A guy confessed to me and i said sorry but i dont know you.
After that he kept watchong me, he didnt stalk but whenever I walked past by him I could feel his eyes on me. He asked me about myself etc.

A few months later he asked me out again and i said no. After that he started to text me messages. At first he texted me in the name of my friend and asked a lot of personal questions. I answered them since I thought it was my friend. But one day he texted me and said;

"Im sosorry but im the guy who likes you. I love you so much that I started to lose my mind, so sorry for using your friends name to text you. Im so sorry, please forgive me..."

I was a bit mad but i texted;

"Dont worry, im a shy person too so i understand you. I dont mind."

After that we texted each other a lot. He was a funny guy but i still couldnt bring myself ti like him.

He started to text me I love you messages and asked if he bothered me. I said no you dont and he was so happy.

But he started to annoy me soon after I texted him you dont bother me.

One day he asked;

"Even if it is a lie, can you please text me that you love me?"
"I will tell at school."
"Its fine if you only text dont push yourself."
"No i will say at school."
"Thank you so much!"

The next day at school I forgot to say so after class he said hi and i remembered to say it and I said it. He blushed abd thanked me a lot I said no problem.

He was annoying me so much so i stopped answering his texts and calls. My life was ruined because of him. Everyone knew he liked me so the guys said say yes to him girl etc.

He was being bullied too just because he liked me but i couldnt do anything because I had someone else I liked.

He asked me out again and I said no again. When I said I have somwone else I like he cut his wrists.

Before that he wrote my name into the same spot and he said that he gave up on me so suddenly. He cursed me and called me a bitch and a liar. He ruined my life and cursed to me!
What should I do? I just wanna commit a suicide and end my fucked up life!

Something a person considers sweet may be creepy to others. That person may be socially deficit and is not aware that he is acting creepy already.

If you really just cant get to like him. Give him a proper rejection and make sure that he understands it. Judging from the info you said, I dont think it is good to leave him hanging by just ignoring him.

Wow.. that is quite creepy in my opinion...
I think you should tell him you don't like him the way he does, otherwise he might keep doing these things...

I agree with Suki. If he keeps on doing things like that, tell him to stop and please act normal, if you know what I mean. Even if everythings ok, you should still be cautious. Well, that's only my opinion. Hope everything goes well for you!

Thank you guys but I said no and asked him to stop being creepy but he keeps doing those things!
I even said I will call the police but he doesnt care! I even talked to his parents!!

Just because of him the guy I love avoids me since they are good friends!!!
Help me please!

Really?! If he's like that, you're in serious trouble! The only thing I could think of is shut all connections to him. But Im not sure if thats the right choice. If not then try to get your friends and his friends to stop him. Tell him that its not fair trying to make you love him! Its your life and he cant control it! If he gets waay overboard, tell it to the police right away without and hesitation. At least, that's what I would do. Good luck!

>>7
You are strange...

>>6

He is not actually a bad guy and he is cute, im ugly. He is a very good guy so im sure that he only wants love from me not beyond that. It has been 3 years so if he wanted to be creepier than this he would have done it earlier.

He is a nice guy but he doesnt know what no means...

Really, someone help me...

You may hate to do this but I'd tell a school counselor, he'll get help and they should get him to leave you alone. If desperate times come to desperate measures maybe contacting his parents and police he may be a nice guy but what he's doing is not healthy for you or him

he may be just a freind now, but this relationship is dangerause and unhealthy. people like him MAY become more attached, or obsessed when accepted. if you realy belive that he is JUST a friend, then thats ok.

He is already obssesed with me.

Actually when he is not around it feels weird...

Ive already talked to his parents and he says;

"Please go out with me just for only 1 day!! After that I promise, I swear that I wont make you mad! Please!!"

Should I say ye an get rid of him? He NEVER broke a promise befor and this is the first time he used the word swear...

What should I do??!

