Okay. So this has probably been going on for almost about 4 years now.
I have this on going crush on this guy. He has this smile.. This like.. perfect smile. Whenever he looks at me, he just has this soft look on his face that makes me feel all warm inside. Gosh, just whenever he just softly smiles at me just makes me blush like crazy.
We have dated twice already once in 7th grade(for about 3 or so weeks?) and once at the beginning of my freshman year for about.. 6 or 5 months? He was the first person I ever dated and kissed. Could it be because he was my first that I still have these feelings?
Anyways, at the end of each school year, he'd seem to pay "special" attention to me. He'd talk to me more.. put his arm around me and try to flirt with me. During the summer after the end of my 7th grade year, he started talking to me on facebook and kept trying to tell me that he still had feelings for me. But I'd just brush him off because I hadn't full realized my feelings for him. He tried so many times to confess to me and at one point I was like "Why did you even break up with me in the first place if you still liked me?" just to get him to think about that for a while and leave me alone.. because he would try to confess to me at my house... when my brother and his friend were listening in the next room. So for that summer, I managed to escape from him. x3 But then..in my 8th grade year is when I probably started to realize my feelings for this guy. I began to become SUPER jealous about this girl who he ALWAYS hung out with on the bus (we all rode the same bus.) They flirted, kissed, and whatnot.. and that just really made me angry. The girl herself just made me angry whenever she talked to me, but I always pretend to be cool with her and I was always polite whenever she spoke to me. I mean, she's everything that I'm not: very pretty, knows how to talk to boys, can flirt, and blahblahblah. I was always just.. in a big blob of confusion that year, but I managed to get through my 8th grade year without being a complete mess.. because I STILL haven't noticed my feelings for him (they're slowly creeping up each year, though.)
Now! The summer that I'm finally going into highschool to be a freshman! Whoo! New beginnings and new friends right? Maybe some cute boys?!
Nah.
During that summer, he started to get in contact with me once more just like the year before.This time.. we would talk until early morning and I would go to be with him being the last person I talked to. We also began texting .Around this time, I began to slightly realize that I like this guy. We began dating a few weeks before my first year of highschool. And let me tell you, it was pretty enjoyable. One time, he even snuck into my house when I was home alone and we just cuddled and watched tv. Doing stuff like that and just being all lovey dovey is just my dream relationship. I enjoyed every last ounce of it until I started to notice some things. He began to get more... sexual. (I guess? o-o ) He would hint at sexual things. And he knew I wasn't a girl to have sex when I'm only a freshman. And I told him that. But he wouldn't listen to be and he would touch me and stuff and I'd just go along with it.. I don't know why though, when I look back. Then things just spiraled down in one single day. I found out that my friend was smoking again! (she knew that I hate things like smoking.. drugs.. etc. so she knew that that would damage our friendship.) Moments later, he told me that he had been lying and that he actually smokes weed. Mind you, throughout our whole relationship (the second one) he would play little tricks on me, saying he smokes just to get my reaction. He'd also ask me what I'd do if he told me that he smoked. So both of them just lying to me about stuff kinda just made me break. x3 I managed to leave school early that day and later that night, my "friend" and "boyfriend" texted me. We all fought, they talked behind my back about me and blahblah. Lots of tears in that week. It may not seem as stressful in the way I 'm explaining it.. but it truly was. I've never felt so heartbroken, betrayed, and hurt EVER. Not to mention that my "friend" kept sending me these threat-filled text messages.
After all of that drama,I broke up with him just because of the fact that he lied to me the whole time and refused to admit that he was wrong. And DIRECTLY after we broke up, he found a new girlfriend. Which killed me since I still obviously liked him A LOT. I felt like that after all of that, he didn't care about me at all, you know? Even though I was hurt once more, we began talking again. We began talking on the phone often, which made me feel super happy and wanted. He'd do silly things like sing on the phone to me and we'd just talk all night. At one point, things started to change again, and most likely out of desperation in keeping him.. I changed too. We began talking about having sex... I even sneaked out a few times for him.. and got caught in the act doing something pervert with him by my mom! I was grounded and my phone was taken for a day. (My mom only really grounded me because she found out I was missing from the house and she freaked out. I feel really bad and guilty, believe me. ._.) And mind you all.. he was still dating that girl! I soon began to feel really bad about doing all those things that went against ALL of my morals. I sneaked out one more time before putting a stop to all of this messing around and we just stopped talking. I of course saw him everyday in my first block at school, at lunch, and all the time while changing classes. It kinda just tore from me seeing him with his girlfriend. I've honestly never felt anything like that before.. So heartbroken. But the weird thing is.. whenever I happened to glance at him.. he'd be staring at me. And it wasnt just a once time thing.. it was all the time. I don't know if it was just me being all self-conscious, though. Another thing that just really hurt me even more is when his girlfriend would simply harass me. She's repeatedly call out my name every other day and laugh loudly at me. I wouldn't even turn around to look at her. I'd ask my friend if it was her calling my name, and once my friend said yes, I'd just walk away with my heart hurting. I don't even know why that hurt me though. Was it because he was letting her?
