You see, I'm a VERY shy person in real life I'm also a NEET (Not in Education, Employment or Training). It all started because of my shy personality, because of it I refused to participate in school activities like singing various songs or doing a Romeo and Juliet drama something like that in front of lots and lots of people. Then one day the Principal forced me to do those kind of activities and even threatened to expel me, and I was like (*HELL NO!*) I was thinking of transferring to another school, because that Principal is really scary.
But at the same time I also thought (*Is there even a school that doesn't do these embarassing things?*) the answer to that popped into my mind.

The answer is (No), there's probably no schools like that and no matter how kind your teachers is they will always force you to do all those things that you don't want to do.

And after that, I just refuses to go to school. My Parents asked the Principal if she really threatened to expel me, but of course she denied it.

It's been 4 years since I last saw my classmates, friends and my cousin.


You probably think it's kind of funny how I quit studying because of those reasons. But I bet my fellow NEETs' probably understands me.


And that's how my NEET life and Socially Awkward self began.

It's really been a long time since I talked to someone outside my family.

This is kinda embarassing and I don't even know why I am sharing this in here, well whatever.

Good day Dollars people~~!

I also find school a VERY VERY boring place.

No matter how many friends you have, no matter how funny your friends are when they make stupid jokes.

To lots of people really looks forward going to school again after a long vacation or something, but for me its just *meh*.

For some people they want to go to school so they can save up the allowance given to them by their parents, fool around with your friends.

I truly respect those who studies so they can give their parents a happy life.


I apologize if I offended you in some way.

Dew I don't find that you've offended me in any way. In fact I'd go so far as to say you've begun to make me think of why I'm in college right now.

I've never been...let's say the best person in school, and despite my family/friends telling me I'm smart I've never felt that way. I still struggle with those thoughts along with many other self-destructive thoughts, but I digress.

The point I want to try and make is that while I may not be a NEET I can understand and somewhat relate to your thoughts on school in general. I'm only taking school for two reasons: To get it out of the way; and to learn what interests me in a more structured environment.

I know what you're saying when you think school is a boring place, but with the way my brain works I pretty much have trouble motivating myself to do things I love. I really love Japanese culture and technology, but I lack my own self-motivation to pursue such things; therefore, I need to put myself in an environment with people to give me encouragement. Whether or not that's going to work out still I'll have to see for myself, and I'm still struggling with social issues mainly on how I view myself compared to others.

Anyway before I make this any longer I'd like to say if you want someone, anyone, to talk to on these problems you're having I'm more than willing. Though I will understand from your position if you don't want to.

As always, have a nice day!

You will eventually have to go back into society and keep putting up with bullshit like that. It will be much worse when you eventually have to go back if you don't get used to it. I'd say based on what you said, you need to find some way to motivate yourself to do things you don't want to do. Your life will suck hard if you don't, or at least mine did.

That's my non-expert, totally ignorable advice.

>>1>>2 I used to cope with social anxiety and was a very shy kid when i was younger, so i feel i can relate to what your feeling. As much as i understand it's difficult to do some of these things, usually it's to help build you up as a person, from personal experience i always had issues in class presenting or speaking in front of groups, it just takes practice in convincing yourself " hey this is pretty bad, but everyone else is gonna do it, and i can do it too"
Also i'm sure 95% of the most populations find school to be the most dull thing ever, and i can agree on that, it's dull and boring, but at the same time we all need education from somewhere ( yes i understand we can all be home schooled). But that's why i think many of us make our friends, it deludes the boring and gives us something fun to take part in to help pass the dull days. Also having true friends is a truely great gift to have.
I should get to my point, as much as you're not liking it now, as much as you don't want to, you should continue your studies and try to overcome your shyness. Again from personal experiecnce i manged to get over mine, so it's not impossible. Also, maybe try making friends with people ( again i understand that can be extremely difficult given the circumstances) but friends ( true friends atleast are there for you). Anyways, don't give up. And i wish the best for you :)

>>3 I'm really happy that there's still some people who understands me, others often laughs at me when we somehow got into the topic of "studying" I'm trying to tell them the truth but they don't seem to understand it. Also I'll be really happy if I can be your friend. :) Thank you for reading and understanding. God Bless, Denji.



>>4 I'm getting back into it now but since its been a really long time, I'm still having a little problems getting back. Thank you very much for listening/reading, Thank you for your advice as well. :) God Bless You.





