So, I just started my Senior year or High School 3 weeks ago. I honestly figured this whole year would go by with nothing interesting happening like every other year. Another, lonely year. However, on the 4th day of school, I was sitting in my 4th Period Food Prep class. Since I don't like staring at people, and it is a rather large class, I was just kinda looking around the room. My friend across the table started talking to me, and when I went to look at him, something caught my attention. I turned my head slightly to the right, and my gaze locked with that of a really beautiful girl. We just sorta stared at one another for about 20 seconds or so, then we both starting giggling, chuckling, however you want to say it. Something just sort of... clicked after that I guess. I havn't been able to get her out of my head since. Later that period, I sat across from her while working on an assignment. I helped her out with her work, we told each other our names, and that was about it for that period. I was basically happy for the entirety of the weekend after that. However, the following week, something didn't seem right. I'd say hi to her, and she'd respond with this really emotionless hello and she'd avert her gaze. There was only one other time that following week that our gazes met again, and like before we laughed and went back to conversing with our friends. But then the rest of the week, we only said hi to one another, and while i'd say it happily, she'd still seem emotionless and avert her gaze. Just this passed Monday, I purposefully sat in a different seat at my table closer to her so it'd be easier for us to talk. There was a pause in the conversation between her and her friends, so I seized the opportunity, said hi, and asked how her weekend had been. She seemed to really light up and she seemed overly happier than usual. Then the rest of the week went back to being that two times day hi and bye. It's sort of this awkward silence between us that worries me. I'd try to strike up a conversation more, but i'm actually really shy around people, and according to a friend of mine who is friends with her, she is also very shy, perhaps more than I am. Everyone i've mentioned this to has agreed that it's likely that she has a crush on me as well, but neither of us is willing to start the conversation with the other. I'm afraid that if this goes on too long, she'll lose interest. Not only that, but she also seems to have become friends with the class football players, who would probably like nothing more than to get in her pants. Every time they talk to her it pisses me off. Not visibly, but it does. It also discourages me because typically girls prefer the football players over computer geeks like me, no matter how good I look or how nice I am. My friends in that class don't exactly help either by constantly embarrassing themselves and me. My one friend keeps trying to give me advice, yet he always gets friendzoned practically immediately after being met. At first he was encouraging me, then he started taunting me about it and insulting me, calling me a coward, etc. and now he says I have no chance in hell. A good part of that was just today. I got ahead of her when we were leaving school and I made a detour and used the same door she leaves out of, oddly enough, she was right behind me, then we were walking side by side, but neither of us said a word. She pulled out an MP3, walked into a crowd of people who I assume were friends, and I just kept on walking to the bus, beating myself up over not having said anything to her. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can deal with this situation? I really don't want to lose yet another person who I feel strongly about. Its happened before. I've been alone my entire Highschool career and it gets depressing. The only reprieve I get is at night when I feel the most at peace.

tl;dr I like this girl in my food prep class, I think she likes me, but we're both too shy to talk to one another on a regular basis, and I have no idea how I should deal with this situation and not lose her.

ok. first, i'm not good with romance. my advice may be not useable or even screw you up. but whatever, this pisses me off how you like her and she probably likes you back BUT BOTH OF YOU AREN'T TALKING WITH EACH OTHER. yeah, it pisses me off. and my advice is pretty doesn't make any sense.

the advice:

DAMNIT, ASK HER OUT!

if she doesn't like you back, then you probably will still be friends. you get broken heart, but eventually everything turns out fine. you wont die anyway. if she likes you back, then, heaven for you. but if she'll really going out with you, be careful. she's pretty and popular. your life probably will be a bit hellish.

and additional, if she doesn't like you back, please don't start ignoring her or something. be friends. she seemed nice, and you're comfortable with her, right? so please don't act like stranger. it's your choice though, but still.

ask her out if she says yes good luck.
if she says no well just don't give a damn. there are other people out there for you. don't feel bad. besides what the worst that could happen she puts you down curse her out.
your better then the football players so someone out there will love the way you want. but you to look for her. maybe your already someone dream guy and don't know it. if that girl thinks she can be better.
find some other girl you like make her happy and then you'll be happy that is the most powerful way to get over her cause she will see she messed up. she'll regret it then.
love is finding the person you can relate with you maybe your dream girl can't or your both just not right for each other. ask her out find out if she is yours if not, move on. find your love.
as for just being friends part if you can ask her out maybe your not ready for a relationship yet. ask to be friends with her see if your personalities match. if yes ask to be her boyfriend. not don't ask be friends. maybe if your act as friends first you'll grow closing and loosen up and ask her already.

