guys I have a problem...Ill start from the beginning
So I started high school last year (8th grade is oddly where my high school starts) and I had no friends. Alot of people noticed including the teachers. The others students saw me as a "easy target" because of this and I get picked on alot...I don't have a problem with that though, its easy to ignore. Well, I ended up becoming good friends with my teachers and they are my best friends ^_^ and I'm ok with that but...my math teacher is the problem :( . From the first day I walked into his class in 8th grade I was intrigued by him. It was his first year teaching and he was kinda lost but he did something most of my teachers never do, describe himself. He is 22 and the best way to describe his looks is Shinra for Durarara...Im not even joking he looks exactly like him from the dark flippy hair to the nerdy but super cute glasses... even his personality matches Shinra perfectly(perverted, bubbly, fun, really smart). On the first day after the bell rang he pulled me aside and asked if I was ok. I was so embarrassed and my heart was racing because he was just soooo cute!! I laughed and told him everything was fine that i just didn't have that many friends was all, then he smiled at me and said "ill be your friend" and I just smiled and walked away(I began to run as soon as I was out of his sight). He was my last class of the day so after that I began to walk home. I couldn't stop thinking of him though...there was something odd about it all. He was right though..we became best friends and I also became close with my other teachers but he and I were the closest. I told him everything and he didn't seem like a teacher anymore. During class he and I would have a normal student teacher relationship but after class I would stay with him and hang out. Also, I dont act how I act around other adults around him, like I will curse around him, make perverted jokes, gossip, tell him my feelings. Nearing the end of the year I was telling him how I wanted to join the swim team but didn't know if I would enjoy it due to other student and he told me to do it and that he would go to every practice and cheer me on. And so far he has and I'm so happy he told me to join plus he and I get to hang out everyday! About a month ago I told him I was nervous about school this year and being in 9th grade because I heard the math that year was very difficult for the honors students(which I'm one of). He told me that he could help me out and tutor me at his house...I know I shouldn't of but I said ok and went every day after Swim practice. Everything was going ok until last week. Swimming practice was running late so instead of changing in the dressing rooms and showering off I was going to do it at his house. I had done it before so didn't think anything would happen. So I was undressing getting ready to shower when he opened the door....he and I both froze. After probably 10 seconds I backed up (falling in the tub in the process) and he quickly closed the door and apologized. When I got out things were weird and we both were obviously trying to ignore it and went on with the lesson. As I was getting up to go home I tripped(I was a little embarrassed and uncoordinated after everything) and my head landed on his stomach. While I was getting up I was kind of on top of him I looked at him soo embarrassed but then we just started to laugh....then he kissed me...I don't know how to feel about this. I mean I have the biggest crush on him he is everything Iv wanted in a guy he is kind, funny, perverted(i like that :P), he loves anime, likes RPGs, and he makes me smile like never before...but he is 22 and I'm 16 and that's a 6 year difference...I don't know how to feel about that. My parents are 5 years apart and started to date then they were 20 and 15 but its illegal and I don't know what to do...guys help me please...and please don't be mean :/

Well if you really like him, you already understand the fact that its illegal. But many people have had larger age differences than yours. But you should keep it secret and discreet, at least until you turn 18 so he doesn't run the risk of getting arrested or possibly fired from his job. And you just need to clear your head and run this scenario in your head so your absolutely sure how you feel about this. I personally don't see anything wrong with this six year difference, but for the sake of the public eye, talk to him and be discreet about it. And for god sake make sure he isn't taking advantage of you, I know it may sound rude to say, and based off of what you said it doesn't seem like he'd be that kind of person, but people can be that way. But if this really is real, just be careful :).
good luck with everything :)

if you love him go for it i think age doesnt,matter and i dont get why it does. Hang with him but be SAFE about it. and dont get him fired lol just listen to your heart

go for it, don't even hesitate. if it's what you want and you really like him then all I good.

Girl, I'm happy for u :D That sounds like a really sweet story. Just be sure that its all real and that he isn't one of those teachers who abuse their students (no offense intended) If that's not the case (I sincerely hope not) then I think u should go for it :)

>>1 It's great you've found someone you like and can relate to! You follow your dreams and go get your man!
But like everyone else has said, you need to be careful. It's illegal and could get both of you in big trouble. So just hold on until you're eighteen and no longer a student - then you two can have the time of your lives!
I wish you both luck and hope everything goes well :)

Whore.

