ok.. Let me just say that I know my " Breaking Point" thread might be still and here and what I'm about to tell you all is a big factor in that dilemma I had. And now I have an even bigger dilemma...

When I was younger, I would always babysit my mother's cooking student. They are all usually 10 or younger. One I befriended, and I'll call her "S" for privacy. I would always go to her house and play her childish games. Her Uncle who's name shall not be mentioned would come over a lot too. I always thought he was awesome. He reminded me of my dad. He really was kind to me, but then when I was 11, he started dating my mom.

Nothing bad happened then either, until his apartment flooded and he had to stay with my mom and I for a few months. Within the first week, he tried to molest and succeeded after awhile, he was in his mid-40'1 at the time. I was just so scared and confused. Then he tried to do all sorts of things to me. One time, he tried to finger me, another time her tried to lick my " private area" Which he did neither thnk god. And I'm still a virgin, but he did some things that scarred me for life. He moved to Florida and came back when I was 12 to visit because he was still dating my mom.We were watching a movie together, the 3 of us, but as soon as she left the room for afew minutes he wanted to "wrestle" and tried to grind and dry-hump me. This is when I had enough and kicked him in the balls and and the stomach ( not bad for a 12 year-old girl; I'm proud of this little detail^^)and from then on, refused to stay in the same room with him alone. The only reason I never told anyone then, was because I thought my mom would've been sad and I'd have to move away from her. When my mom found out once he left for Florida she cried like crazy.It's about 4 years now, I'll be 16 in May and I thought she stopped dating him, but afew night's ago, I heard a conversation between HIM and my mom on my phone. They were saying they were going to be together forever.

Not only that, but HE is also "S"'s uncle and she's only in the in the 4th/5th grade now. And I can't help but feel scared for her. I see her mom at least 3 times a week to and from school and I keep thinking I should tell her about what her brother is and might be doing, but my mom's against me telling her and if I do tell her... as much as I hate my mother for this, and many other issues we have, My mother would be alone and probably arrested, and I don't want the rest of my family to know either. They'll be crying and blaming themselves, and I can't watch all of that. But, "S"'s uncle is doing this to other girls's. If he's doing it to her it would be just horrible. I'm stuck on this. How can I do this without it shaking up everything in my life?

No one should go through that and I'm so very sorry. I might be a little biased but what your mother is doing is...very selfish. She might 'love' this man but molesting children should be a deal breaker! Please, try to protect this child however you can! I think...I think you need to talk to your mother about this, even if it's embarrassing for the both of you. For the sake of the little girl's safety I think you should leave hints or straight up tell her mother. Though, if you want to be passive just keep an eye on him and make sure he's NEVER alone with his neice. You have three more years until you'll be on your own, then you can report his creepy ass. Do you know any of the other girls he has molested? Maybe you could get in touch with them and convince them to report this creepy scumbag and then technically it wouldn't be your fault...Hope I helped (though I think rambled most of the time XD) I wish you the best of luck!

So what if your mom says you shouldn't? If it's for your friend's safety, just tell her mom when yours isn't around. Tell her mom that you have something you want to talk to her about, plan a time when it's just you two, and discuss it. You're old enough that you can talk to your friend's mom privately without it being too weird. She may not take you seriously, and she may blatantly not believe you, but it's worth a try. You should also tell her that your mom told you not to say anything and ask her to keep the discussion between you, her, her husband, and her brother. (It will get to your mom in time, but that's something you'll have to deal with then.)

Tell her that neither you nor your mom are interested in reporting him to the police (yet) but want to make sure that she keeps an eye on him when he's around S, even if she doesn't believe you.

On another note, I feel like you should be a lot more loud and obnoxious about what happened. The previous suggestions were following your own preferences, but if I were you, I would be shouting to the world what happened. I would make your mother so ashamed of herself for still dating that guy that she would never be able to show her face in public without continually refuting what you say happened. I would call the cops on that motherfucker in a heartbeat; you don't need your mom to call the cops, after all, as long as the state is willing to prosecute him with your testimony (which isn't too likely, but again, I would try it). They probably wouldn't lock her up, but she would get an earful and her ass handed to her while her boyfriend gets some time.

I say that you should report him at some point, just for the sake of reporting him. If you don't want to get kicked out of your house, though, you have to wait until you're older.