Hi this thread isn't for me, but for a friend ..... Lets call her ivy for now, anyways she has some depression and suicidal tendencies. I know how to handle her and keep her happy but we are going to different schools this next year with another friend of ours called Claire but she and Claire had been inseparable for years before ivy and I were friends only this year Claire hasn't been hanging around ivy at all this year because she just wants to hang around the guys in our class because she doesn't find ivy interesting any more, Claire has some problems with her parents because her dad is certifiably (sorry if i spelled that wrong) insane and is now homeless and living in Alaska but she still loves him a lot even more than her mom who is taking care of her and she also used to be rich when her father would make wine but now that her mom and dad are divorced her mom is in deep debt so they have a lot of loans, this makes her question who she is because she always got what she wanted when she was little but now her family cant even pay for the school that we all went to so she is used to her being the most important person and never having to sacrifice anything so if she wants to hang out with the guys then she will and leave no time for ivy. (sorry i think i just broke the record of longest run-on-sentence please forgive me) also Claire is kind of a show off but she is really not that good at the things she shows off at. Claire also really wants to have a boyfriend so she has liked a lot of guys this year but none of them have liked her back. she has liked Timothy, Jake, and Diego. Timothy didn't ever know, Jake liked someone else, and when Diego found out he ran away screaming (poor Claire). anyways ivy was adopted form china when she was an infant and knows nothing about her family. when she was younger a boy kissed her without her consent and kids would bully her going as far as to take advantage of her kindness to convince her to give them all of her food until she was so skinny her adopted mom could see her ribs so her adopted mom had to force feed her. when ivy was younger she was adequately social but then she transferred to my school the same year as i did and she was in the fourth grade with Claire and another girl : Lacey. After awhile Claire became not as shy and ivy became antisocial (read, Claire kinda took her confidence from her). ivy liked this boy who was a good friend of her's called smith and he liked her too but when they finally both admitted that they liked each other ivy chose to not tell him she liked him because she thought that he liked a friend of her's called Elizabeth. Anyways she then had a relationship with a boy named josh, she broke up with him because he asked her what age a person should be to start dating so she freaked. Anyways when he came back to our school she was extremely scared that he was going to hurt her. Anyways then the liked Timothy who she broke up with after he slapped her (though he really is a good friend,the slap was an accident) after that she liked Jake who liked her back but she was worried that Timothy wouldn’t still want to be her friend if she told him she was Jake’s girlfriend after two days of breaking up with timothy. So the only people that knew was Ivy, Jake, and I. Another problem that Ivy has is that she hates her family though they never have really been bad to her in any way. She is just to overly sensitive and will threaten to kill herself over her sister telling her to try harder in running. She is cutting herself less and less but I’m still trying to get her to completely stop. Also last year ivy got a tumor in her brain that causes her to not be able to read that well so her school work isn't that great.
Okay now that that is done does anyone have any suggestions of what I should tell her to stop cutting and any advice on what to do about Jake because he is trying to move way to fast and ivy doesn't have the confidence to say no. oh by the way I deeply apologize for my horrible grammar, punctuation, and spelling. Thanks for listening (or reading) sorry if I bored you

So to clarify, the initial problem is to help your friend Ivy with her cutting issues, and suicidal tendencies, as well as boost her confidence enough to stick up for what she wants in this relationship she is in.
For the cutting issue, just remind her that it is very very unhealthy to cut, and that i doesn't help her issue, it only makes it worse ( as seen, she still has suicidal thoughts, so the cutting truly doesn't help her get past the depression.)Help her find a new outlet for her emotions. Perhaps offer her your time and attention, when it comes to listening to all of her problems, and telling her you care for her.
For the suicidal thoughts, you can actually go to the suicide hotline thread here on personal for advice. Tell her that she is important to many people, and that killing herself would stop the chances of life getting better. Tell her how much you'd miss her if she was gone, and that the world isn't that bad. And show her how much of life is worth living. (10 reasons to live: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N2Q5cIq08bA) this video could help her :).
For self confidence, and strength to stick up for herself, remind her that her needs are just as important as everyone Else's, and that she is an amazing friend who should know that she can do anything if she tries.

I hope this advice helps you out and i wish best of luck to you and your friend Ivy :) ( i'll bump the suicide hotline so you can see it.)

i have exactly the same problem as your friend. i'm on pills, i have to see shrinks, i hate the world and i fear the human race above all else, if you can find help for your friend, please tell me, if 'm not beyond repair already, how to fix myself!

>>3 No one is beyond repair. Anything can be solved, just sometimes people don't know exactly what to do at the moment. Bur there's always hope.

>>4 I freaking love your reply, I want to put that on a plaque. Permission to spread your fantastic quote?

Whoa, wall of text. Hard to read all of that, someone have a tl;dr version?

>>2 thank you so much for you advice It is almost a literal life saver
>>3 I'm sure that ivy will get better once she learns what an amazing person she is I'm also sure that anyone can get better just remember... The world isn't as bad as it seems.
>>6 I'm sorry I just suck at any form of writing if you want me to I can post up it broken into chunks but will that annoy people, it being so long for a reply
>>4 hey can I tell ivy that quote it might really help her

>>7 some "," and hitting enter after a period will help you with that, just saying.

>>5 f you really wanna use my quote lol go ahead and use it.
>>7 'm also glad i could be help. But also thank Magnolia for starting the suicide hotline thread. its what helped me find some info. Anyways i hope it all works out. And if anything changes or you need more help then keep us updated :)