As much as I love stories of true love, I hate to say it but love isn't exactly what goes through a man's mind these days. An age difference makes you an easy target should he decide to take advantage of you. This could also damage your psychological love life, making it harder for you to enter other relationships. An age difference of more than two years at your age is a much bigger deal than if you were both older. In your freshman year of high school you're still immature (whether you think so or not) and the gap between the two of you mentally is vast, even though it may seem subtle now.
Personally I'd advise against the relationship. But I can't really do that. I wouldn't have been born if this advice had been given to my parent's who are nearly twenty years apart in age. They met after they were both out of high school though, so they were both "matured", and times were pretty different back then. The weight of the decision must be carefully measured before you proceed and that can only truly be done by you. Choose wisely.

>>8 I can concur. But as long as OP doesn't pursue it until after they have graduated, they will have had time to grow and their opinions may change.

That sounds awesome, student fantasy come to life. But on a serious note; try not to make your relationship go past the "friend stage" yet, wait until you graduate (I'm sure he understands this too; and if he doesn't then explain it to him;) if he loves you, he'll definitely wait. He sounds amazing, go for it and good luck with everything! :D

Pretty much almost everyone already said what I was thinking. You guys need to wait till you graduate to do anything. Not only just because it's illegal but because you both are at a different level of maturity right now. It may be hard, but if you both truly love each other than you can wait.

>>10 Yeah, it pretty much sounds like a perfect student/teacher romance come to life xD

Thank you all for the advice （＾_＾）I really appreciate it!! And I have been worried that he may be taking advantage of me but I trust him a lot and also, he hasn't made any sexual advances since then (its been a week since the kiss). Today, after practice, he and I walked to his house and laughed and talked about how I could improve my swimming, like we do everyday. When we got there we made some snacks and sat down for the lesson. Everything was normal until about half way through. He began to stutter and was going slow...I was worried so asked him if everything was ok. He looked at me blushing (OH MY GOD IT WAS SO CUTE (≧∇≦) ) and talked about it (ill try to get it word for word). He said "About the other day....I have been having feelings for you that I shouldn't for awhile now but I was going to try and just ignore it. When you were that close to me...I just stopped thinking. That night, after you left, I was afraid. I thought you wouldn't come back for the lessons and ignore me. If you feel awkward around me and want to stop the lessons I understand....I just..I...couldn't help it..I'm sorry(he was stuttering so bad). I started to laugh and was crying a little and told him that it was ok, that I also had feeling for him. He and I hugged and then we began to talk about how we were going to handle the situation. We had decided to not take a title and keep things at school professional. I also told him that I would rather things not get to sexual (my sister was a teen mom and I do not want to go through that. Condom or not its not happening until I am of age)he told me he wouldn't even think of doing something like that until I was old enough(I'm hoping that was the truth and trust him enough to believe it was After that he and I ended up cuddling for awhile and watched some T.V. ( ・ω・). What do you guys think? Right choice or wrong choice? Although I'm pretty happy for how it ended up (＾▽＾)

>>10 Lol I hadnt thought of that but it kind of is XD

>>12 It was good you both decided to take it slow, but I would honestly not even kiss right now. Dating and being romantic is something you should wait for till you're older :/

i think you made the right choice but still what HAM said you guys might just dont get to romantic with each other or you will or might end up pregnant.
i wish you luck!

it's great that it's working out for you. it was a good choice. just like everyone els i agree, be less romantic. if it ever comes down to it, don't get more than a pek on the cheek, i think you should keep things moving forward ( even at a slow pace) till you graduate and your 18. After that though take it slow, but not too slow and have fun :) for now i say leave it at a stand still.

I want to shed some legality on this... I hope you're aware that this is technically statutory rape.

>>17 *Hit's with a blunt object*

As long as you don't do anything risky until you are of legal age, then do whatever you want.

