okay so i know i might just be acting like a little kid but here is my problem. so thanksgiving is coming up and my uncle from my mom's side of the family asked me to go spend it with them and the rest of my mom's family and i said i would ask my dad. my dad got home that night and he told me he had made plans to go to his parents. i didn't say anything until today and i asked him if i could go see my mom's family who i haven't seen in a year instead of going to see his parents who i see all the time. he got mad at me and started yelling at me when i just asked the question so i went down into my room and was crying and called my mom because i needed someone to talk to. my mom said she would call my dad and talk to him. my dad got off the phone with her and started stomping on the floor since my room is in the basement and yelled at me to come up stairs. i got upstairs and he started yelling at me again and threw the TV remote at the wall and i went downstairs.i was minding my own business and he came down and told me to do what i want and he was done with me. so i don't know what to do now and i could really need some help/advice on what to next. sorry if it sounds like i'm complaining i just don't know what to do and The Dollars are the first thing that came to my mind.

Its good buddy, just hang in there there are many people with father issues i know me and my dad have rough patches, but he loves you, maybe your not saying all the details, or maybe you are and your father is just being a dick.... but nonetheless its mostly because he has a reason maybe something is stressing him out alot :D.. hang in there little guy ^~^

Well, although you haven't told us all the details (which is good, because you shouldn't write down your whole life story on the Internet, regardless of the site), I think that you should go to your mother's side for Thanksgiving and spend the holiday happily. Try to forget what happened and move on. I know it's pretty hard to move on in any situation, especially when it comes to family matters, but push away the memory of that day and fill your mind with other memories. Think about all the things you'll do during the holiday, all the fun and conversations you'll have with your family. When it comes to your dad, just act normally, as if nothing happened. You're going to have a rough time the first day or two, but as time passes on, all will be forgotten and everything will be ok =3 Oh, and when you go to your mum's family's house, don't talk about what happened and if you're asked about it, brush it off as a trivial matter. It's important not to pick at the little wound so it can heal.

~Happy holidays~ =3

It sounds like your father is a violent person. It's not ok for him to throw things at you just because you want to spend time with your mother. If he gets violent like this again, you should lock yourself in a room with a phone and call the police. Your safety is the important thing here, even if it means getting him in trouble. As for going to see your mom this Thanksgiving, go right ahead. I can't see any reason to feel guilty about wanting to see the other side of your family.

If your parents are split up it's understandable that your father is mad. He should be mature as he is an adult, but apparently that has been replaced with yelling. I do not mean to offend. I think >>3 was spot on, go to see your Mother's family, staying will only make things awkward and probably worse. People dislike only being followed after they had to throw a "tantrum" or yell and scream to get their way. I suppose it's seen as insulting as in "You'll only follow me after I acted like a moron.. I don't want that" or something similar.

I don't mean to sound judgmental at all, there's not much you can do now that the situation has reached this point. As I said I agree with >>3. Do your best to enjoy your holidays and don't rub salt on the wound~