OK,so here's the story;
When I was still 11,my mother left home and went far away,in an island,because of her job...She really couldn't do otherwise.I stayed here,because in the island that my mum went,there was nothing;no big hospitals,only one school that combined both highschool and elementary school and only 5000 residents...As days went by,my dad and I stopped talking about anything and I got really distant from him and lonely...The first two years passed by easily but the other two were HELL.I missed my mother very much and,since my father and I don't have a really good relationship,I started feeling all alone and got depression.I don't cut,however and I never will.So,you can guess that everything about me looks pretty damn normal on first sight.I've also learned to cover up my emotions,so that I won't be a burden on my mommy(she HATES that island...She's got no people she can trust there,no family and the island is full of snakes,spiders etc. Not to mention that it's totally isolated.It's normal for her to be really fragile right now...)I really love her and I believe she's the only person who truly loves me on this planet.Anyway,my first suicide attempt happened when I realized that my father had started going out with a woman named Joane.She always texted him and talked really sweetly to him.At first,I thought they were just friends.But if they are friends,then why would she call him 'love' 'sweety' 'honey' etc. All the time?Today,I also realized they went for a swim,too,the previous Saturday!!I can't stand that situation....But I don't want to tell my mom either...She'll get sad if she finds out,because she might look like a strong person but she's really fragile deep inside...I'm afraid that if she finds out,she'll kill herself and I'll lose her,too...However,those thoughts keep crossing my mind;
What if she's got someone she goes out with too?When she came home for christmas,I saw a message from a guy on her phone that said 'My beauty,did you arrive yet?How was your trip?' My mum said that was just a friend,but I can't believe her that easily...My dad says this 'Joane' is not in a relationship with him and that it's all in my head,but it's obvious that he's lying.First of all,he either comes home late or is never home on Sundays and then there are those messages!!!I really don't know what to do anymore...What do you guys think??I'm trying to be strong,but it's not working anymore,since I break down really easily now...

You triple posted this. Please delete the other two threads before they're commented on.

I know I triple posted this!!But I can't delete the threads!!I try to,and it says;Password incorrect...

First off, delete the other two duplicates.
Secondly, I think you should hold a family meeting. You can use Skype or something with your mom, right? Let all of your concerns out about them cheating on each other.
This won't be for just you, either, but for them as well, because communication in your family seems even more worst off than mine.
During the meeting they will have to be confronted with this issue about their distant relationships (between all three of you). I would have them talk about their "friends", because you can lie to your child, but it's hard to lie to your spouse.
Your mom should seriously work closer to home. This has been going on for years? She needs to be closer. That's my advice for now. If you choose to hold a family conference, then lemme know how it went.

>>3I don't see why you cant... That's weird.

>>3 You might of logged off your computer, used another one, and then gone back onto your original account. It does that to me too sometimes.

Also, not trying to sound harsh but are you sure that Joane isn't just a affectionate person and that you are filling in the lines of only semi-existant dots? If not, depending on your age maybe it would be best to instead be tactful and not do anything until the situation improves/stabilises. Depends how urgent you feel it is to act though.

True, it could be all in your head, or it could not. Confronting it may make matters worse, or it may make it better.
If you care deeply enough about the safety of your family staying a family, and not becoming one that is completely fake with each other left and right, then your choice will be a risk you have to take.

But let me tell you something; I've heard this all before from an acquaintance of mine and how his family was just spiraling down uncontrollably literally drove him insane. I'm not kidding.
Because when you're a child, especially when you're an ONLY child, you are in the middle. And that is a very horribly uncomfortable place to be.

My advice is to tell your mom that you miss her and want her to find a job closer to home.

As for the supposedly cheating...I don't really know what to do about that. I would probably just ask simply who the person is and then bring up if they're cheating or not.

>> OP said that they've done that already (the 2nd part) and their dad said it was just a friend, which is the oldest lie in the book.

Yup it CAN all be in your head just like you said....but hey....you cant just avoid the situation....i know this is hard ive been through the exact same situation...and i thought it was all me ....my parents dont talk anymore...sooo....my saying to you is this DONT ignore this ...no maatter what you think ..dont try to die ...its the most cowardice way to do things....try and slove it youself little by little.. they may turn out to be bad or good ..who knows right??.....from what you said you love your mother very much...ignore this for too long it may turn out to get worse...think this through....the world may show you things beautiful then you cant even think bout now....
rllly...if i said something to insult you im srry hell....im only trying to help...
well i hope that when you see this your mind is a little more clear on what YOU wanna do for your family and loved ones....until next time..

>>7 i will agree with Magnolia, you should confront both of your parents for this. As difficult as it seems to do, and no matter how bad the result may be in the end, i feel that not doing something about it will end up making it worse than not doing something. I also feel that Magnolia's approach would work the best. Both of your parents need to confront their problems directly, and sooner rather than later. I know it may be hard to face, but this is my advice in the matter. I hope it all works out for you, and remember that you arn't entirely alone.

>>7 I agree with Magnolia as well. I was afraid that my mom was cheating on my dad because of conversations I'd see her have on the computer and stuff. I don't know if it was ever true. I don't think it was, but I'm always left with this nagging feeling because I never went and asked. I was too afraid to get involved. At the very, very least, you deserve to know the truth. Something like what 7 suggested just might be what you need.

I feel sorry for you and your family, having all these problems. I don't want you to suffer anymore. Find out whats going on and try to resolve the problem between you, your mom, and your papa. I feel for you bro.

And please don't kill yourself or anyone that you care about.

I'm sorry to hear about that. I think that you definitely shouldn't tell your mom just yet. The first thing you need to do is collect evidence. Take pictures of your dads messages he's recieving and save them, just in case your dad tries to lie about it. Then, the next time your mom comes home, show her the messages, and tell her that your dad is being unfaithful. A family intervention needs to happen.

>>17 Wow. The idea of actually gathering evidence hadn't crossed my mind. Bad, Past!Lawli, bad! Good observation, my friend. I believe having proof is a very essential factor.

>>18 Ikr? I can't believe I forgot that. Evidence is always needed when approaching hard headed parents or else they'll brush you aside and call you nothing but a child.

Want to know how OP is doing.

Yeah. Are you doing alright, OP?