the amount of abuse you will have to put up. Also avoid talking to her about things she can twist into an argument and if you have to avoid talking to her all together. I can't say this is the best way to deal with it, it's just the way I did.

>>7 & >>8
Thanks... I will try your advises... :)