>>14 For the 183956th time, I'm not asking them to not live. It is entirely their choice. It is
their position to either accept a short while of pain while they wait for life to get better or kill themselves and let those who care about them suffer for the rest of their lives.
It's also a matter of time. Life will always get better. It may take time, but it will eventually. Then it will go bad, and then good, and them bad, repeat, repeat worse, repeat better, et cetera. Everybody goes through this. We all have and/or all will go through times where we feel like a bullet through our heart or our skulls cracked on the concrete could save us from whatever we're going through. But does everybody commit suicide? No, because they give life a chance to get better. Sometimes, life is just too hard, and I respect their choice to kill themselves and get it all over with. It's their body, and they can do what they want with it. But I still feel they're not entirely right and that those who keep living are strongest.
Some memories can't be erased, but you can grow from them and learn from them. When you kill yourself, you give up "time" and the chance for things to get better for you and your family. Meanwhile, the memory and fact of your loved one killing themselves can't go away, and it and much talk is sparked every time it is brought up.
"To me, when someone calls a suicidal person selfish, its like calling a single mother a slut."
Suicide is selfish, a slut is a sleaze, a single mother is a woman who had an asshole boyfriend. Being a single mother has nothing to do with being a slut; all it means is that you were in a relationship with someone, got pregnant, didn't want an abortion, and your boyfriend left you because he's an idiot who doesn't want to take responsibility for his actions. Only really religious people and women who are insecure about their marriages think that single mothers are sluts, because a slut has an entirely different definition. There is nearly no argument outside of religion that can honestly call every single mother a slut.
But suicidal people all share the same last actions; even if their lives had circumstances, they end up at the same place, while single mothers are entirely different depending on their circumstances and rarely end up in the same boat. You may not have been selfish about a single other thing in your life, but that doesn't change that your final action was :I You could have been the sweetest person on Earth, but choosing yourself over several other people is selfish.
If you intend to keep using the, 'Making them cry so you won't have to deal with what comes after they die' argument, then let's put it in a broader perspective: if someone commits suicide, one person is escaping from pain and putting many others in pain. If they don't commit suicide, one person is in pain for a while before it best better and the others are not in that pain. Thinking realistically, the proper, moralistic decision would be to have one person be in pain for a little while. It's the same as the train track question: A train is coming full speed, and you're in a magical position where you can change the track its on. A group of people are on the left track, which its headed towards, and one person is on the other track. Do you change the destination to the track with the one person so less people are killed? Most people will say yes (it's a survey that was done recently). Now, let's say that you're the one stuck on the other track. Do you sacrifice yourself by changing its destination to your track so that the five or six others aren't hurt?
If you choose to not change it, then you're considered selfish, because you let the others be hurt. If you reverse that logic and apply it here, then you get the same thing - you're choose to escape from the pain while putting others in it.