Okay, here we go...

My problem is;

My family. My mother and father isnt grttin along since 2 years, and my father has been sleeping on the sofa for 2 years because of my mother. My mother always shouts, etc. So I was on my fathers side.

BUT
I learned that my father was telling this family problem to another woman which I will call 'S' here. And at the begining of August my father said "lets divorce" to my mother

Then in September my father left the home leaving me and my mother alone. He said that he went to my brothers home.

A few weeks before my birthday, he bought a phone to me and when I asked my brother he said "Oh, really? I didnt know." So i figured that he wasnt staying with my brother.

Then after a few days, i met with my father and he took me to the cinema. At the cinema he was texting with both my brother and a womans name which I read "S" (im not saying her name srry).

I told my mother this and she got furious since my father said he will be gone to relax. And she believed in him. I said I needed glasses and I was sure that I read the name correctly.

After that, on a weekend, my father mother and I went to buy glasses for me and they kind of made up.

I was so happy when my father hugged my mother and said sorry and thus he came back.

Thats when the problem started.

This "S" bitch was still on my fathers mind and he was still talking to her also he admitted that he loved her. Even near "S" he was looking at some other girls so i am sure that my father needs to go to a pshyciathrist (i dunno how i write it.).

Even this "S" said that stop calling me and messing with my feelings. But my father called her and caused tension in house etc.

As I told you before my brother took my ather so my mother was angry at him. But a few weeks ago my brother came back and they made up with my mother. My brother went through alot his girlfriend told me all of the problem;

It seems that before my father came to house he called my brother to "S" s house and asked him 'Do we look nice together?' My brother said he nearly killed that bitch but he learned a lot of information.

On saturday when my brother was here I opened my fathers computer since I knew his password. And I found "S"s CV.

I told my brother and mother and they put the file in a usb and trabsferred it to moms computer. So we learnt everything about her and even her photo. She was really ugly and beside my mother she was like a rubbish.

So my father talked to me yesterday and said "whatever happens you are my baby girl that wont change honey". Dont think of my father as a bad person he is really kind and gentle...

But then they started arguing with mom and she said I know everything about her etc. And said all the info my brother learnt. Then he said shut up to my mom and I shouted you shut up you are one to talk you cheater.

He was really sad but I think i did the truth. Actually this problem affected me in school. I was crying all the time and my best friend who is also my boyfriend now hugged me and said it will be alright all the time; he still does.

My pshycology is fucked up. Please I beg you help me, what should I do?!!

PS. Sorry the post is long, I know :/

Its not your problem. if your parents are mature enough, they'll sort it out. if your father is so 'in love', why is he still sticking around. the situation is pathetic and if you think for one second its your problem, then so are you.

A little harsh Grim, but hes right. It isn't your problem. Let your parents sort it out. If you want to do something about it, tell them to sort it out and stop being so childish. and tell your dad to stop lying haha. good luck :)

first of all your dad sounds like a jerk. second, your parents are adults and they need to sort this out by themselves. i know its hard but as much as you can try not to get involved. you'll just make it worse. i speak from experience. i understand how hurt you must be and i know i cant tell you its okay. but just try and stick it out. your not alone. after all you have us dollars...

Hi hi Arya! Starting with my personal opintion, this is why I hate a majority of male population. I've gone what you went through, and probably going to go through it again. *siiiiigh* Anyways, you shouldn't get involved too much. Already you're getting reeeeeaaally involved. It's kinda not safe. As >>4 (shadows) said, "...try to stick it out." I wish you luck, and pretend I'm there to give you a warm hug full of smiles or something that makes you happy.

may you're father right, but the two of them are acting childish and selfish, sorry if i say a wrong thing :(
good luck!

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Alright, ignoring the sad trolls attempt at sadness.

I agree with what everyone is saying. Your parents are adults, and regardless, it's nothing you need to be concerned with. If you wanna do anything, comfort your parents when you can. Maybe help out around the house and stuff to make things easier while they work things out. But don't get yourself caught up in their personal drama. And no matter what, don't feel respnsible for what they need to work out.

Hope everything works out :)

Ok honey, I'm going through something quite similar as well. I won't get into my situation, just give you some advice. It's very harsh advice as well. Only read on if you're really wanting to and if you think you can handle it.



Here goes:

I think what you need to do is accept that it's over between your mother and father. Accept that they're done, and you're stuck in the middle of it. Accept that they're too selfish to understand what they're doing by getting you all caught up in the middle of this. Accept that the normal life you had as a family is over. Don't blame yourself. I can tell you that it's rarely ever the child's fault. Obviously this is your fathers fault. That doesn't matter much now though, because the situation is already too far to fix. Which is why you need to accept that the parents you knew and grew up with are gone, and you're gonna have to try and be strong. I know it's probably really hard on you, you're probably confused and scared. Just protect yourself. Switch modes kiddo/buddy, and fend for yourself, because your mother and father are too caught up in their s*** to notice exactly what they're putting you through.

~I truly truly wish you the best of luck

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Thanks everyone and actually the sutiation is getting better so >>19, I cant accept it; not yet.
Thanks again everyone i will try ro stick out :)

i fell so stupid and useless im done with tis life! my mother killed herself when i was 5 and my father hates my guts! tonight is my last night.