1 Name: misaki : 2013-09-02 09:40 ID:UyzODGLw [Del]
okay,um,i wanna know what you guys think on what is the best way to comfort someone.
i know someone who needs some comforting (he's failing in school, having some family trouble, and he's being bullied at school.) and i've tried talking to him but it doesn't seem to work. i'm really close to this person so i'm really worried and i want to help..i talked to him before a lot of times about this and sometimes i feel like i end up saying the wrong things. i think he needs someone who's like a person who hasn't heard his story yet and someone who can give him a fresh perspective and the right words..(maybe a counselor?). Am i right?
if not, i think i might neeed those suggestions.
2 Name: Hitomi Tsukimi !pouHfNIzKo : 2013-09-02 13:07 ID:nX5pcCNF [Del]
maybe suggest he talk to random people online about it whom havent heard the situation before. it's helped me before
3 Name: Neko-tama :3 : 2013-09-02 13:26 ID:F4guGD7f [Del]
This is just an idea but what if you made him a Dollar? There's many people that he could talk to here ^^
I don't really have much experience but I think that he doesn't want to talk about it, maybe he wants to take his mind off of it. So instead of getting him to talk, make him forget about his problems. Have fun, take him out somewhere where he doesn't have to think about everything. If school is trouble then he needs a tutor (you could help him out too.) I hope that helps! Good luck!
4 Name: Taichi-kun : 2013-09-02 14:33 ID:oRp3YoE6 [Del]
It seems to me like he thinks(and is probably right) that you're not open-minded enough. You should try and listen to him not really say some usual stuff like it'll pass. You can't really help him it's something that just happens and will pass with time. You seem to have been talking to some people about their problems and you've started to have patterns which is not a good thing if you want to "help" people all the time. Just try to clear your mind and listen to him. And most important throw your ego away. Just my opinion you don't have to take it seriously beacause I don't know the details this is just something I think .
5 Name: Marmeladov : 2013-09-03 08:31 ID:VxkvrUJ1 [Del]
Relate to him? I remember some stuff from parenting class like:
Don't attack his identity.
Emphasize the good things about him.
Never call him things like crazy or insane.
Try to understand him.
That's all I got, personally what got me through bullying was my dad telling me to literally fight my bully. But I remember always wanting someone to tell me that it was okay to feel terrible about it. (I won the fight by the way.)
