I was just sitting around bored & started thinking about my life... It actually depresses me.
I'm a 20yr. old who can barely keep a job more then a month cause he's too lazy to do any real work, I haven't had any friends irl since I graduated high school & I've never had a girlfriend ever, the only girl I ever really loved was too cool for me in HS and I was too much of a chicken shit to tell her how I felt. I think these amongst a lot of other things are the reason I stay at home listening to music & playing games all day. I try not to think about these sad things and go about each day happy, but they always creep up on me to remind me how sad my life is...

Hi there Steve!
I quite understand how you feel.Ive been exactly the same the last year. 20,no job,just playing and listening to music without a girl.
One day a old friend of mine helped me trough this. I stopped playing so often,got enrolled in uni,found a job and had fun with girls since then. Im a lazy person so from time to time i go back a little bit to my old self.
There is nothing wrong in being like this but it makes you more unhappy than happy and the only thing to do is change yourself a bit. This society is not prepared for people like you and also people like you are most likely not prepared for this society.
What is the right thing to do? Think about ur situation troughoutly and think about a solution. The problem is only in yourself and in no one else. Talking to someone close about it or even a random person would help you.
Good luck Steve and i hope you gonna make it trough!

-Army

i am not going to lie. i am going to be real with you. if you don't like your life and think its pathetic cause your not happy. then change that. don't be lazy and don't call yourself that. if you want things to get better start by changing how you see yourself.
why do you talk badly about yourself? no one has the right to look or talk down on anyone including yourself. if you want to feel better about yourself and life. then stop thinking about the past. think about what you want or need. make it happen. lonely find someone then.
no one is too good for someone else. if she can't see you for who you are and love you for being you. then find someone else. show her she is missing out of a great guy. make that new girl happy. who knows maybe she is just what you need.
also find a job you love. go to school for it. if you do what you love it never work. find your calling. be the greatest in that field. you can do it. just work for it. then be happy for what you have done.

>>2>>3 steve buddy, they're right, just try to change yourself to fit what you want to be :) and talk to people about trying to be a better person. Not much else can be said, we can't shape your life for you, that's all on you, but i think you can do it :)

>>1
seems that by your experience you wouldn't just settle on a small change (i know because i too once had the feeling of a failure fuck) how about considering something drastic in your life for a change? of course after you consider how much you have to lose anyway, can't have too many people got their lives down by grieving you

>>1 I totally understand how you feel. I took the whole year off from not going to school last year and I told myself that I was going to get a job and make my life better, but all I did was sit around all day at home, listened to music, and thought to myself how depressed I am. This year, I am going to college and I'm actually getting shit done. You just gotta get up and do something for yourself. I still pity myself from time to time, but I try to think positive and move on.

If you don't like the way you live: change it. You are not a tree. So get up from your bed and start do something that your future self will be happy. It's not easy, but I can assure you that it's worth it.
As a start, you should think better of yourself. Probably when you were a kid everyone told you that you are good for nothing. Now, you need to "delete" that part from your personality. You are good. You are strong and you can do so much more. You're not lazy and you will be heading to a new path in your life. This is the moment when you decide what you want to be.
Not having a girlfriend is not that bad. It means you have a good heart.
To have a girlfriend only because everyone else has it's just wrong. You should have a special someone in your life only because it's really special to you. Not because it's a trend to be in a relationship.
And maybe that girl in highschool wasn't as cool as you think she was. I know people who give you the impression that they are so much better than you, when actually they aren't. Maybe she wanted to talk to you, but you were too shy. And she was afraid that you might not answer her feelings.
You know, this are the kind of things that you'll never know.

When something that you've never done occurs in your life: try. You can't fail until you try. Failed once? Try again. Don't be afraid of the unknown.
You want me to motivate you to try new things? To go out and change your life?
Don't expect it to be sudden, but have faith that it will happen.

Thx everyone, I appreciate all the positive feedback.