1 Name: Shade !8NBuQ4l6uQ : 2013-04-13 00:30 ID:Y4bHKmli [Del]
I've always known that me and my father have been at odds for a while now, but we never said anything and we just let the other do whatever. He never seemed interested in my personal life before. Now about a month ago, he all of a sudden started caring. I spend a lot of time in my room, playing games or sitting on my laptop. And now he comes out of nowhere and tells me that I have to come out of my room for at least 2-4 hours a day or else he's gonna start restricting my computer time and gaming time. Now we just had another discussion tonight, and he said things that I knew he would. He came right out and said it. He doesn't understand why I do the things I do, and that he really does think that i'll just crash and burn, and he'll sit there and shake his head at me when I fail in an 'I told you so way'. In my opinion, all the problems we have, are a result of the differences between our generations, but even when I tried to explain that to him, he just cut me off and denied that my generation is any different than his and is still bound by the same way of life. He also sees my generation as being utterly lazy. Basically nothing good. He basically wants my life to be exactly like his. Working dead end jobs from 5am - 7pm, just to put food on the table, pay the bills, and support my family. The basic boring life of his generation. I don't want that, and here's where he starts to get irritated. Whenever I try to describe the life I want, he looks at me as if i'm crazy, insane. I want a job that I like, that i'll enjoy and wouldn't mind working at for the rest of my life. A job that has short hours, so that I still have plenty of time left for my other personal pursuits. A job that will pay me enough to put food on the table and support my family, but again, that will also allow me to have more free time. Not that I come home from work and go straight to bed. And again, he just looks at me as if I got hit in the head with a baseball bat or something. He sees things only one way, he can't see any other way. He calls all my dreams pipe-dreams, tells me to get my head out of the clouds and face reality, to quit dreaming. It frustrates me to no end, because I can't talk to him about anything. He always thinks he's right and can never be wrong. If he realizes he's losing an argument, he changes the subject and refuses to revisit it. I really want to just sit down and have a nice long talk with him and try to make him understand me, but i'm afraid he won't listen and will just continue his tirade. Does anyone know what I can do to solve my problem. I realize its a lot, its a wall of text, but please, anything. I just can't take much more of this bullshit. I'm gonna snap soon and its not gonna be pretty if this issue can't be solved.
2 Name: Xyphnos : 2013-04-13 10:23 ID:6LseGj8c [Del]
This is what I would do.
If he does not listen to what you wish from your life then you don't have to listen what he wishes from your life. Well its not like you had to listen what he wishes even if he would listen to you since it is your life, not his. If you cant have a conversation with him then you don't even try to settle things with an conversation, you tell him what you will do and that's final no matter what he thinks.
He either understands you or he doesn't, either way you decide what you will do since it is your life.
I hope this helps.