Ok for starters, yes it is illegal. Now, Lets say that you two keep it discreet. Lets say that you graduate and you both get together normally. If it becomes public knowledge that you two are dating, and he was once your teacher. His career will fail. Trust me, he will be immediately fired. Doesent matter if you are no longer a student, and he is not your teacher, It also doesent matter if they are unaware of how long you too have been together, teachers are bound by contract, many have been fired for talking to students that have already graduated. Its considered unprofessional and risky. Whats more if they find out you guys are dating, they will legaly look into it "Say, I wonder how this teacher and student began their relationship? I know I will look into there time together in class." Ohhh and by the way, say, 10 years down the track, you are both happiliy living together, if it gets found out he even kissed you when you were underage, he will still get charged even if its years ago. He will also go to jail, jus' sayin' But hey.. Love right? what could be more important. A career someone has worked on most of there educational life, and their personal liberty and future possibilities to jobs, loans etc. or the whims of a young girl who is.. In love. Hmmm I wonder.

Ohhh yeah! 16 with a 22 year old? you are under 18. therefore you cannot 'legally' permit this relationship. Now usually it would be Statutory rape, but he is 22. it is Actually Paedophilia. Unless of course the laws a different in.. America? Im going to assume America.

I don't think you can simply ignore your age differences as if they weren't there. Sure I'll agree that if you love him very much then stick with it but don't be deluded into thinking age is just a number. I shouldn't really talk since I'm only 17 but I would take it very slowly and carefully.

Im only 17? It doesn't mean we shouldn't talk. Because in all honesty, sweet story and all, it is a very serious legal matter, one that could completely defile his life, with that said.. Why would he be interested? It is very unprofessional. A 6 year gap is very large, and in the eyes of society and the law its inprisonable, sick and to some demented (Demented would probably going a bit far, but still)

Interesting. I'd still be friends with him, wait until your 18 to do anything serious though.

I say go for it, but keep it under the radar. From your second post, I'd say you're doing pretty well.

I personally don't give a shit about age differences (as I've said many times here); the law is the only problem because in the US it defines everybody under 21 as a "minor" and says those under 18 are not mature enough to understand and agree / refuse to have sex, which is bullshit. Anyway, just do whatever the fuck you've got to do, but don't tell your parents/siblings/regular friends since the last thing you want to do is get him in trouble.

I have to be honest and agree with all Kazu has been saying. Be very careful, don't do anything above normal friends and please don't somehow get him fired.

When you're 18 and graduated, and he's 24, no one will give two craps about what you guys do. But you still can't let it be known he advanced on you as a student. No matter how much you guys "love" each other it's still unprofessional and illegal.

I'd go for it, love 'em have sex with 'em but do it discretely because he sounds like an awesome dude and it would suck if he lost his job. But yeah, orgasms are the only way to go about this.

Upon reading number 12, all I can say is; you're doin it right.

Wait until you turn 18 that's all I gotta say.

It's better for you to wait until your 18 like everybody is saying; I know a teacher who was married with a man 6 years younger than her, so I'm just giving you advice that the age gap wouldn't be much of a problem.

I think just keep relationship you have now, don't go any furter until you will be 18.

OP you are sick and your teacher is more sick.
You are a child and he is an adult.
He is put in a position of trust and he is breaking that.
He is going against everything being a teacher is all about.
Your teacher is a piss-poor teacher and you are an awful little harlot that will get nothing but the highest of The ALMIGHTY GOD'S punishment.
I wish you well in your own private hell, you sinner.

^ You instantly lose all credibility when you bring in God and sin into your argument. Not only are you bringing up reasoning that not everyone can agree with, but you are also trying to threaten someone in your argument. And that is not fair play in debate. Another thing, he's not going against shit for a teacher. What he's doing is after school. After school, he stops being a teacher and starts being a friend. If they decide they want to escalate their relationship and they are handling it well (which they are), Then they can do whatever the hell they want. You are not a kind person or a good person, so if anyone is against what they believe; it is you.

>>32 That was uncalled for. I know she's asking advice, but you don't need to be so rude. You shouldn't talk about people like that when you don't even know them.

>>32 I strongly agree student teacher relationships are not good. you hear about it all the time on the news. if I was her mother I would beat the shit out of her!

Kokomo, don't let what they're saying frighten you, or upset you, granted we all are aware of the legality of the situation, love is live, and you shouldn't let these few posts get to you. If you get on and read them, try not to let them upset you :)

>>35 You're just a genuine asshole.

>>35 You're just a genuine asshole.

Check the age of consent in your area. I wish you the best :)

>>37 Thanks, and they aren't :P . I accept all advice because I like to know how other people feel about situations and how they would handle it . I do not accept rude comments though.>>32 If you do not agree with the situation there are many ways to explain your reasoning without being so rude and telling me I will be going to "hell".

