So my girlfriend and I just broke up. Naturally I'm feeling devastated.
Anyway we broke up because she doesn't want to be in a relationship right now but she doesn't know why.
She knows she loves me and probably wants to go out again if/when she stops feeling like the way she is feeling.
Now I don't know what to do, because this girl is the best person that has come into my life and I genuinely thought that I would spend the rest of my life with her. But... I just don't know.

Lil' help please?

>>1 She must have her own personal reasons for being so unsure. My advice is to be there for her not as a lover but as a friend and someone who cares for her. That way if she feels like getting back together with you you are still in her life and it wouldn't be as hard. If you care for her enough then don't let her go, keep her in your life even if it is just as a friend.

I totally agree with Neko-tama, however if you two do end up getting back together always remember that it might not work out again. You know what I mean? I've been there man and breaking up for the same reason is worse the second time. Best of luck though and hang in there.

People for the love of black jesus we have a dating problems thread for a reason.

>>4 I didn't notice that thread until you pointed it out, so yah! Plus, that thread has over 500 posts and it's been getting annoying to click on a thread and then scroll down to see all of the replies and stuff so you actually know what problem they're trying to address. It's a lot easier if people post their individual problems on individual posts. ^^

>>1 I really don't have any experience in this area at all, but I'll still try my best to give some advice.

I think that a lot of people feel like you after breakups and such, so there is a chance that this feeling is just temporary and maybe you'll find another girlfriend and this will just be a blur in your life.

If you really do feel this way and sincerely love her, I say just wait it out for now and not to make any rash decisions. Don't try and make her feel pressured or anything like that.

Hope this helps, and I wish you luck!

id let her go and date someone who truly wants to stay with you..good luck and just do what you want to..you dont have to use my advice,but if you do,id choose a friend that ive known for a long time,but she would be a friend that you could compare to and someone that truly knows a lot about you..

>>5 there is so many similar situations, so no, it really isnt easier for people to create their own threads. the large condenser was made because you people decided that this was the place you would go angst about your dating issues. it isnt a choice, or suggestion, it is a demand to keep the site organized and not waste space with threads that can go elsewhere.

>>1 If you honestly love this girl, you should be able to wait. Put yourself in her position and realise how shitty it must be for her - she's confused and trying to work things out. She probably feels ridiculously guilty for leaving you hanging too, so sit the fuck down and let her work it out at her own pace.
Loving someone isn't about being in a goddamn relationship with them; it's not about possessing them or having them at your beck and call. It's about trusting them and knowing that they'll do the right thing for both of you.

>>5 Uh, firstly, you don't have to scroll. There's a reason we have the >>*insert number* things, and even if they don't do it properly you can Control+F to find the post number. Having one thread makes it way easier to keep the board clean and uncluttered. If we took each individual problem of out the Dating Problems thread, can you imagine what a clusterfuck this board would be?
So I'll go ahead and sage.

Thanks everyone! Most of you have been a great help with your advice. ^^

Ok, I really need your help on this, so please leave any answer you guys think might possibly help... So this is the story, I have a boyfriend, who is sweet, charming, and who shows every possible sign of loving me in every way you can possibly think of. He cares for me, and thinks about how I would feel before he acts. He can't get me out of his thoughts and puts me in priority. I always thought I loved him... But we had a fight not too long ago, and its because I don't care for him like he does me... I hurt him because I didn't think of how he might feel (actually, its more like I didn't think it would hurt him, but that's similar) and even though I do put him in priority, when I get distracted (like say, reading a book) I wouldn't concentrate fully on our text conversations. However, I do hurt when he is sad, or when he is away, and when he smiles, I feel happy. He makes me so happy... So what exactly am I feeling? Do I love him, or is this something else? Is it possible that we need to learn how to love, or is it something that we automatically know how to do once we really love someone?

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>>9 did you even bother reading the posts regarding this threads actual creation
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>>10 go fuck yourself for trying to take a topics viewers and dare i say poularity for your own stupid reason.

>>11 I'm sorry, I didn't even mean to do anything you just accused me of. I was just trying to get some help! I'll buzz off...

>>12 Repost in a new thread of your own, is what Sleep meant. This thread was about someone else's problem.