She sounds really shy, she must feel like you do neow "I should have said something....he probably thinks I'm weird.....I said something stupid...." Etc etc. it sounds like she likes you. I believe that you have a chance ^.^ listen, instead of football I have hockey players here, guys that just want to get in girls' pants are occasionally have a conversation with but trust me, she's not interested, she's probably looking for someone like you; intelligence is attractive. As a yandere I'd do just about anything for the one that I love but I won't ask you to go that far! X3 take it easy but slowly but surely work your way into her heart. Since she's shy don't push it but don't do just nothing. My advice is to get her talking about her interests (music maybe?) (I find it incredibly easy to talk to people about anime X3 ) that should get her to feel more comfortable. She might have other stuff going on in her life so that may explain those days where she sort out of it. Try your best, good luck, I wish you two happiness; I hope that I helped!! (^o^)/

>>2 I'm not the kind of person who rushes into relationships, sorry to say. I like to take my time and get to know a person as much as can, while still leaving some mystery. I've asked a girl out once before too soon, about 2 weeks after meeting her, and she flat out rejected me, which sent me into a downward spiral for the last 3 years. She was perfect, the girl of my dreams, but it wasn't meant to be. She doesn't even want anything to do with me anymore.

>>5 There is a bit of credence to that actually. That first day we met, there was a point where me and her were the only ones in the room, everyone else had gone over to the kitchen area in the next room. She was actually the one to break the silence. I had been glancing her way, she said something, we both laughed, and then it fell quiet again. It was only later that day after we'd gone home that I thought of something I could've said. Perhaps maybe that's why she hasn't tried to say anything since. She probably thinks she said something stupid or that I think she's weird. That would explain it a bit more.

Of there's anything that sets me apart from just about anyone at my school, it's that i'm a writer who my English III teacher holds in high regard, she'd give me a recommendation in an instant if I asked. I'm also a self-employed voice actor(still in training), and my friends agree that i'm not a bad actor, but at times they arn't sure either which is confusing.

I live out in the countryside. While people have heard of anime and know what it is, they typically either don't like it or don't care for it, or perhaps they think anyone who does like it is weird. I open about it, but only to a degree. I'm afraid that if I mentioned it to her now, she might think i'm weird. I'm also a big gamer. While girls mostly don't mind games, they'd much rather be doing other things, and if they think you spend too much time playing games, then they lose interest. Talking about my interests to girls is a bit... hard because of it.

What's strange though, is that I hardly know her at all, i've hardly spoken to her, and yet I feel this way. Perhaps it's because she fulfilled one of my dreams the moment the I met her, or maybe it was because she was really nice and didn't show any signs of being overly violent. She dresses beautifully and she herself is beautiful, both combined is a rarity these days, at least anywhere i've been.

One thing I noticed is that she seemed surprised a bit when I took off my glasses one time. I'm farsighted, so I guess you could say they're more or less reading glasses, but they also help me focus. My vision doesn't get worse when I take them off, it just becomes harder for my eyes to focus. I take them off every now and again. Just that one time, I had been wearing them since class started, and I took them off that one time and she just seemed a little surprised that I could, especially since I didn't put them back on. I only recently found out that she wears glasses, though i've never seen her wearing them, she just mentioned it to one of my friends who seems to talk more openly to than me. Since that day where I took them off in front of her, i've kept them on, thinking that perhaps she thought we were also similar in that regard.

I might try taking her way out of the school again, perhaps maybe i'll be able to work up the courage to talk to her while we walk to the buses, or maybe she'll manage it.

That sounds like a plan to me (^o^)/ she sounds a little insecure (on account of her glasses,) but if she wasn't interested she wouldn't act the way she does so keep up your effort!!! :3

Just a little update. Not much has happened between us yet. I'm trying like a mad man in my own shy way. I've been observing how she acts around everyone else in the class, and it more or less seems like any other guy who tries to come on to her gets friendzoned quickly. Unlike me who she still has trouble talking to, she flat out has conversations with other people. The other guys constantly invade her personal space and get right up in her face when she's relaxing. She seems so uncomfortable at those times. I just want to get up and deck those guys. Sadly, I lack the strength to do so. My hand would bounce off and then i'd get tossed across the room.

I still hold out hope that i'm in the lead as far as her interest is concerned. We talk here and there, but neither of us really knows anything about the other yet. I might have to play 20 questions with her sometime soon. Quickest way to get to know someone, though that be rushing it too fast.

I was out of school on Friday on account of a sinus infection. If it were possible, I would have gone just so I could see her again, at the very least that smile of hers. Makes me happy just seeing it.

And that's exactly what you should tell her. Kinda. Like how you like her smile and that you want to know more about her. Perfect setup for asking a date. She seems like a nice catch, so good luck dude, I hope all goes well for you. ~Furai-kun