In a way i kinda know how you feel, I like this girl and she likes me but I'm 16 and she is 14 (2 year difference) but our parents disapprove of us trying to date, so we agreed that I would wait till she is 18, yea that's a long wait but to her and me it's worth the wait ^_^

This is a really interesting love story \(*o*)/ I agree because the age difference is illegal that it's inappropriate, but I am also one to believe in things like "True Love" and the "Red Thread of Fate" so I support you and what the other Dollars members said. If you guys truly love another, then you both should be willing to wait until your of age.(I think it's only best to do so.)Just for the sake of you both be sure not to catch any attention from people who might be suspicious about your relationship.Not everything can be kept a secret but it can last so long as you believe it can be.^_^ Sorry if I was harsh at some points, I often do that without thinking but I definitely support your love 100%.

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This is a beautiful love story, indeed. Unfortunaty, I'm not from the US, in my country you are considered an adult at the age of 18 and then you can do whatever you want. Truth be told though, don't we all do or feel the need to do whatever we want before we are legally clasiffied as "adults"? I think yes. Anyway, what I wanted to say is that I once dated a guy 7 years older than me that seemed to be simply "the one", if you know what I mean. In my view he seemed perfect for me. It was like a dream come true. But, time passed and I soon found out he only dated me for sex. We never had sex because I'm a virgin and just couldn't do it. I broke up with him because he became obssesed and began to be impatient. This is where I wanted to arrive: as many others said before me, be careful what kind of a man he is. He may seem all that, but are you completely sure of him? Simply the fact that he agreed to be with a girl much younger than him and his student, makes you wonder if he really is ok. Just saying. I'm 20 years old and still know too little, but this subject is something I'm sure of. Take care and good luck. For your sake, I hope everything turns out well for you two.

6-year diffrence is nothing compared to a 10-year difference my parents has. You know that saying "Age is just a number" thats half true because while its just a number for some, others will think differently of it so if you're planning to date just know that some people might criticize you but dont mind them they're just stupid douchebags, what do they know but we will always be here to support you no matter what and if you need me anytime heres my skype: iris.ongkingco (yea I know, I give personal information out to whoever, haha its not like any would want to hack my house anyway)

i realu like my teacher too so i dont have any objections if you are mature enouth to doi it

im 13 and my bf is 16 :c hes never tried to do anything nasty to me anyways in my opinion try not to show it to him at school because he can lose his job :/

This is paedophilia.. yeah some may have parents that have a large age gap but it complete honesty, this is paedophilia, it is wrong, and if you were to say otherwise you are technically sympathizing with paedophiles. I will repeat, IT IS WRONG. Cute story? yeah, Is 'true love' real? I don't know, but what I do know is that despite what many people think and believe, there is more bad in this world then good. I am not being pessimistic, I am being realistic. Wait until your older, then see if he is still interested, I highly doubt it.

Here in the east 6 years age gap is normal. Well, it used to be normal too there in the west. Since when did 6 years age gap is a forbidden love and an act of paedophilia?

But you must be aware, this world is full of people with bad intentions. I'm not trying to say that your teacher is bad but you must be careful. Sometimes the most dangerous person is the one which is the closest to us. but, it all comes back to you, if you're both comfortable then don't listen to people's thought. It's your life, not theirs and it's you who choose who you love, not them.

Oh one more thing, even though I said it's normal (6 years age gap) but I suggest you study hard first and pursue your dream instead of thinking about unecessary thing like this. Think of your self first.

after reading this i thought it was really cute, of course since the teacher is the adult here he must know what he was doing. It's only pedophilia because people in higher up statues claim for it to be wrong, it's like money. money itself has no value but the people who are higher in "rank" has made it very valuable. Of course you yourself has a choice in this. just do what you think is best for you.

>>12 OMG! You are so lucky! And he is way cuter (as how you describe him) then shinra from durarara! Because i haven´t seen shinra ever blush and act so cute! And he loves anime! (perfect, he´s just perfect).
It´s like a forbidden love story right? (how romantic!)
I hope he doesn´t lose his job. Have you talked about that with him? Although he might already have known it all this time...
Anyway, enjoy the time you have together! (i´m so jealous!)

