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1 Name: eccochem : 2014-02-05 09:37 ID:gNI5pWRR [Del]

So, I have some problems, which is kinda a big thing in my life. I probably need to post the 2nd part.

Let's begin with my love life. I met the person about 4 months ago. And we had many things in common and understood each other. We talked everyday and just had fun. I fell in love. One day my mother went to my room and saw me talking with the person by webcam. And she doesnt want me talk with him again or so. Just btw, I'm 18, still live with my parents and I'm asian, so yes they are strict with me. I wish i could move out, but the apartments where i live are expensive even though im a student but also working(go to a vocational school). So as my mother found out. Things got quite complicated. Of course I needed to tell him that I can't have a deeper relationship with him because of my parents wish, so we kinda stayed as friends. After that we didnt talk much as we used to. The person I like said he

2 Name: eccochem : 2014-02-05 09:50 ID:gNI5pWRR [Del]

>>1 won't talk to much as much we used to. Because of that I got kinda hurt and just felt kind of bit depressiv. After a few days i gathered my confidence and talked with him. And we both missed each other. But the communication between us was still the same and as time flew by we talked less and less. Now the worst thing comes now, for me. I found out yesterday, by his friend, that he is now taken. First I was confused then just broke down and shocked. I didn't understand anymore, why it happened. I know it was my fault, that i should have said things sooner like "I want to stay with you" or so. But I never thought that after a month when he said that he misses me too, after the situation with my parents, that it will come out like this.

So this is first problem. Now comes the 2nd.

I actually don't have any friends. I do have some, but these so called friends dont hang out with me, even though i try to invite them or just talk with them . But they just kinda forget me. Like after some exchange, it ends. Usually my friends dont say anything anymore. Which makes me frustrated. I ask myself of course, if I am doing something wrong? I don't understand why this happens. I try to search for people chat with them and hope they become friends with me. But even so, no one really talks to me. Also the person I like, he says he has the same situation, but he does have many friends but said he doesnt have anyone he can say is his friend.

So, with my love life. Should I still talk with him and stay as friends? I don't know what to do. I never fell in love and im just down, just spacing out. As for the friendship, i'm also confused. As you might have guessed, I'm quite a loner and don't have much with social experience.
I also talked with these 'friends' of mine, but they just reply like "Oh, sorry. I feel for you." usually of my situation, that's it. Do they really mean it?
I really don't know what to and need really some advices...I'm slowly losing my mind.

3 Name: eccochem : 2014-02-05 09:54 ID:gNI5pWRR [Del]

/Also the person I like, he says he has the same situation, but he does have many friends but said he doesnt have anyone he can say is his friend./

What i mean is that because of our loneliness we fell for each other. We have many things in common.

4 Name: Ari!!RV+3t7/a : 2014-02-05 10:12 ID:KnOfROPs [Del]

I'm not good with helping with romantic exchanges, but I can help with your friend problem. I've been through the same thing. You are a good person. Don't ever forget that. If these people can't appreciate you, then you need to move on. It's gonna be hard, but you will be rewarded with some of the best friends ever :) Find some friends that have similar interests as you, and who WILL be there for you. If you really are set on those friends your are pursuing now, try creating an event yourself, in which they are all invited and you are a big part of. But these so-called friends (I've also used this term in my own life) don't seem to really be worth your time. Finding new friends will take effort, but I bet you will be rewarded with some good friends. ~ Best of luck :)

5 Name: eccochem : 2014-02-06 06:43 ID:gNI5pWRR [Del]

Thank you, I'll try my best.

6 Name: Neko-tama : 2014-02-06 18:33 ID:F4guGD7f [Del]

Don't stress over those relationships so much. People are social creatures and you can have many relationships in your life. It's hard to find relationships that last, relationships require effort from both parties to function healthily. I think you should just stay his friend, don't think about "maybe I should have said this..." or "did I do something wrong?" because those contribute to unhealthy doubts and regrets. You did whatever you thought was right at the time, which is fine, you can't fuss over the past. Instead you can work towards a better future. If it bothers you then just tell him how you feel, once so he knows, you'll feel better trust me :3
For friends, just wait, meet new people safely, and one day you'll find a good friend that will stay, good friends are hard to find so just be patient, same thing goes for guys.
I hope that helps~! :3

7 Name: eccochem : 2014-02-06 20:59 ID:gNI5pWRR [Del]

Thank you, I really appreciate it. :)