It's pretty weird, but I'm not really sure if I'm being bullied.

So here is pretty much what is going on, I just started a job, like a month or two ago. It's took alot of learning and I'm finally able to hold my ground on the sales floor. There are two other's on sales with me (I'll call them A-kun and B-kun) and B-kun gave me the nickname "new girl" (thus the name I picked cause I try to keep my job out of my internet time...)

A-kun's really nice and we get along fine. but then B-kun...I really don't know what to do about. I normally grin and laugh it off, but last few weeks it has been getting almost vicious with low blows...like for example, we make commissions on our sales and when A-kun makes a large sale, B-kun's like "way to go man! nice job!". and nice things like that. But then now that I'm starting to make bigger sales, I don't get, "nice job! you are getting the hang of it" what I get from B-kun is "Way to take money for my kids food from me to pay for your toys." Mind you, toys is referring to the computer I'm building that would be able to handle my animation programs...

Or I'll get stuff like "Get off the sales floor, New girl. You are to green to be doing anything but returns for me." or "look at you on break sucking up the money A-kun and I bring in". And like when he catches me doing anything other then sales, like stocking small things, or pulling my own stock, he makes this mocking face and in a tone that make me wanna smack him, he will say, "Aw, look at the new girl finally pulling her weight around here." Mind you I have been taking care of alot of shit since day one cause both A-kun and B-kun don't really keep things organized and always leave the break room filthy. So while they are snipping sales, I'm either cleaning something, stocking, or learning the merchandise...While still keeping up with their numbers with a low return rate.

So that is pretty much what I've been dealing with the past two months...and like most the time I just smile and laugh it off, (though once I did break down and cry a bit...whole nother story, but B-kun was the final straw) but the other day when my roommate grabbed me from work, he pointed out asking "what is that guys problem?" and for the past few days I haven't been able to get it out of my head...

I kinda knew that I was fresh meat and that it would be hard, and that I should have expected to be treated like shit...but like, should I really just get B-kun get away with it? My inside voice wants to rip him apart, but like I can't...I really need the money the job brings in, and I couldn't imagine what it would be like after I let loose on him...or even bring it up with management...being that I would have to continue working with him till who knows when...

I dunno what would be the best thing to do...Or am I simplely just reading to much into it just because B-kun is picking on me a bit...

Well, I can be crude and tell you to "suck it up", but I understand where you're coming from. This is one of the foulest things that the human persona does - put the blame on somebody who does acts on entirely good faith, just because of competition.

What I can tell you to do is the same, however - suck it up. You know why you're in there. Work with your goal in mind. Take comfort in the fact that you will come out as a better person after this ordeal.

I look forward to your watching your animations in the future. And also, karma's a bitch. B-kun will get what's coming.

B-Kun is a jerk, but you sort of just have to deal with it.
Make sure they're just small blows, nothing serious. If he starts physically assaulting you then you should get someone involved, but until then deal with it. Good luck.

>>1 Listen while I can't necessarily say you should take action now I can say that Chrome is wrong in one sense. Verbal abuse can be just as bad as physical abuse in some cases. If it's enough to make you cry then it's a problem, and you should at least ask someone you know close to you who can help resolve the problem, hopefully without violence, concerning the person who's bullying you. Just remember that you don't have to act until someone gets violent because verbal abuse is just as horrible.

>>2 Crude is ok. I'm pretty crude myself...though I think Blunt might be better. but regardless, you are right. I can't really do much other then hold my head up and plow through...I'm not going to be here forever. And I might have just been looking to have people tell me to suck it up. I want to act so bad...I've always been the time to stand up to bullies...So now that I'm getting picked on, I'm having a hard time keeping it all in...

>>3 I don't think it will turn to physical violence. B-kun is a nice enough guy, his words are just sharp and he belittles me alot...but I mean like I don't think he hates me. He offers to drive me home when my roommates can't get me. (I have an hour long walk home and by the time I get outa work, it is dark.)

>>6 I'm honestly probably not going to ever act on it. Least until it gets that bad again. It was only once did he really hit the low blow, and he knew it...But then after that, I'm not sure if it was cause how I handled it or what, but he hasn't struck that nerve again. (probably helps that when the manger asked what happened I kinda said it was just stuff going on at home and that it just couldn't keep it in. he heard me cover for him.)

It's going to happen in EVERY job you work at.
It really blows but try not to let him acting gay bother you too much.

I guess. I've worked at a few places and it's never happened before...Last time someone made me feel like this was back in middle school...Cept then I was able to tell them to fuck off and just dealt with the detention afterwards...

I'm really hoping I'll be able to deal with it...I just found out A-kun is transferring out to another store. I really don't want to go job hunting again.