I've had experience dating men much older than me, and I have to say, dont do it. They may seem nice at first, but when a man for some reason decides it's a better idea to date a kid than someone his own age, there is usually something wrong with him.

Age difference shouldn't stop anyone. I'm not sure how relevant it is since I'm a guy who dates older girls, but I've had 3 serious relationships, between 2 & 5 years age difference. None of them worked out in the long term, but they were fun. My advice is that you keep it secret until you graduate, don't go far enough to get him in legal trouble before you turn 18, & by that time, if it's still working, go for it, by all means d(o.o)b

The age difference is not what should be your concern (hell, people date others that are twice their age or more!), its the fact that he is a teacher and you are a minor, he could get into serious trouble if people find out that you two were having an unprofessional relationship, so if you want to continue your relationship with each other you two had better be very careful on how you approach this until and even after you are of age.

Hey guys （＾_＾） So, I know its only been a little over two week since I made this thread but I though I would give you all an update! Everything has been going good! He and I are taking things slow, we haven't changed our normal routine much. We do things like hanging out, playing video games, studying, laughing, watching anime(we cuddle now :P) all of our normal things. As far as any sexual activity he kisses me on the cheek or forehead alot and rarely on the lips. He hasn't made any other sexual advances though which I appreciate. The other day he and I were at Walmart and he was helping me get school supplies for the new school year. As we were walking through the store he grabbed my hand and held it. I was happy holding his hand and didn't want to pull away but a little bit after that an old lady walked down he isle we were on and kept looking at us. I knew she was suspicious and I had to do something. I yanked my hand out of his and said "Dad, I'm not a three year old anymore you don't have to hold my hand!". He caught on and said "Sorry, but you will always be my baby girl" then pinched my cheek which really hurt and pissed me off (*￣m￣) !! After that though the old lady stopped looking and left the isle. I was surprised It worked though because he and I don't look that far apart in age (its only 6 years)....but I am really short. When we were alone I talked to him about it and he apologized. He said he just forgot that we aren't allowed to be together and held my hand without thinking about it much. This worries me, I'm good at hiding it but he forgets. Once at swim practice he hugged me and I had to play that off to. I'm scared that when school starts he will do something and I wont be able to hid it.

Sorry for always typing so much m(_ _)m

>>60 Lol. I type a lot, too. I'm so glad it's going well for you. It will be hard, but I hope everything goes well and I'll keep you in my prayers. Good luck! :D

Just make sure you're on your toes and you put your foot down when you have to, because he's already starting to be less discreet. Just please, for both of yours sake, make sure that things don't start getting too open. Really congratulations on your relationship working, but again, make sure if it gets bad that you really talk to him about being discreet.

>>60 please keep typing! And thank you for the update ^_^
I guess he must really be deeply in love with you, to forget what's surrounding him and acting unconsciously... (how much is he actually holding in? How much does he resists?) Well, i'm happy for you that he was oke with the "dad" part (hilarious.
I hope for you when school starts, that no one will find out. (like not making many eye contact with him during class).

I agree with >>62. I should congratulate you, too, but, as i have already said, and many before me, be careful. From what I see from your previous post (>>59), he's already becoming a bit impatient. It's just a thought, though. Take care and I do hope it'll work out for you two.

The best thing to do would be just to wait. Love is love, no matter how old, what gender, what religion, or whatever the difference may be. If you truly do love him though, and you trust him with every fiber of your being, then the only thing you can do is wait. The age difference issue will surely dissipate after a while, and if he really loves you then I'm absolutely positive that he will have the kindness in his heart to wait until that moment. In the mean time, don't worry. Don't let anybody judge you, him, or your relationship. As I said before, love is love, and nobody can or ever will be able to change that. Honestly though, love is bound through trust, and as long as you truthfully do trust each other, everything will be okay. Life isn't so bad, especially when you have someone who will live through it with you, whether what happens to the two of you be good or bad.

I wish you only the best of luck.

^bump!! Good luck!!

I wish you the best of luck with everything. ^▽^

First of all congratulations, Kokono! I'm happy for you, but please, please stay alert and don't let your feelings blind you! Like many Dollars mentioned before, make sure that you won't suffer any severe problems in future because you committed some thoughtless action during your high school years.

Tbh, I'm a bit concerned about how fast and recklessly he moves after reading your most recent update (>>59). After two weeks only, one week after your confessions, he's gone on to holding your hands in public. I might too be wary but if he behaves like this assuming his intentions are pure and he's just an air-head, you can wait for something to happen.

