I'm tired of asking myself this question, anyone care to help me out?

>>1 No person can commit themselves to do something that they really don't want to do. In that sense you can't change who you are unless you really want want to change and believe in that change.

How you reach this motivation is entirely up to you, but many people have and easier time when they decide to do it for someone that they really care about.

I think, if no one want to help you out or careless with you, you can start with yourself.. how you care with yourself? how you care with the other? how you help the other? then, they'll make the same thing like you do.. am I wrong?

>>1 Change is a very gradual process and it takes time, be patient and make tiny steps towards an overall change is my best advice.

>>4 Many people say that, but it isn't always true. It's usually the safer choice, for sure, but in many cases I've found myself better off making a change sudden, before I can go back on my decision.
I've also known plenty others who swear their allegiance to the Cold-Turkey method.