(Sorry if this is long...)
My relationship right now isnt going too well because it feels like imthe only one workin my ass off trying to get a job and get my life started, it should have started when I was 17 but now Im 19 and my gf is 18. Ok this is about my gf and I need your alls opinion about it.. and some help also. So about my girlfriend she's 18 unhygienic (she wasnt always like this) and she stays up all night on the computer and sleeps mostly all day. (Correct me if I'm wrong but isnt both genders suppossed to be working together?) Ok anyways she sits around her house all day doing nothing and I want to actually tell her to get up and start looking and at least get her permit like I did. But she just yelled at me and ignored me while sitting on the computer and she isntlistening to her parents. Now she is a good girl because she doesn't go around sellin her body on the streets like other girls do in my town and she says I'm her first Boyfriend that doesn't feel embarrassed about her appearance out in public (like a real man would) but now its getting out of hand she's starting to NOT take showers her hair is a big mess all the time and she constantly hitting me I'm just getting tired of it... please tell me what to do if someone can... please and thank you... I'm sory this is a long read...

Think I posted this wrong... oh well.. beginners failure I guess...

Suggestion A: See what interest her so much on her computer & go from there. If its a game, tell her saving it & playing l8r won't kill her.
Suggestion B: Tell her you won't speak to her if she doesn't get her act together.
Suggestion C: Still working on this one. XD

She's into yaoi and drawing and sometimes youtube vids but last thing I seen her do is watching "Let's Plays" and she knows I'm too much of a softie to say anything to her... I need motivation but I don't have it...

Then I suggest option B.

Suggestion C: Tell her that it is bothering you and if she doesn't at least try to fix some of her problems, then you will leave her.
Suggestion D: Figure out how to disconnect her internet connection and don't fix it until she has taken a shower >:D

I tried getting her to join the dollars but she said "no because its based off the anime so it fails" and that's a problem of C because I don't wanna be lonely anymore...I was single till 11th grade

I hope I'm not too late to input my thoughts!
I agree with Steve's suggestion B. If she's been that way for a while now, it's time to do something about it. If you can't make her do anything, then you do something on your own. Tell her how you're feeling and propose a solution, but DON'T make it one-sided. I had this problem with my recent ex. I never knew I was doing anything really wrong, until I was told, and I would've changed, if it weren't for the way he suggested I should change. So don't force anything onto your gf, just suggest it and tell her how much better it'd make you feel if she changed for you or worked hard for you, at least. Don't make it seem like it's all her fault, though. The way you described her makes me think she's the stubborn type (like me, heheh). If nothing changes after everything you try, then I'm sorry, I'd say it was time to move on and find someone who'd love you enough to change for you, just to make you happy.

Thanks.. ill go with it but I wanna see other suggestions too thanks..

Sorry it isn't the most creative solution, but I guess another thing I'd add is that if you really love her, you'd stay with her regardless. Then hopefully, over time, things will get better. Good luck, mate.

I'd say keep trying to sit down and seriously talk to her about what's going on, and how she needs to lift her fair share as well. If she doesn't listen to just you, then get her parents with you and all of you talk to her. Be kind, and sincere, and tell her you love her, but you can't do all the work on your own. That's not how it works.

Last night I asked her if she was going to get a job tomorrow and she said "are you seriously telling ME to grt a job?" And I said "Yea because u told me too so why don't u get one?" She replies with this "because my parents asked this person to come over to see if I need help with anything like money counting and stuff" I said then "you know most jobs give you a little test on stuff around the workplace to see if u can handle it" and she hangs up on me :I

Thanks for the suggestions guys/girls it really helped... I almost cried but seems like she cried first so and she understands that she needs to shower everyday and not (omg I couldnt believe this when she said it...) 1 time every week so thank you guys for the help!

The Dollars Rock!

>>13 Any time bro, that's what I do. I save the day!^^

Well I do my best man, we all do. Glad we can help, and hope things start to look up for you and your girlfriend.

Thanks :D

>>1 your stupid just leave the bitch.

Unfortunately, that sound a lot like me. I don't know your girlfriend, but in my experience, she could either by lazy with no ambition, or some emotional trauma is taking its toll.

>> 18 gtfo - .- I don't tolerate people like you. I'm guessing you never found true love.

>>20 hey don't mind these people, just ninja them, otherwise they keep coming back. Trust me, paying attention to their comments only bring them back more and more. Obvious troll and what not. Anywho.

>>20 hey don't mind these people, just ninja them, otherwise they keep coming back. Trust me, paying attention to their comments only bring them back more and more. Obvious troll and what not. Anywho.

>>22 someone accidently double posted. Oh well.