>>2 I want to preface this with the sentiment that I really appreciate where your coming from. Much of those emotions you've described are very similar to my own, but I'm belligerent when it comes to things like this. I may very well be in "checkmate" already, but I absolutely refuse to acknowledge it. At the times I've tried to drop all contact with her, it forces me to acknowledge that I've lost and, realizing that that's what I was going to do, I immediately reverse it.
It's also actually rather difficult for me to just charge headlong into her situation because there's so. damn. much of it to tackle. I really do hate waiting around for her consent for these things, but its simply a matter that if I tried to do anything without her support I'd get steamrolled, and then she'd get steamrolled even harder for my association. I've always reasoned that that'd be far worse than doing nothing at all, right?
>>3 There isn't much that I've told you here that I haven't told her, including the fact that I've tried to break ties with her and failed. She realizes that it bothers me, but that alone isn't enough it seems. To compensate she's taken to trying to play things down, to ignore her own problems for my sake, but as I've said it's gotten to a point where its fairly difficult to conceal.