To make myself clear, I'm not against the age gap nor am I against students associating with teachers. My former best friend, now acquaintance, has been in a relationship with a 5-year age difference for four years now, she's 20 now, and all has gone well for her. He brought a lot of steadiness into her life, and they've been dating with her parents' approval from the very beginning. I was concerned but happy for her as well.

Teachers can really make great friends. I'm not talking about romantic relationships, now, but I had a bunch of great people as teachers with whom I got along well. One of them was sort of a father figure to us all and even signed his mails with "Daddy [name]". I still have the mobile phone numbers of some of them, and my friends and I used to message them. I also know of a bunch of friends who used to babysit for our teachers, drink wine with them, go camping in their gardens or come over to have a BBQ when we were still students. We weren't too secretive about the whole deal, and nobody ever said anything against that but you still have to be prepared to be frowned upon by some people.

Let me give you an example. My best friend used to babysit for our math teacher, a lively 27-year-old guy who was very close to us students. He was our Maths and Biology teacher from 8th to 11th grade and our Drama Club advisor until we graduated. We knew him fairly well, chatted and joked (sometimes dirtily) with him during class and even got to know his baby-daughter in person. Heck, my best friend even asked him for sex positions in Biology class which he would have started to discuss if the bell had not rung.
Well, said friend started to babysit his children in high school and once asked a female teacher who was our second Drama advisor if she could leave the classroom 5 minutes early because she had to baby-sit after that and would've missed the bus otherwise. The female teacher agreed but told my best friend that she should not announce something like babysitting at his house this publicly for he might get into trouble with the higher-ups if word got around.

My best friend and our Maths teacher weren't involved romantically at all but as you can see, to some people close student-teacher association is still a big deal. If you are dating your teacher, you have to be even more careful and make sure you never ever let your or his defenses go down, no matter where or what. Keep it strictly to yourself. Otherwise, both of you might get into huge trouble.

Btw, do your parents know and approve of your tutoring lessons and other close association with your teacher? What do they think of him? You might not want to rely on your parents' advice when you're young but they tend to be right when it comes to judging people and situations. maybe you can take their impression of him as some sort of reference in order to make sure that he isn't taking advantage of your inexperience. Just don't ask them directly about it.

I pray that you'll be safe and happy.

You're still young, give yourself some time to think about this, its important for you're future,-a concerned human..

go for it! ~(^_^)~ when you get out of school you will regret never trying it :) so don't hold back best of luck

Just remembered what your story reminded me of: "I Love Her", a manga by Ikuemi Ryu where relationship between the two leads sounds as budding as the one between you and your Maths teacher.

I think you should wait till you are 18. carry on with your daily life with him then when you are ready and old enough go for it but only if you know that its right.

Student-Teacher interactions outside of school being highly frowned upon is something that won't really go away even as you get older. I'm 22 (m) and about a year ago I went to my professors house with a friend (late 30's early 40's) and a couple other people from the film / sound design department to watch an academy screener (people within the industry are given films for free by mail for awards consideration purposes by the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences so they can nominate films after watching as many of the year's works as possible). But yeah, long story short if the school found out that was a thing (it happened a few times) they probably would have fired him outright despite the fact that there was nothing but professional scholarly discussion about current films and sound design work in an educational context, and despite him being an academy award winning sound designer. Shit's pretty retarded in my opinion, we are all of us adults and in a way colleagues. Some things just look bad enough on paper that they will never be tolerated despite the context...

Lol'd so hard at the comparison between Shinra and the teach.
Keep on postin'!

I think you should give yourself time to think your still very young with lots of opportunities and will of your own. I won't be telling you what to do but I just want to give you advice. Relationships like this cane very difficult even dangerous for that matter. Until you've come to terms with yourself what you want to do just keep things slow,okay there is no need to make rash decisions you haven't prepared for and most definitely try not to do anything you don't want to do I wish you the best of luck.

