So here's the problem. I met this guy (let's call him A). I was introduces by some of my friends. I found him really annoying, and full of himself, but I was nice to him and hung around him a bit. He considered me a good friend. Then he tried to talk to me on facebook. I am not a big fan of talking to people on facebook when this person has nothing important to tell me. So, I would say things like "I have to go." or "My mom needs me." One time I did tell him my view on dating. I made it clear to him that wasn't interested in dating because I have way too much on my mind. I told him that if anyone tried to flirt with me or confessed to me it would only hurt me even more. He told me he understood. Over the weeks he kept getting clingy. He would complain about things that were pretty stupid in my eyes, but acted like I cared and listened any ways. One day he messeged me about valentines day. he said that he was putting together a valentines gift for a friend and needed my help. So I gave him a few pointers. On valentines day I found him waiting at my locker. (Our lockers don't have locks) I opened my locker to find a huge bag of my favorite candy, a stuffed teddy bear, and a love letter. It pretty much said, "You are the love of my life. You understand me and I understand you. You are really pretty and nice." (there was more but I can't remember) then he got down on one knee and said, "will you be my valentine?" I was pissed! I told him as long it was for friends. Sad, he agreed. Now he just keeps getting clingyer and clingyer. It's driving me mad!!! He know how I feel about this! HELP!!!

Well, I will say I think it was kind of sweet of him to do that. The least you can do is say "Thank you, but like I said before I do not want to date or anything right now." I do share your views on dating; I don't want to date right now because all it does is cause drama and more stress on me personally. But I do have to say it's kind of your fault. You are the one who acted like you liked him and lead him on, even if you didn't mean to. Just act like yourself and if you find someone annoying, like "A", just don't talk to them or tell them so.

>>2 I'd say that's agreeable! Thanks!

I disagree with >>2 in a way. It seems that you were only giving him your friendship. You didn't lead him on! It seems to me that you were just trying to be nice. I say that you try your best to avoid him. I bet that he will soon forget about you if you avoid him.

>>4 I think avoiding him would be rude though. She should just be honest and say she doesn't like him hanging around her :/

I agree with HAM, but if that doesn't work I am afraid you are going to have to get mean. If you can't do it personally, find someone you know who doesn't like the guy and have him do it for you, but tell them not to be too mean have them be like " LOOK DUDE, SHE DON'T LIKE YOU OKAY, SHE DON'T WANNA DATE SO LEAVE HER ALONE" sometimes the truth hurts... I have been that friend many times, but often it happens for the better of my friends dating/personal life...that person usually gets over them, and its all good.

life is too difficult, let the world crush him he'll become a stronger man or perish, that is a true, best of luck Chi

There is a difference between getting the point across and crushing him all together. It really depends on what you want him to do. If you want him to leave you alone completely, simply say you need some space for a few weeks. If that doesnt work, say you feel uncomfortable around him and would rather not see him for personal reasons. Dont just start cursing and screeming at him for no reason because that could cause him to get defencive and look for a way to get back at you. If you simply want to say friends, remind him of why you dont want to date anyone and tell him what he did made you kinda mad because he didnt listen to and respect that. The last thing you want is to piss him off to the point where he looks for revenge.

>>7 >>8 Look at the date. This thread is dead, please don't bump old threads.