Okay.. This is probably gonna be long but bare with me. There's this girl I liked for three years. And yes she liked me for three years too. Yes, I'm a pretty lucky guy. But there are a few problems that I can't seem to make up my mind anymore. And remember, we never dated due to our parents so please don't make a fret over some things I say.

How I fell in love with her was that one day she was my one of my seat partners in one of my classes and she always drew during class. When I saw her drawing and drawings I just began to have a liking to her. A few days later one of my old friend was wondering who I liked and I said it was her. Supposedly he told her and she said that she liked me too. Man, that was the best time of my life right there. That night we talked and talked on the internet. And that was the only night when it was we actually had a close connection talking to each other.

As time came, in other classes I tried talking to her in real life to get a closer relationship. Don't worry, I was at a steady pace. But as I did, she never talked back to me and tried walking away or even said nothing. I kept trying but I just can't seem to get to her. So I gave up but I kept liking her no matter what. She's not popular or anything. She's just a normal girl. I got very bored and started losing interest but there was just something telling me that I should wait a little. And so I did.

She and I had the same group of friends. There will be times when they hang out together and she and I will be there. But when I finally got to hang out with her. I'd act normal like I always do and smile at her. Not like a creep though. Lol. When I tried talking to her again, she just makes it awkward. As if I was the weird one around. I always become nervous when she starts making it weird. She would become quiet. And I will always be the only one talking. I don't like being the one leading at times. I like it when both of us lead. But it seems like she isn't even trying to keep us together besides me.

Truth be told, I actually did liked this other girl a year ago. I'm not a two timer, we weren't even dating. Well me and the girl were pretty close last year. We started hanging out all from the start of my pen. Yes, we were fighting for my pen. We made a bet and I won but she fought with me and kept stealing my pen. Yes, you guys will probably call it flirting. Well during that time, it didn't seem like my girl didn't care and do anything. I felt kinda bad by doing flirting with the other girl but I told myself to never to do it again. And for somehow she still bought me chocolates last year. I totally lost my cool when she did that. Jeez.. I then somehow fell for her even harder. Oh and the other girl, I never talked to her again. She got bored of me and left.

Soon I started to not like the people I hanged with. It was a long story so I won't tell you what happened. Let's say it went pretty bad. And so I went to find other people to hang with. And it was so much better. I was at peace but I always had my mind on her. Since she was still hanging with the same group of friends I grew a little uncomfortable. I know that when you love someone, you shouldn't worry about those thing but I had history with those people so it'll make sense, for me at least. I also don't want to force anyone to hang out with certain people. And she wouldn't let me have just at least one conversation so I couldn't do anything. All I did was do my original plan and had her on my mind.

There were times when I thought I didn't even like her. And times when I did. I don't know my feelings at all. Now this is the third year. We only have one more year left and we can finally be together but I feel very unfortunate. We never talked, she didn't seem to try her best to try to keep us together, and the people she hangs out with makes me feel uncomfortable. Last summer i swore to myself not to like her. But even though I did some mistakes but it didn't seem like she minded. I'm losing my mind everywhere! And now some of my other friends are asking me if I still liked her ever since school started. I said I wasn't so sure anymore. And they said I should because she still likes me. And that we fit each other. They made me to like her again. After they talked me out of it. I thought about it and said no I don't like her. But for some reason, whenever I see her and pass by her, I lose my cool and get nervous, or sometimes get curious on what she's up to. Is it just me? I want her, but my other half keeps saying no. How would you deal this kind of situation? What do you think I should do? It keeps bothering me, that it drives me crazy! I want to know what i am truly feeling so I can confirm it. I've broken another girls hearts before but I have never dated once. I also feel like I'm not being honest with myself. What's your opinion? Please, I need help. Thank you.

>>1 the part of you that doesn't like her is your mind's rational, the part that likes her is well your "heart". Love can be irrational and the part of you that's saying no is just afraid of wasted effort. This seems like a romance novel X3
Try thinking from her perspective, she might not be ready. You're both young and in highschool and she could just be avoiding a relationship so she can better focus on her studies. She might be too shy to confront you in person.
I think you should wait for her, but don't wait forever, a couple more years if necessary. You talked well online, try doing that again. She might be more comfortable online.
The thing is, you need to decided for yourself whether or not she's worth waiting for. From what you've wrote, it seems like you really love her and I think you should wait for her. I'm also waiting for someone special and what I did was tell him that I'm giving him around two years and then I'm moving on. Perhaps tell her that you're waiting for her to be ready to have a relationship but give her a deadline per say, she needs to know that you won't wait forever.
I wish you two well~! I hope that helps :3

>>2 Thank you so much! I'll think about it some more. Yes I love her very much and don't know what to do at this moment. I owe you a lot!

I hate to say it, but maybe she's not worth it. Maybe she changed her mind, or maybe she only said she likes you to be nice in the first place and now she's regretting it.

If she still claims she likes you but isn't putting any effort in (and is even walking away when you try to talk to her) then she's not ready for a relationship.

You shouldn't put up with her treating you like that. It's not fair to you, and I hope it's not what you want from a relationship. It's important to recognize that, although someone might seem perfect, they would be a horrible match for you.

What if she keeps treating you like that even when you're together? Do you have any reason to believe she won't? In my experience, people show their best side when trying to get together with someone. Is that really the best she can offer you?

>>4 I have also been thinking that at the same time. All my friends says that she still likes me but she never tells me that. I would tell her that I still like her but we never talk. I can never have a chance with her and just her. I keep going on and off. But I can't decide anymore. There's half of the people who say I should, yet say I shouldn't. I thought taking three years of this was going to be okay but I feel as if I've been wasting time thinking about it. Thanks for telling me what you think. I love her yet she's not doing her part. I'll think about it some more.

*cries so super freaking hard* O_O it sounds exactly like my school life...woah....that was awesome ^^ and i think that you should take a stand and do something about it...if i were you , id write her a card and give her a little present with it...im just that cheesy/corny ^^

>>5 When making a decision, choose the option that you'll regret least. If you leave now you may regret it, if you stay it might be for nothing. All I'm saying is choose a path and stick to it without regrets, choose what will make you happy. If you're worried about her happiness then you must really love her. But before you choose, you need to talk with her, one way or another because she needs to hear your decision too. I hope that helps ^^

>>7 Thanks for all the help. I just don't know how to reply back. There were time when I thought what will happen if we were dating. Maybe I'll just let her go, but it'll take some time to not think of her. Truth be told, there were times when I just forgot that I liked her. Maybe it is time to let go. I just can't wait anymore because she barely talks to me.