I've been given a decision to make by my friends that I really feel like I cant make. Either way I'm going to get hurt and I really don't know what to do! Ok I better give the full story....

I have two really good friends M & C (I'm using their initials). We have been friends for ages and we hang out all the time. At the start of this term there was a new girl, E (again her initials). E and I where good friends from day one and I also started to hang out with her. The problem was that E likes to hang out in the library and M & C like to hang out at these tables outside. This itself posed a problem. I tried to hang out with both groups just as much but I kind of hanged out with E more. M & C got a bit jelious (Sorry bad spelling) and started to feel like they where losing me as a friend. So I tried to hang out with them just as much but I always ended up hang out with E.... So today M & C come up to me and told me that I had to choice between them and E... I don't know what to do! I consider M & C AND E to be my friends! and no matter what I do I am going to lose one of them! I am really scared and confused and I just want help but I don't feel like I can tell anyone in RL about it so I'm posting it here...
Please help!

If they're making you choose - trying to take away someone that makes you happy, and trying to keep you all to themselves - then they probably aren't good friends. Tell them that, if they want to be your friend, the should learn to accept that you have a life outside of hanging out with them.
However, you did mention that you hand out with E more, so you could try to meet halfway and compromise. I had a similar issue when I was younger: A was the new kid that I and my enemy B liked, but we couldn't be around each other without fighting. So we allocated certain days of the week where A would either come play with me and my friends or with B and her friends.

<<2 thanks for your input. I have been attempting to meet halfway and hang out with both groups but for some reason I always go back to hanging with E. I feel bad for leaving M & C all the time but I honestly do try to hang with both of them. It's just how things always turn out. But I can see where they are coming from as I was in their perspective earlier this year. They told me that they would give me 24 hours to decided but I really don't want to chose.

One important thing to remember: quality, not only quantity matters in friendships. If you aren't spending a lot of time with M&C, try to make some of the time you spend really memorable. Do something fun. Watch a movie, go bowling, or play an epic board game (or whatever you're into). Show them that even though you don't spend as MUCH time with them anymore, that time is still important to you.

>>4 thanks for the suggestion... but with this school is actually in the next town over as my town is too tiny to have a high school... M, C and E all live in the town the school is in... so it is difficult for me to arrange anything after school... but thank you for your suggestions :)

>>4 thanks for the suggestion... but with this school is actually in the next town over as my town is too tiny to have a high school... M, C and E all live in the town the school is in... so it is difficult for me to arrange anything after school... but thank you for your suggestions :)

>>4 thanks for the suggestion... but with this school is actually in the next town over as my town is too tiny to have a high school... M, C and E all live in the town the school is in... so it is difficult for me to arrange anything after school... but thank you for your suggestions :)

dude get a life, new friend i mean, plus that sounds like a few of my friends, dont worry it will all work out

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That arkward moment when someone you know says stuff on your post -.-

those fore words are the end to many a friendship

hell yeah you know how annoying that is

no one should evr have to chose

I do consider that the ones to ask you such a thing are not true friends if they can't even understand that you have other things in mind than them always.
So I would tell them that, and ask them if this is what they truly want. I mean, you could explain how it doesn't change the way you see them.
If they don't care, see with E, what is her point of vue about all that. If she is either neutral or positive, I would go with her if I were you.

If it is me , i will just give up on m and c cos they are just too unreasonable and such.
If they ask you this,most likely is because they feel like they are lossing u.
So even if u choose e over them i dun think it matter much.
Just choose the one u feel more confortable with if u cant get them all tgt

I'm probably too late since you mentioned something about a 24 hour time limit, but I still hope this can help.

For one thing, is it possible for you guys to all become friends? Have M and C met E yet? Do they not get along, or have there just been no opportunities for them to hang out...?

Also, you really should figure out how E feels about this, and maybe try to explain to her your dilemma.

Personally, I think that M and C aren't really being very fair if they force you to choose between your friends. However, I don't know much besides what I learned from your post so for all I know, they could have sincerely tried their hardest with other methods before asking you to choose.

If you really do have to choose, you should follow your heart (sounds cheesy, I know) and decide. Perhaps you find yourself preferring the company of one over the other, or find that you are more comfortable with one over the other. However I feel that if you really have to make a list of the pros and cons of each friendship, that something is wrong.

Remember that friendships will drift apart sometimes and that well, sometimes, it was bound to happen. Don't let the problem drag on for too long, or try to avoid it, because then, in the end, it could end up hurting you and those people more.

If you're worried about hurting the feelings of your friends, remember that people recover from these sorts of things pretty quickly, especially if they have other friends.

Should you decide to end a friendship, I hope that it ends on a good note, and that no problems follow afterwards. (i.e. ex-friends blaming you and hating you)

I wrote too much and I wish you luck~

i wish that you had provided more information but i will attempt to assist with the info i have here,
so i agree with many of the others in the aspect of M and C not being good friends to you if they make you choose ;however as hakuro said "follow your heart", but as many people don't know entirely how to do that within their comfort zone, the solution that i think is the most efficient would be to have E also be friends or at least be tolerant of M and C until this is resolved between themselves or be friends. This is why i wish that you had provided more information because I don't know whether they,(they) dislike each other.

if theyre trying to make you choose and get rid of someone you love,then to me theyre not really the best guys to have..i mean,they cant just make you suffer like that and i think that what theyre making you do is their selfishness..i hope i helped,but choose who you want and be careful..okay..