((the 3rd time I'm typing this))

So there's this problem i've been trying to figure out.
I'll try to keep it short.

So I started this new school and a Guy there likes me .
he seemed different so I decided to give him a chance and talk to him to get to know him . Everything was ok , almost perfect . He managed to pass all my standards .
One evening I got him to sorta confess on a chat app since he never really admitted it .
The next day a rumour met my ear that he was in relationship for 2 years and still is .
I confronted him , he denied it .
So decided to investigate it and it was revealed that his relationship was tipping ..

Now I have a bit of understanding about his situation but .. He lied to me .
After that tragic discovery I started to move on from that thought of "us" but he keeps trying to secure a chance with me . Like asking subtle questions and hints like asking what I think bout us , the future and even skilfully asked for me not to date anyone else and to consider him .

I'm very confused here .
I finally found someone I feel comfortable with after so long. And this happens -.-
Looking for advice ,

How can I tell if he lying ? If he's serious or not ?

boys ? I need a guy's view on this as well .

(if the guy age is necessary - 18yr . Well educated )

He is lying to you, even if he wasn't cheating on you in the first place he should have at least given you time to recover from a shock or mistrust. Or at least show his trust towards you without making it your fault.

And he is not serious if he won't let you go and decide for yourself if you want to be serious again. Don't fall for his cr#p. Relationship is based on patience, care, and trust, NOT guilt and mistrust.

>>1 he lied to you. That's a bad sign, he's obviously skillful at talking and make sure that no matter what he says you don't feel bad for him!
There's another girl and it seems as though he wants to cheat, so no matter what do not let him do anything to you!
There is a minuscule chance that he isn't a lying jerk, maybe he just wants to know that he'll still have someone if he chooses to dump his girlfriend. He seems nice of the surface but can never really know what a person is like on the inside. Do you really want to risk having your heart broken? Do you want to risk him using you?
Like >>2 said, he's going to try and make you feel guilty and that's absolutely NOT how to ask a girl out!

This has been going on for 2 months.though .
He said he's not rushing anything .
He's just flowing normally waiting for me to say or do something .
That's why I'm asking for advice for like a trust test or something

Well what kind of things has he been guilty tripping you to not do anything with other boy? IS it forceful or worry?

Personally i think it's fine to get back with ex-s as long as you feel positive about it. You also have to give yourself time to adjust and see if you getting into this relationship because you feel guilty or you want to give him a second chance.

>>5 two months isn't that long though...I think you should talk to him about it though. You can never really tell if someone is lying or not, if you want to make sure then talk to his "girlfriend" if she says they're dating then he lied or maybe even she's lying...you can never tell. All you can really do is trust him or not trust him, it's a risk so just ask yourself "Is he worth risking for?" So just be careful and good luck! ^^

Yes ! I've been thinking of asking her!
Indirectly though , so he won't suspect a thing
Though I was plotting to lead him on and get revenge in case he was lying .

And nah he doesn't force me into anything,
It's one of those .. Kinda awkward thing where we don't really spend time in person as often cause in school we're busy . I hug him goodbye on evenings sometime .

But I think it's about time I talk to this so call gf .
I tried asking people from her school but my people who go there don't know her .
So stalking her via fb it is >8|

>>7 it says 2 years. That's a long time :P

>>9 oops! X3 my bad lol

My current boyfriend was in a relationship for 3 years when we began talking. It was failing, and he didn't really know how to get out of it until I came into his life or whatever. Point is, I can see why you're upset, and he should've been upfront. Sometimes, though, if guys are in a crumbling relationship, they'll do anything to try and forget about it. In my boyfriend's case, he was cheated on multiple times by his girlfriend. She was a real bitch, and still is to everyone around her, so I can understand why he didn't mention it that much when we first began talking.

Don't take it too much to heart, more than likely he told that "lie" to ensure that he didn't screw up his chances of potentially losing you-- the one thing that could save him from the dying relationship. Keep your head up, I'm sure it'll work out fine. ^^

Whoa Hiroki :0
That testimony gives me more faith ..
i've decided to give him a second chance .
But I'm intending to confront him bout that lie eventually.