Honestly, I am one who cant stand to be single. To have someone dump you after over a year of being together and then be with the person almost every day after by their choice is simply heartbreaking. Ive accepted these terms and have couped but being constantly overwhelmed with the thought finding someone else and having no one else to turn to is driving may hope down the drain. Desperate for the answer to what i must do, i find myself wandering in my mind and wondering if there could be anything i am doing wrong? Is it the depression(that i try so hard to hide) that people see on my face that drives them away? Am i reaching too far out there and not close enough to home? People say i have horrible timing, so maybe i have already missed my chance? a clue? I dont have. My heart yearns and reaching out for anyone to help, but i know that may be an easy way to another heartbreak. So everyday, i bundle up, head out if i must, and distract my volnerable self in any way i can from being taken by just any womans beauty, with a little hope that today someone might actually stop and listen to what i am really trying to say...

Okay, first off, what is even the point of this post?

>>2 This unfortunately.
>>1 I'm not entirely sure what you're saying. This seems like a random thought than a complaint or asking for help.

>1 I wanted to see if anyone wanted to shead some light or relate. >2 I want to talk to someone, theres alot to say, although im not entirely sure how to say it.

Relate to what??? No one knows what the hell you're saying.

"Desperate for the answer to what i must do, i find myself wandering in my mind and wondering if there could be anything i am doing wrong?" Cut the drama for a moment, speak more plainly, and give more detail.

People here are nice enough to immediately flood someone with answers as soon as the op posts, but they won't if 1) it doesn't belong here or 2) ur not making a lick of sense.
I suggest you delete this and create yourself a newer thread with an opening message that is more clear to what you are feeling and what you want to hear from others in that order.

>>1

Hm... Well, I understand and relate to your first sentence.

> Honestly, I am one who cant stand to be single.

I have grown to accept that I am a very dependent person, though I tend to deny this fact and separate myself from social situations and friends. Hopefully this contributed something meaningful to your obscure post.

Well, grief is a tricky thing. At times, it's healthy to feel grief, to learn that life's not going to keep you constantly on cloud nine, but it can also overwhelm and take over your entire being at times. Thing is if you end up in the latter position, it can last for days, weeks, months and so on. You need to deal with it right away, or it can weigh you down for a very long time.

All I can suggest is put yourself out there a little more, make it a statement that you're single, you might meet someone sooner than you think. As well, it can help to have a close friend you can talk to, and remember to laugh a lot. Maybe allot yourself some time everyday to do something to make you laugh, or do something you enjoy. It helps a lot!

There is one more hong you can do. It's more for your self esteem than getting in a relationship, but it could help. Post a sticky note somewhere where you can see it often. Write on the sticky note, " I am beautiful, and I accept myself right now." It won't work immediately, because your brain might be trained to think, " "oh I'm ( insert insult here )". But after about the twentieth time of looking at it everyday, it will eventually sink in, and you'll feel better about yourself. It worked for me

@Flamemaster1, thanks for the tip, ill put them to good use.

@Magnolia, i see that, ill try a new thread with a more clear question in search for more help.

@Serpent, thanks for relating its good to know that other people here have gone through this.