Hi's, this is my first time in this so sorry if i'm not getting the message clearly, have any errors, or if its just stupid.

So I have this friend that I've hung out for some time since 10th grade, and we r now seniors. This friend is a he and I shall refer to him as Inu cuz he likes anime and sometimes acts like a dog a bit (in a good and cute way). A bit about him is that he is selfish as arrogant, but understanding, funny, and (a bit) smart. Throughout the time we've hung out together, we've talked about anime, games, and life.

Now, the problem occurred one day when talking about life, more specifically how we act to the people around us. Inu does not know about this and I don't want to pass through his privacy more than I should have, although I feel like I can relate to it so I'm gonna explain it in my perspective with a bit of his thoughts. The thing is that its hard to understand others more than how understand yourselves. Maybe some people feel they don't know about themselves more than should have like what they want to do in life or even their favorite foods (like myself). Maybe even some other people don't even think it's true that it is hard to understand others more than themselves. Although in the end we are our own person and not others unless we try to reach out to others.
To Inu, he thinks that he just doesn't want to be with shallow or "dumb-assed" people who think they can be better at stuff than him to the extent they don't think more about life and themselves beyond what they think of. I don't know if I am getting this right, so here's an example: a group of people with high grades with similar interest in the latest clothes and fashion that only think of the present and not beyond that.
I kinda think of this, although I don't want to criticize the people I meet since I always think of the possibility of other characteristics of others more than what they show on the outside, yet I also don't want to just be with others that i don't have similar interests or only care of themselves or some other insensitive interest without a thought in it.

Right now, i am very confused of the people I am with, including Inu. Even if i sometimes enjoy being with him, sometimes he clings onto me too much and talks alot (but i'm just a quiet person that can relate to him a bit). But don't mistake me, I'm quiet yet I try to talk to others and enjoy being with some people (most of them are in younger classes). I just want to know what others think of this and I'm gonna try to clarify this some other time, but I really need some thoughts now.

>>1 you can be friends with people different, you shouldn't be worried about the people around you unless they are making you feel uncomfortable, are making you do things you don't want to do, saying mean things to you, hurting other people, etc.
You need know that you can't fully understand everyone you meet, you can try but don't get obsessed. You can understand people if they want to be understood sometimes. I hope I helped :3

Personally, a friend, for me that is, is a person who I can tell anything. However, to get to such a level of trust, you have to take the first step of talking to them. That is a general idea that anyone can think of.
But, that doesn't mean that they will always stay the same. People change over time.
Either follow your friends, or take make your own path.
You don't need to join into their conversations every time.
Just stay around them and find the people you feel comfortable with.
Only you can make your own friends.
So go forth.
And find them.
:D

Thank you Neko-tama and Fukuda!
I was really happy reading both of your advices! :)
I'll try as best as to understand others and trust them.
It now kinda feels a bit silly of me to make this thread in the first place cuz I think I was just slow to realize it, but i hope this thread has also helped others.