I have been homeschooled all through elementary. Dating and stuff was just on tv and was never thought through to myself. (I did have crushes, but I never considered dating a thing. More like getting married when you were 20.) Then I had to start public school (due to family problems.) My parents made it clear that dating was off limits. Of course I didn't care. The first day me and a guy were talking, joking, and teasing. I thought that I might make a friend. At the end of the day he asked me out, I kindly rejected and left. The following days he bullied me for my choice. I would come home in tears about it. Soon I told my teacher and it was over with, but other boys had asked me out and I would kindly reject them as well. In 7th and 8th grade I had horrible acne. No boy would even look at me. I didn't care until I started 8th grade. Now I am in 9th grade, my acne is gone (well, not completely) and I have to say I am looking better than before. A few guys asked me out, but after making new friends the word came around that I never kissed, dated, or even really flirted with a guy. One guy who I just met this year was completely shocked! He said, "How could a pretty girl like you never date someone??" People had two responses. Either I was a lesbian or I was just plain weird. I am not allowed to date still, but I have HUGE crushes on some guys. How I am supposed to live with this????

Life isn't about dating.
Quit worrying so much about stupid shit.

Don't listen to>>2. It must be hard to NEVER date. Especially when friends are doing it. I say just try you best to live life the best you can. If you have a crush, try to become his friend! :)

Friends are more important and will stay longer! >>3 If anything become their friend

I didn't date anyone until the day before graduation my sophomore year. One of my rather attractive and fairly popular friends has still never been on a date, she's a senior. I know plenty of people who don't date and I know plenty of people who wish they hadn't dated so early. Most of the people I do know that dated in their middle school and high school days jump from boyfriend to boyfriend (or girlfriend) without seeming to feel much of anything.

My point is, there's no reason to rush things. If you don't want to date, then don't. If your parents don't want you to date and you don't feel some great urge to go out with someone, don't. Honestly, I think as a freshman you should be more focused on friends and school than on boys. You don't need that kind of drama in your life as a freshman (and trust me, boys tend to come with A LOT of drama).

If you really like a guy and he seems to like you back, you can try talking to your parents about it. Make sure you present yourself as mature and don't whine if they turn you down. Accept the decision and try to show them over the next week or so that you are as responsible and mature as you want them to think you are. If you think you're succeeding in that time, then try talking to them about it again.

tl;dr Don't worry about it, it's more normal than you think.

From What I grasp from the brief speed-read I gave your post (sorry kinda in a hurry), you are being pulled in two directions from two outside sources.

1) Your parents not wanting you to date, forbidding such a relation.

2) All the hormonal guys that want to date you.

Both these parties are taking things to an extreme for one reason or another.
I doubt many of these boys know you so well, or care about you so strongly as an individual, to warrant dating. They are just looking to date for the sake of dating, like most kids. Though some might be an exception.
Your parents have good intentions, but are taking things too far. If they hold you back this much, you may grow up emotionally stunted. Or you will rebel. If you rebel it will be way worse than simply dating some guy, and I doubt your parents intend to cause you to be emotionally immature for your age.

The only thing I suggest, is follow your heart. You know you better than anyone. Don't live in fear of your parents rule, and don't do something you aren't comfortable with, just to fit in with some idiotic children playing at being 'grown-ups'.

There is no need to worry much about dating at your age. But you needn't avoid it like a plague, lest you develop a psychological aversion to the concept.
Focus on making friends, if there is someone you care about more than that, then take the steps YOU deem appropriate.
and one more thing, don't let some smooth talking punk use you for your body, because that is the key reason your parents are taking this anti-dating stand, and for good reason might I add.


In short, play things at your pace, but lean more towards the side of caution, rather than exploration.

Life isn't just about dating, you know. I'm a sophomore myself, and I know quite a few people who have never dated by choice. Sure, they've had opportunities, but they never took the chance due to personal reasons. Most of them just didn't really want to deal with it.

People can make it seem all glamorous, but dating is more of a hassle in high school than it is a good thing. You'll get distracted easily, and it can lead to drama. I know there are probably lots of happy couples, but trust me, unhappy couples are more common.

It'd be best just to find someone that you like who understands your situation: You'd like to date them, but your parents disapprove of it. I feel like an old man, telling you to focus on school, but honestly, if you're UNABLE to date, just ignore the aspect of it all together. It's not a big deal.

>>1 It just seems like all those guys wanna stick their weewee in you, and at times you want to just let them.

Thank you >>7>>6>>5>>5>>4>>3! You were all really helpful!

Either renegotiate the rules with your parents or come to terms with the fact that you'll just have to wait till college to get dates.