I am not so sure how to word this without sounding too emotional, so.....I have a significant other whom these days doesn't pay attention or communicate well or even vent to me about their problems even when it c...oncerns their emotional well being, their not communicating with me and our marriage date is soon.. I've tried to get them to open up but they simply won't...and they rag on me for being clingy; putting my arms around them or even holding them. The only actual contact we have is sex, they won't even talk on the bloody phone or even perhaps the internet... what is the point of a relationship if theirs no true love or communication. It wasn't like that in the beginning and I am sure that their not cheating...could it be that they don't want to date me anymore and just wasn't sure in the beginning. I am sorry for masking identities but I am sure in the past they have seen me use this site....Any comments?

>>1 perhaps marriage isn't the best idea.... I think you should really sit down and talk to them. That doesn't sound like a good relationship, it just sounds toxic. You deserve someone who does give you attention and communicates with you. You need to confront them and tell them what you wrote here, if the relationship continues this way it will only make things worse. So if it needs to be fixed then now is the time, if they love you then they'll try but if they don't then consider ending it. A relationship is a two way street and requires effort from both parties.
They also might be going through something really serious so make sure they're okay, it's not wrong of you to care for your lover at all! That's what being a lover is for, someone who you can confide in, protect, face the world as a team.
Talk it out, that's the best advice I can give you. You could also ask their friends to get an idea of what's really bothering them.
I wish you well ^^

Thanks sounds great, thank you neko-tama

Maybe me saying anything might not be of any use at all. But I agree from what Neko-tama had said. I do think you should talk it out and see what happens. Or even too see if your relationship is 'true' or just something that wasn't meant to happen. But seeing as how much you care for the one you love shows how much your significant other should have taken notice of. That includes your feelings. Whether it'd be joy or sadness. I mean, you put yourself out there to worry and then get comments of being too "clingy"? Shouldn't your significant other notice how you feel and how much you care for them? I'm sorry, I'm not trying to say your lover is well....a "bad" person, but from what you've said it sounds like they're not you partner at all. Once again I'm sorry, but maybe you should give it some thought even though you might have already. And confront this with your other and tell them how you feel on this matter. If it involves marriage it seems pretty serious. Sorry if it what I said sounds offensive or anything beyond that, that isn't helpful at all.

>>4your right....