>>5 I used to say those convincing words to myself back then as well, but my shyness always takes over my brain and my body, so it's not really that easy for me. But even though I said that school and studying is boring, I still find it pretty fun.
I have no problems socializing when I was younger, I became friends with my classmates, my cousins' friends even to my teachers and the cafeteria lady as well :D. Its just the embarassing activites that gets me to give up. True friends are a totally great gift indeed, even though I haven't personally talk to my friends for so long, I still chat with them online sometimes since they're busy with thei studies. I made some new friends earlier as well when I was playing an online game.
I worded my second comment wrong, sorry about that.
Anyway, Thank you very much for understanding and taking the time to read my long-short boring true story of mine. I really appreciate it :) God Bless, Doug.

>>6 I myself thought it'd be hopeless and never work, it took me up until sophomore year of high school to get over mine. And sometimes it takes longer, i have a friend who's 19 who's finally making progress on hers. so i'm sure you can pull through :)

i totally understand that feeling when you are pressured by the surroundings and atmosphere of the school.

I am almost a neet. i just go to school for the sake of my mother who is working hard.. but i dont know what I want to do to my future. for me this world is beyond hopeless.. because it is hard to find something that will motivate you to turn yourself into a not-worthless and not-useless person..

but i know i just cant blame it to the people around me or my surroundings for the way i am, the way I am useless.. i think in our life, all we need is an unexpected encounter.. if only we can find something or someone that will totally change our, that can really force us to breakaway from our own "cage", then maybe we will see the world differently..

uhhmm.. what Im trying to say is that, you dont need to force yourself to meet the standards of the society or world.. someday, you will be freed in your life and see the world in a different view.. who knows, you might like going to school again someday ^_^

i hope your shyness will be cured >////<

gambare kudasai ^////^

i hope i helped a bit ease your feeling >//<

>>7 Time really flies, I was really young when I stopped studying and I just happen to think of it the other day and I was like (It's been 4 years already? Man, that was fast).
Tell your friend "Good luck" as well. And again, thank you very much. :)





>>8 I still probably don't know what I want to do to my future even if I study now. I mean there is a lot of things that interests me, but I just can't choose one. So basically I still don't know what I exactly what want to do.

" i think in our life, all we need is an unexpected encounter.. if only we can find something or someone that will totally change our, that can really force us to breakaway from our own "cage", then maybe we will see the world differently.."

I totally agree with you. :D

Since you're almost a neet but still studies, do you find going to school fun? If yes, then please enjoy it as much as you want without losing your way. Even if your goal isn't to have fun, but I think it's okay to enjoy yoursell a little.


And I won't really force myself to fit-in to society, there's nothing wrong with being a little different.

"i hope your shyness will be cured >////>9 I've never really share this personal info about me online so its a little embarassing but at the same time I feel really good getting this stuff off my chest. :D

And again, Thank you.

>>11 Never fit in with society, fit society around you.

Im a NEET as well and i have social anxiety, i sit at home in my bedroom all day i come out to eat or use the bathroom. I have been in the outside world when i first dropped out of high school and got a job instead. It was for someone who i thought cared for me so i did it for her and once she chose my friend over me since my money was gone, my social anxiety got worse i quit my job attempted suicide a couple times but then decided to just move back home which is where im currently at right now. I want to go back to school but im to old now im 21 and i still can't force myself into a room full of people i don't know to get my ged. So i sit in my room by myself watching anime or playing video games. Being alone makes me feel more easy then being around people i don't know. I'm trying hard right now to at least find a ged course or something i can do online so i don't have to enter a classroom.

em do guyss can yu sugest some good ways to study more efficientlyand be concetrated.;;

>>14
Destroy/lock away anything that distracts you

Here in my country there's this kind of education called "ALS"/Alternative Learning system and the other one is called "OHSP"/Open High School Program (I'm not sure if the other regions have these or maybe it's only in Makati (it's a city btw)). It's for the people who are too old to be in high school but still wants to pursue education. You'll be inside a normal looking classroom with classmates who are as old or older than you. And the good thing is you'll only have to attend it either once a week or thrice a week depending on your schedule. It also works for those who have part time jobs. ^^

I'm not a neet but I'm a very very shy person and there are also times when I don't want to go to school anymore. But I have to.

Oh, my country's the Philippines btw =)

You see Im a shy person too... I dont want too to participate in the singing stuff, roleplaying or whatever but I started to think what can I achieve if I cant do stuffs like that, I felt like Im a useless person... Well for me, face your fears, because when I participated in stuffs like that, I felt that I became normal people like others that can do everything. Just my opinion.