Well, from what i've read, he is obsessed in his own creepy way. He has already harmed himself and may be harmful to you depending on how obsessed he is. This may be his way of getting revenge or his last act of desperation to scare you into "loving" him. The first thing i would say you need to do is admit to yourself that he could very well be crazy and what you thought you knew about him could be wrong. "He's a very good guy"... he has forced you to the point where you have confessed suicidal thoughts on the internet(i am assuming that those are real and not an over reaction). "He cursed me and called me a bitch and a liar. He ruined my life and cursed to
me!" This does not sound very nice. The fact is(if he is as crazy as you are making him out to be) he will manipulate people in any way possible to get what he wants. Going off the idea that he is as crazy as you put him out to be, the only reasonable way to deal with this is to show him you will not give in. If he confronts you, stand your ground and dont be afraid to talk back to him. Call hin obsessed and crazy. If it gets worse, go to a higher power like a teacher or the police if needed. By the way, your chances with his friend are probably slim to none.

>>11 I wouldnt go out with him. It would only feed the flame. The more you give in the more he will see how easily he can manipulate you. I highly doubt he will leave you alone after that one date. If you feel you can trust his word, by all means go on one date, but from what i got from what you wrote, the chances he will keep that promise are slim to none.

I'd go with what >>12 and >>13 said. He doesn't seem nice he seems messed up in the head and if he was really ruining your life as much as you said in the OP then there's no reason to be calling him "nice."

>>11 Do not go out with him, just don't. this guy seems like a total stalker so he wont be keeping his promise. It will be maximum of few weeks but after that he will be probably be back and since he is really obsessed with you I would say that after those few weeks it will be worse than before. I think that informing someone like teacher or police wouldn't be a bad idea since he already has gotten you to think suicidal thoughts and cut himself you have more than enough reason to inform someone.

Here's something I experienced. I used to like this one girl from earth science. Real nice and real cute. Turns out she has a crush on me and I went along with dating her. I found out she's been frequently visiting my Myspace page (stopped using it) too many times to check who I've been adding and communicating, but forbidded me from visiting hers. In two weeks it escalated into conflicts which resulted to our split. My ex came around some days later and attempted to patched things up, but I'm aware this girl has insecurities and told her no. What she do next? Spread rumors about me online and offline that I made advances on her. Thus the need to report her came when she egged my car during the weekend, shown up in public places as if she'd followed me, sending text messages that she would self harm herself if I don't take her back, and then I had enough. If the person truly cares for you, they shouldn't be behaving like that. I stay away and if things get worse, report to whoever can help you. A teacher, counselor, police, etc.

Strange. I'm agreeing with all the other people. It seems like you have reached a point where he manipulated you into making you saying him he is nice. It's just creepy! I wouldn't trust him any longer

Thank you all and >>12 , you are so great...

I mean, you understood a lot of things which I couldnt tell with my poor English (Im from Turkey so...)

I didnt make things look bigger or crazier, that was what exactly happened.

>>17 Yes, I too think that he is creepy enough to make me call him nice...

Whenever i am with a friend ( guy or girl doesnt matter) I feel his glares on my friends.

Yesterday I shouted Leave me alone to his face and he got so sad.

"I... I am so sorry... I know I am so selfish, I dont even have a brain that can guess how you feel..."

He ran away and a few hours later his friends called me and asked me why he was crying. The guy I like, his best friend told me

"He loves you so much that you cant even guess for 3 years! You know what? You are a total Bitch! If you have dated him for only one day, he would leave you! He cares for you and every day he tells me how he loves you. Now he is at the point of commiting a suicide!! You! I hate you! You know what? He is crying since you shouted at him! 3 hours non stop! Just say yes and leave it! You wont see him anymore cause he is koving to Canada a few weeks later!"

Really, everything is so messed up...
I want to call him and talk to him normally but he is always like I love you so it is impossible for me to have a normal conversation with him...

The guy I like shouted at me... Great... My life is totally f*cked up now...

>>18 Tell that guy you like what his friend has been doing to you. If a guy said he'd commit suicide if I didn't date him I would be turned off right away, he has mental issues and that's no way to ask a woman out. Of course he'd be mad if his friend was crying for awhile over some girl, but he has to understand you can't force someone to date someone they don't like. Even if just for a day. Personally I wouldn't want to be left alone with that dude.