I'm so surprised, I never expected for this post to get so popular! But I want to thank everyone. Not only you who support me but you who don't also. All of the advice is greatly appreciated!!
UPDATE TIME キタ━━━(゜∀゜)━━!!!!!
Ok so, its been about a month and a half now. School has started and everything is so perfect! Although I don't have his class (which I see as a good thing. It helps with hiding our relationship) he still comes to me swim practice and we still do tutoring! Best of all, he has respected the fact that I don't want to have a sexual relationship just yet. He will hold my hand, cuddle me, and kiss me but he hasn't tried anything more. When we study, watch anime, and read manga he always wants to cuddle and this worried me at first. Don't get me wrong, I love when he holds me. It makes me feel like a princess being protected by my strong, handsome knight ( ・ω・). But, at first I was scared he would use the cuddling as a chance to escalate things so I would kinda back away when he would try to. I noticed this kind of hurt him so one day I gave it a chance and all went well. Now he cuddles me any chance he gets ( I love it ^w^) and he hasn't used it to try anything sexual. His hands always stay wrapped around my waist with his head over my shoulder. We have been doing good to hid everything. Although, Tuesday of last week I went to his class to grab a notebook I forgot. As I walked into his class the last bell of the day rang and everyone left. I grabbed my book and started to head out. When I was about to open the door he grabbed my hand with the notebook in it, pulled me back, and kissed me. It was just a peck on the cheek but still I fused at him. I know it was the last bell of the day and everyone was gone but what if a teacher where to walk in. He laughed at my frustration (which pissed me off (*￣m￣)) and agreed that I was right. We agreed to prevent any socialization on school grounds other than after practice since we walk to his house for tutoring everyday afterwords (I also hugged him one day not thinking). Since then we kept our promise and no one has had any suspicions. I don't really know if I would say I love him yet but I have such strong feeling for him. I know it has only been a month and this may be something that doesn't last but he makes me happy and that's all that really matters....right (´･ω･`)??
>>68 My parents have known about his and my close friendship and they don't mind. They where the ones who approved the after school tutoring. My mother and Father both work very long hours and are rarely home. It has been like this since I was young so they also had other tutors for me since they couldn't be here for me. Although, they know about the friendship they don't know about the way the relationship has progressed. I don't plan to tell them unless things become more serious between me and Mr.Teacher. When the tutoring had just begun my mother, father, Mr.Teacher, and I all went out to eat so my parent could get to know him. They loved him!! (so did I X3) That reminds me, the other day I was doing laundry with my mom and a commercial came on. A guy who looked alot like Mr.Teacher came on and my mom said "wow he looked alot like Mr.Teacher, dont you think?" I agreed with her then she said " He was as cute as him and everything." I was shocked and kinda screamed "mom?!" She looked at me and laughed then said "Haha, Im just saying I wouldnt mind at have grand babies from him". I cant tell you how shocked I was from this but then again my mom makes alot of joked like this. I never dated much before Mr.Teacher and she has this thought that I dont want to have my own family one day. Sometimes we will be just walking down the street and she will point out guys saying they would make cute babies. It bothers me the most when she talks to my guy friends and tells them I would make a great wife....I have lost so many friends form this -_-.

Ok, if you guys want more updates let me know ^w^. Once again thank you all. I love all of the advice!!

I'm so happy for you! ^^ it's like a dream come true really! He sounds perfect for you too :3 I'd hold off telling your parents for quite a while (I'd say after you graduate just to be safe and all.) Tell him that you love him when you're ready, when you feel like your heart could just burst from seeing him! <3 I told "Mr. Perfect" the other day that I loved him so I know the feeling XD

This shit right here is fucking kawaii.

my heart actually hearts
too much cute

its kinda cool because its look like a anime story.
for my advice you can go out with him if he like to go out with you but the other people will misunderstand of you two, like doing something weird. So be careful to your action AND GOOD LUCK FOR YOUR SWEET MOMENTS:)<3

Omg. It's so cute. It's kinda like "Oresama Teacher" since the guy is a math teacher. Awwwwwwwwww. It's just too adorbs ^o^

Omg. It's so cute. It's kinda like "Oresama Teacher" since the guy is a math teacher. Awwwwwwwwww. It's just too adorbs ^o^

I just thought I would let you all know I showed Mr.Teacher this and he also wants to thank you all ^_^ !! We love how you are all giving us your advice!!! I know I keep saying this but thank you all so so SOOO much XD

I'm glad you've found someone you can be happy with, Kokono. Seems your mother likes him as well, haha. Like all the other comments here: keep it discreet and be patient for anything serious. Otherwise, good luck out there.

