I need advice...and I need it badly. My boyfriend and I have been dating for half a year now...and we have gotten to the point where we can talk about pretty much anything. I am going to be a senior this year...but, the problem is that he might not be. I cant help but feel like I have aided in him failing this year...as a distraction, you know? He insists that I have nothing to do with his failure...but i'm not so sure.

I tell him all the time that I want him to do well...i want us to dance at our senior prom together, I want us to talk about life after high school, I want us to enjoy next year as our last. But he is in real danger of not graduating on time, and I don't know what I should do. I want us to enjoy this together...and im scared for him and his future, because I know he doesn't care as much as I do. He has a history of depression, like me, but kind of in a sense where he feels that he doesnt care as much about consequences and such...

All I want to do is give him that push, so that he can just get that far. I'm afraid he won't accept my help. He is the type that takes full responsibility for his actions, and doesn't like receiving help. But he is also too relaxed and ends up making awful mistakes...

I dont know if im worrying too much or what...it's just I love him very much and I want the best for him, even if he doesn't want the best for himself. He says he cares about me, and hates letting people down.
I want to tell him that he is making me worry very much, and that I cant stand to sit here and act like I dont see him falling from under his own two feet. But I don't know how to tell him that he is worrying me, and that I would like to help as much as I can so that he can be happy in the long run as well. I was thinking I should say something like "if you really care about me, you will try and do better...if not to make you happy, it's to make me happy..." but is that too harsh? I just don't know what to do, and I need advice. When I tell him I love him, I mean it, and I want to show him...i just dont know how to let him know how I feel.

Thanks for reading this lengthy story...i just don't know what to do anymore. Btw, I hope I posted in the right catagory...

Why dont you help him study? It's the best way. He'd be annoyed if you worry that much. Just help him study.

He says he doesn't like letting people down so you could tell him not to let himself down. Do as Arya (>>2) suggested and offer to help him study but also not to let himself down because his life is just as important.

>>2 That's why I haven't expressed my worry too much...after a while I let the conversations go because they were getting nowhere. I guess I could help him study, but I don't know if he'd want that...

And plus, I just thought of this...if I graduate without him and he has to do an extra year, who in the world is going to help him if I'm too far away in college to help him?!

Hiroki-san -
You sound like you really care for your boyfriend, and that is very heartwarming to see. I suggest that you have a chat with him. Ask him if he has any ambitions for his future, if he does, you can help him study towards these ambitions. If not, maybe just arrange study dates with him! One good way to get to know people is to see how they work and how they work together with others, I'm sure you'll learn a lot about your boyfriend too if you guys study together :)

>>6 That there is good advice.
Hiroki, it's lovely to hear how much you care about him. Explain your worries to him - communication is pretty much the best thing in this kind of situation.
Tell him how important this is to you, and I'm sure he'll understand. But, like Arya said, don't make it sound like it's an end-of-the-world kind of deal. Just do your best to work together and achieve that goal.
I wish you both the best of luck, and sorry this probably isn't super helpful but I'm sure you'll be fine :)