I... just don't know. I'm that one otaku girl who really likes to watch anime and play games, but that caused me to become a social introvert. Before then, I really had friends, it's just thst most of them moved away to another state or trandfered schools. Lately now, I've been talking to two friends, but one suddenly left as I still have the one other remaining, who only talks about her life on tumblr (lol just like me except anime XD). I just really want some people realize that I'm way too independent and see that my future is being effected by my problem now. Please, I would like some advice, I really just don't know. Being anti-social really puts a strain in my dream.

>>1 Listen, being an otaku is not a problem! You love anime and video games and that's fine! But if you're worried about being too antisocial then just spend less time on anime or save it for the weekends. I'm an otaku and I have friends and I'm still social I just don't go to parties because they make me uncomfortable. What I'm saying is that you're friends should respect your hobby and you should respect them back by hanging out with them, like a compromise. But never let anyone tell you that your hobby is negative! Do what you love if it makes you happy :3

You both are probably using that word wrong.

>>3 not amongst the anime loving community we're not.

Anyway, being obsessed with anything is not a merit. You mentioned that all you do is talk about anime; not to be harsh but that's probably why you have no friends. Life is about diversity, people wont like you if you just bore them with the same thing over and over. It's like feeding people the same meal every night. I could talk about games for days, but I know most people aren't interested in games, so I talk casually with the ones that are and avoid the subject with the ones that aren't. Just because you accept that you're obsessed with anime doesn't mean it's alright; believe it or not, there are in fact social standards that you still must live up to. There's a difference between a healthy hobby and not being able to branch out. Your Tumblr friend is the same, you both need to diversitise.

...I really hope that you were exaggerating with the whole otaku thing, since being 100% about anime 100% of the time is not something where people can praise you for being so dedicated, and frankly, it's pretty unhealthy if that's the case. If you only have an interest in the 2D world, you can't relate to people in real life and become disconnected to the things going on around you. This may be a factor. I'm also a pretty hardcore otaku, I guess, but I still have outside interests, and when people think of me, yes they think of me as an anime fangirl and all, but there's more that they know me as, and we can relate to each other with other stuff as well.

Also, regarding that one friend who always talks about tumblr, are you sure that the relationship between you two is friendship? Because from the way you described it, it seems more like both people talking, with neither listening. And that is not how a good friendship works.

If you are having problems making friends, find some people with the same interests as you and try to relate to them. (A lot of my friendships were formed over anime ^^'). Sometimes friendships are formed so gradually that it's hard to notice when 'classmates' turned into 'friends', so don't worry if there aren't any very noticeable changes at first. A friendship is not just about anime, so make sure you talk about other stuff too! like school, or homework or something that everyone can relate to.

From the looks of your post, it sounds to me like you are hoping for other people to notice you, but why can't you be the person who is active? I hope that you aren't blaming the people around you for not seeing who you truly are or any of that crap. Sometimes, you shouldn't try and change the people around you, but change yourself instead (There are probably a bajillion quotes that say something along those lines)

Well, good luck, (and please forgive me for the really long reply OTL) and I hope my advice can help!~~~

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thanks for the advice :D i'll try to do the things you recommended me, i just didn't know how i could change to get new friends :)