Your mom sounds like fun haha anyway, you need to keep the relationship secret. You might get in big trouble, but Mr. Teacher will get the worst of it - if it is ever found out. So in order to stop him from hugging you on public places, don't do that in private. So he won't be tempted.
I'm happy for you two, but please don't break our hearts and get yourself into trouble.
The best way is to keep it slowly until you graduate. And then you should take the small steps. Because, after you graduate, and take the relationship too fast people will figure out you have a history together. That's why you need to take the small steps after graduating. And at least after minimum half a year start to date officially. But that's far in the future.
Don't forget: as long as he is your teacher you two might get into trouble. Just wait until graduation. Is not that far as it looks and time will go faster than you think. But at the end of it you two will be happy.
Take care and good luck!

When you turn 20 you can date him ^o^ If you truly love him you need to wait until the right time for your relationship. But Stay close to him to keep the relationship strong until then!

If you really do like him, I'd say wait it out. Dating an ex-teacher does not look 1/8th as bad as dating a current teacher. Not just saying you should do what looks good, though, don't get me wrong. His job can also be in jeopardy because of the rules they have. Honestly, you can hang out with him, be friendly but personally I don't think you should go further until he is no longer your teacher. Also the age difference doesn't really matter as much when you are out of high school, in my opinion. It is awesome that you have someone you can hang out with and connect to, though. Consider yourself lucky!

I approve of this relationship ( ^w^) Mr. Teacher-Guy sounds pretty respectable, but you should keep your relationship in secret until you are 18. 6 years isn't that big of a difference, but be careful, okay? PS you guys sound so cute together ^o^ Good luck!

awww this is so cute :3 I really hope you can date him

ok holy shit um here goes something. your story sounds really romantic actually you also sound smarter than most teens your age and I hope you are because your playing with fire. im gonna be blunt. talking ok. kissing at 15 no (17 is another thing ;)). sex hell no (even at 17). one he can be arrested second you could get pregnant one time is all it takes. I cant tell you what you should do its your life live it the way you want just be careful. and make sure he's not like the pedo teacher from durarara if he is kick his ass.

kyaaahhh............so sweet and romantic.........just like some One shot Shoujo Manga........>_<......I will root for the both of you.......XD

Okay, I know this thread is old, but I read this a long time ago. And now..I'm curious as to what happened to this relationship. Are you and Mr.Teacher okay? Has anyone found out?
Just curious..

I remember this! I love this story, it's so sweet! I too wonder how they're both doing.

i support your relationship 100% as long as you 2 love each other you have my blessings and i hope things go well for you

I don't usually say things like this but that....
....was so kawaii........

Yeah.. This is total bullshit.
I'm honestly surprised so many people fell for this.
Seriously, guys?

I think you should wait some time and when you turn eighteen you guys can date.

I think you should wait some time and when you turn eighteen you guys can date.

I think you should wait some time and when you turn eighteen you guys can date.

I think you should wait some time and when you turn eighteen you guys can date.

I think you should wait some time and when you turn eighteen you guys can date.

talk to him.. let him know u like him and ask him for his feelings.. then no matter how hard it is tell him u have to wait.. for his sakes and urs.. bc of y'all age he can get in big trouble, lose his job and won't be able to teach again, and u be even more picked on ( seen it happen with another kid like this)… tell him if he really loves u then he would wait till u graduate or turn 18.. and keep it under wraps.. don't tell any friends bc no doubt one will say something to someone.. just take things slow.. u can still see each other after school . just watch what u do.. if teahcers find out ur going to his house it doesn't matter if ur getting tutoring.. they won't allow it.

i mean… if y'all really have feelings for each other, then u would want whats best for the other.. think of the other persons situations even if they don't realize it…

>>1 I don't know when you are a girl or boy. But I know i am too 16 years old that many peoples are changing at this age they become adult and other things like menthality and thinking change.

She is at the moment your type, but do you want that he risk his job for you, could you accept that you have debt than or not think about that. I believe that you are truly loving eachother ,who know he could play too with you, but still when two people loves each other it's not the age or the apperance which are important, but what your heart is saying.

So instead of hearing to your parents, friends and so more hear what you heart is saying and you will find the right answer.

I wish you good luck and a great future.

Hakaron.

Guys, this thread is a year old.

There's no need to comment here with advice at this point unless the OP comes back sometime soon to ask for more.