I just got a text from this girl I really like, who I've been talking to for a while, saying she's started seeing someone and she didn't feel comfortable talking to me anymore because she knows I like her. The problem is, I'm a little hard headed and I can't really get used to that. So how do I get over her, without replacing her?

Dont talk to her anymore. Boom, problem solved.

but seriously, shes saying she doesnt want to talk to you anymore because she knows you have feelings about her, but for some reason youre just being stubborn n just deciding idgf what you say girl im going to keep talking to you. Its selfish and you should be ashamed of yourself.

You've got a point there... I am pretty selfish, psychopaths tend to be and so are relationships. It still doesn't exactly solve my attachment to her.

There is nothing we the people can suggest to stop you from being attached to her. That is your personal problem that can not and will not be fixed by asking the internet

Not to long ago I lost someone I was dating for 2 1/2 years and I did not take it well. Im stubborn like you and had made it my goal to not let her go. I texted her and called her daily and told myself "I don't want to let her go, I wont let myself let her go". In other words I had become that 'overly obsessive creepy Ex-girlfriend' everyone hopes they wont end up in a relationship with. She was a kind person and didn't want to hurt me so she would text me back or answer my calls when I did need her but, this was doing more harm than good. Because she didn't just leave me alone I though I could still get her back. For 4 months I cried nightly wanting her to come back and would sometimes call her begging. Every time I did this she would say "I'm so sorry, I don't want to hurt you but all we do is fight and every time we try to work it out things get worse. Just accept it" One night I was up and realized no matter how much I called and cried nothing was going to change her feelings. Things were done....and there was nothing I could do about it. I stopped calling and things get better for me. Within one month of not calling I stopped crying, three months in I was able to think about other things, and now 5 months after no contact (9 months after break up) I am back to being me. I hardly think about it, I laugh, smile, and am finally stable again. I want you to know that it is best to just let go. I refused to and ended up wasting 4 months crying laying in my bed. You probably wont be as bad off as I was but the relationship had lasted years and it was my first sexual relationship. If she one day contacts you and wants to be friends or maybe even more thats great but, for now let it go.

>>3 I'm not sure if you're calling yourself a psychopath, or I'm just misunderstanding, but trust me. You're not. Not in the slightest


>>5 I can relate to you so much, with the whole nights crying for months it hurts.

I agree with you.

>>1 TRUST ME. Letting go of someone is the hardest decision you could ever make. I don't care what anyone says about it. Especially when it's someone you care about.

Haha.

I made a thread about my problem here as well, so I'll make this short and sugary.

I was in a relationship with this girl "Celty" and I loved her more than I thought I could love anyone. We really had nothing in common when I think about it, but I loved her. It was my first relationship. We broke up, and I cried everyday for several months.

Eventually I got over her. You know how?

Ignoring.
Wiping my memory clean.
Forgetting the memories I held dearest to my heart.

Even though you were never in a relationship with her, you still feel sad for her leaving you. AND THAT IS OKAY. you don't have to replace her. You can just put here far back on the shelf.


She's not the only one out there. Even if you say otherwise, I know there are. Everyone thinks there aren't until they meet them. I've seen it over and over again. And I'm my own witness.

I wish you luck and hope you can move on.

-Zorli

Thanks for the support guys. I think I can start working over it now that I'm through the mopey and regretful phase. It won't be the first time I've had to forget something, so I don't think it'll take too long. Thanks, even you sleepology, even though I kind of think your a dick. Thanks.

You can't really, you just have to tell yourself, "No, bad, stop it." When you think of her as more then a friend. Also being more focused on liking another girl helps take your mind of her but that's really not the way to do things.

Slowly let her slip away from your mind. Get rid of love songs for awhile and well distract yourself with something like getting into sport. Good luck.

Don't you dare to listen to love songs!! The pain will be unbearable. Nothing related with love for a while. And read some classic books like Faust -it really needs your mind to focus so you can understand what's happening in there. So there is a good distraction. Then paint, get out and watch the night sky, spend some time with children. Study a kid. He's simple. He doesn't care about how he is dressed, he says what he thinks. He just do stuff. Because he's a child and the world didn't got to him. I felt really bad that you have to go through this, but bad things happen to us in order to something good to come. I don't want to tell you to get over her, but I just can't help myself. Do something that distracts you from thinking about her. I'm serious. I've been through this. It's her fault for having you as a second option.
I've been through this: being rejected(or more like ignored without explication- which is much worse)and then the next one had me as a second option. Yep, I'm waiting for good things to happen in my life, too. So keep strong!!
You know which is painful? To be ignored. Not hate, but ignorance. So I advice you to ignore her and make her feel "good" for having you as a second option. I did that and my ex(or it wasn't ... hmm dunno) wasn't feeling that good for most than half a year.
I think you can forget her. Look at this situation as being a lesson in your life. Btw you need to find what you learned from this. If you think that the situation that came into your life is a lesson, the pain will be smaller. So head up, heart strong and just look at the bright side of the situation. What you learned from it? And keep that in mind. Forget her, but don't forget what you learned so you won't make the same mistake twice ^^

Pretty much what has been said before. It can be bad if you see/hear something that you associate with her, like a song, so try and stay from all those things. Focus your attention and energy on something else, preferably something you enjoy. Get into it to occupy your mind with it. Time will fly by and eventually you'll be over it.

You can't really ever get over someone, you move on with time. You'll meet someone new and love them. Just give it time. I suggest falling in love with a fictional character though, go watch anime!! ^^

>>12 agreed! ahahah I have alot of fictional "crushes" and those on celebrities too. but that might also be why I dont have a boyfriend or anyone I like....lmao. but thats just my problem

>>13 yep, anime characters are better than real-living-human lovers *haha*

You don't get over you simply stash away those feelings and use that romantic build up on the next girl that comes along and trust me some women just like to play mind games she may just want to create drama just because or she never gave two sh*ts about you aNd wanted to mess with your heart