So, my freshman year went by and on came summer. He'd text me now and then, obviously wanting something.. else. He would quickly become angered by little things. Like, the fact that I wouldn't do sexual things with him, I guess? At one point he even just completely ignored me because I was too busy to text him one time, and when i actually did he just got angry saying that I don't have time for him and blah blah blah. Now, lets fast forward to a few weeks ago. He texted me out of the blue while I was at my friend's house. He was saying that "let's try and talk as friends again" and "I've changed" When i asked him what he meant about him "changing" he just said "You don't trust me?" Not wanting to get him mad, I just said I was curious and the topic was changed. We still talk every now and then when I get these weird urges to talk to him. Our conversations are usually short, but they make me happy. At the same time they make me feel frustrated, annoyed, and confused. I obviously still have these strong feelings for him and they will not go away no matter what I do. When I see him, my heart kinda just stops, and I have to quickly look away. I don't know how many times I've cried over him. Sometimes, I would just randomly break down and cry and cry. I'm not a person who would do that, which is funny! I never cry over boy and I rarely cry unless someone dies.. or something sad happens in a movie or anime. xD
So... the reason I wrote this really long thread is to see if anyone can tell me what these feelings are.. How to get over this guy... Or just what should I do. To be honest.. I know this kid is easily influenced and very immature. There's just something about him that makes me feel all bubbly yet confused and sad...

Okay neow I've never really dated anyone but I have been chatting with this guy that doesn't live near me for well a long time neow and since you guys talk a lot through devices we may be similar X3 okay I'm in love and I can tell you this, YOU LOVE HIM!! There's nothing you can do! If you were to get over him it would probably be after you graduate in college or university, after you move out! There are plenty of guys out there but.... I kneow the guy I talk to is perfect and if you feel that way about your's then well you have to make your relationship work! But he was wrong to lie to you but it sounds like you were too harsh... It sounded like he tried to tell you about it, he didn't probably because he was scared of losing you. Pot isn't good so give him an ultimatum! Tell him "it's either weed or me so if you really love me, you'll stop!" If he does it again break up with him for good. Drugs can ruin your life and if you let him get away with that stuff he could do other bad stuff too (like a chain reaction.)
Neow, my friend thinks that the guy I talk to is bad but I don't think so, she doesn't know him like I do so... But you NEED to set your boundaries with this guy! You tell him you are not ready to do sexual things! And when he gets angry like that that's bad... But we all get angry sometimes... if it's constant then break up with him after you calmly confront him of course (I don't want you to be abused!)
He's probably ignoring you because he's jealous (I could be wrong though...)
He's dating that other girl for her ass. He looks at you probably because he still has feelings for you... I think you should confront him about everything... Lay absolutely EVERYTHING on the table get all your feelings out I'd do this over a message so he can't interrupt you (just in case... But maybe I think that way because that's how I confessed X3 ) maybe in person would be better.. Yh! So you know he heard everything and not read the whole message X3
All or nothing is my advice to you. If he understands and loves you he'll dump that poor bimbo and date you (at least that's how she sounds from what you've said, but I can't really judge people I haven't met! X3 )
If it works out it works out but if it doesn't he isn't the one and you'll just have to move on and find love elsewhere! Best to luck to you! I hope I helped!! :3

I don't think having personal experience will make me any better at advising you in your circumstances, but if it's worth anything, I'm a lot older than you are and have seen hundreds of relationships and been in a few serious ones myself.
I feel like there is something inside of you that really wants to believe everything that Neko-tama said to you - that you're in love, that the girl is a poor bimbo and that he's jealous and has feelings for you even though he's dating someone else.
For your own sanity, please try and put aside these feelings and look at things in a calm, clear way.