May I just say that I am so sorry that it came that far.Honestly, I think that he is pretty selfish for acting the way he has! Don't end your life however! I say that you tell him that your aren't interested kindly, but firm. Also, I suggest that you let him know that you don't want him to harm himself. Say something like, "I am sorry, but I don't like you the way you like me. Please though, don't harm yourself. You are a funny guy and I am sure that another girl would be crazy for you. That girl just isn't me." I am very hapyy for you though that you stuck to your no! You are quite strong to do so. I remember some guy wanted to date me and I said no. He began to bully me for it. It didn't get as bad as where you are though. Stay strong and talk to a group of friends about it.

That guy is really in to you,but he must face it that. You must have the courage to tell him that he's annoying to you. Have the courage and strength to tell him that. I support you! ^_^

I'm with >>19 and >>20. Seriously, his friend that said that to you, DOESN'T UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU'VE BEEN THROUGH! So don't put yourself down! Let that jerk know, that I've suffered a lot through the things he put me through! Sure, its reasonable to just date him just once and he'll leave you. But are you sure? Like, will he really leave you? And plus, he's a bastard who only cares his friend, and doesn't know what you've been put through. And, tell him that he can't force your life.

Sorry, I just hate that bastard so much. Sorry. Anyway, back to the guy who love you. Tell him, that "I'm sorry, I really am. But I'm not the girl that you're looking for. I bet there is another girl for you, but not me, out in Canada. So please, don't hurt yourself." You can hug him if you want though, depends. Once everything's over, tell his best friend, the guy you like, everything. Tell him how much you've suffered through, and tell him about apologizing to him. But............... Do you still like him, even after all those things he said to you?

>>18 like i said before. Dating him will only feed his obsession. It seems like the "stand up for youself and yell back" idea failed. My next idea would be pretend to have an emotional break down and show him the pain he is causing you. He will either laugh in your face because he has no empathy at all, stay away from you because he is causing you harm, or try to comfort you. If he laughs in your face, go back to "stand up for yourself" and say he started it. If he stays away because he sees the pain he is causing you, you have just out smarted an insane person, congrads. If he attempts to confort you, continue to play the defenceless hurt person and make it clear to him he is the one hurting you. Once he gets the message that he is truely hurting you i think he will stop. That is not a perfect plan though. The best plan is to go to someone who can help him like a phycologist, the police or someone else like that. He will be forced to leave you alone and will be given help. As for the guy you like, you need to convince him you are being tormented by his friend.

>>23 I really like this idea! If you have a break down, it will prove the pain he has caused!

You have to realize that what you did was wrong.

I'm not implying that both of you were right or wrong but the situation is getting too out-of-hand. From his perspective, he probably saw that you basically led him on and now that you rejected him, he feels as if he's being played.
His friends can't make you do anything that you don't want to and really, you're not the one at fault.
He couldn't accept the reality of rejection.

The best you can do is to do as >>23 said. But be careful. Seeing as what kind of person you are through these posts, you would probably weaken your stance if he starts to cry as well.

All I can say now is good luck.

I did what you suggested;


THANK YOU SO MUCH!! ^O^

I tild him everything and he was about to cry so I held his hand and said

"Look,. I'm not the girl that deserves your love this much. I believe that, that girl is in Canada. Live your life! Lighten up emo kid!! You are a funny guy and I think that we will be friends."

And thus he agreed. He is leaving for Canada tomarrow. We are friends now ^^

And for his best friend;

We are dating ^°^

" Actually the truth is I hav always loved you. I was kind of scared to lose my childhood friend... And I really am sorry for shouting at you that time. I cant stand it when I see a person cry. I care or I hate, I get upset and angry no matter who they are..."

A great news for that guy;

One of my friends loves him and the good think for her is... She lives in Canada!! :D


Thank you so much Dollars, thank you so much for the people who read this thread and helped me...

If it werent you, I wouldnt have the courage to face him! Thank you so much for all of your supports :)

>>27 Are you serious??? That's amazing! Go you!! :D

Wooh! I'm so happy for you!! Have fun! ^_^

>>27 Not exactly what i would have said and done but as long as he moves as far away as possible without screwing up your life, i guess it worked out. Plus you destroyed the odds and are dating the friend. As long as the lunitic doesnt come back and take the "i dont deserve your love" part as lack of selfconfidence and try to say otherwhise you should be good. I wish you the best of luck. 2A

Glad to know it all worked out for you.