This feeling, as you said, is a crush. Psychologically speaking, we call this 'Limerence'.
To reduce the hassle of searching it up yourself, I'll give you a short run down:
Limerence is an involuntary state of mind that comes from a romantic attraction. It often has obsessive factors and can feel really intense, like a rollercoaster of feelings. Limerence is shown through a unique series of reactions. These include - feeling extremely happy (euphoric) whenever the object of your limerence reciprocates you in any way, being extremely worried of being left behind or rejected, and constantly being either uncertain or hopeful or confused.
Are you seeing some sort of similarities with what you are going through? You can search it up to see if this is what you have. I think it most likely is, because this is what everyone goes through in our teenage years.
The main point I want to make about limerence is that - Limerent feelings are not a stable basis for relationships. They are hormone-filled impuses that do not accurately reflect who you really are.
Getting over someone that you have limerent feelings for will be hard. It takes time, and usually cutting off all contact will help, but sometimes it will only intensify the feeling. There's basically not much you can really do about it aside from wait for it to subside so you can think clearly again.
As much as I'd like to call this guy a jerk for:
a) lying to you b) pestering you and not respecting your wishes c) pushing your sexual boundaries (NOT OK) d)talking behind your back e)not admitting he is wrong f)making you feel all confused g)cheating on that girl he's dating with you h)getting angry at you not wanting to cheat with him i)getting angry at you for not making him no #1 in your life despite how he's treated you... etc
... I won't.
Yes. These things all seem really jerklike. Anyone will tell you that none of these things are ok. And I definitely agree that you should protect yourself and realise that all these things show that he doesn't deserve to be with you, regardless of whether you're pretty or know how to flirt.
Thing is, he's extremely immature - just like you said. I'm not sure if you've collected your thoughts properly on this, but if you have, please make a table of pros and cons on him.
The pros will look something like: he makes me smile, he's funny, he has a perfect smile, he makes me blush
and the cons will be everything I listed above.
Now that we've explained pretty much all the pros away with the solid scientific word 'Limerence' - can't you see that he's not worth your time?
Hell, he has a lot of growing up to do before he can be in a relationship where he can treat a girl right.
Protect yourself, okay? Tell him quite firmly that he hurts you. And no, there is nothing he can do to help but give you space. Tell him he doesn't own you, so you can make your own decisions about how much time you spend with him, and it doesn't matter if he's changed, because something inside you hasn't changed, and you should conduct YOUR relationships on YOUR terms.
Don't try to be nice with your rejections. Don't do things just because you don't want to get him mad. If he's mad, that's his own fault. Stand up for yourself! Do you really deserve to be in a situation that just makes you cry and cry?
Seriously.
Here's the summary:
Your feelings are called 'Limerence' - and they are compounded by the fact that he's immature.
The way to get over him is by waiting. And making new and better friends who support and agree with you, so that you'll never change your mind.
What you should do at the moment is to make it very clear with him that you will a) not do any sexual things with him as long as he pressures you for it b) talk to him when you wish and that you are not his property so he does not have the right to demand your presence. Make it clear to yourself that these feelings are hurting you. You need to stand up both to him and to your own feelings.
Oh and, his girlfriend being mean to you - ignore that crap. She probably looks bad in front of everyone else anyway. If it's becoming too unbearable to ignore, please have a good comeback prepared that you can say loud and clear. Otherwise, tell your friend to say this comeback.
Don't expect him to defend you - it's just another sign that he's too immature to know what the right thing is.

Thank you Saika and Neko-tama! I really so appreciate that you took your time to write that. It really helped make me realize things. I HAVE realized that I don't want to be forced into doing things that I don't like. That was pretty much one of the reasons i stopped talking to him one of the times . I clearly told him and like always, he got mad. And I still refuse to do things that I don't want to do. Last week, RIGHT after he offered to just be friends , he was asking to do things like cuddling and whatnot. Knowing that it would probably lead to the same situation as before , I refused . I don't want to be involved in that but I still have a crush on him, as you both said . So, I'm still trying to hold onto him... I'm gonna try this waiting game again! And Neko-tama, I probably was too harsh but he knew BEFORE we started dating that I absolutely do not accept drugs. And I made it clear that it's either weed or me! Apparently weed is more important! Even when I was breaking up with him, he told me he refused to give up weed . But yes, thank you again. I will try waiting this out as I tried before .